While I truly appreciate the “Relationship‘s”topic for Week-2 , I decided not to share the poem that I wrote and will keep to myself as it is very personal.
Also while reading the helpful prompts for this weeks challenge, I discovered that I also love to Walk & Talk and yes I’m also guilty of talking negatively to myself. I did this only last week and I want to be honest and share with you guys why. After writing my poem for Week -1 and posting it, I started doubting myself because I noticed that Graham liked just about all the comments and poems before and after mine and ignored mine. Straight away I started the negative talk to myself and a wave of self-doubt washed over me as I thought my poem was terrible. I found myself on the brink of deleting my work, convinced that the absence of a 'like' from the author meant my poem was inadequate. However, I chose not to delete it, and I’m so glad I didn’t. The beautiful comments and encouragement from fellow participants truly warmed my heart. Their support reminded me that writing is not just about gaining approval but about connection and shared experience.
It was a sobering reminder of how easily we can let external validation dictate our self-worth.
In that moment, I realized how crucial it is to believe in ourselves, to trust our creative instincts, and to remember that our value doesn't hinge on the approval of others. We must nurture our own confidence and not seek affirmation and validation from the world around us. Every piece we create is a reflection of our unique voice and experiences, and it's essential to honor that regardless of the feedback we receive. I know that at the moment I’m not the best writer as my thoughts are scattered across , I have been writing down way too many notes in my journal and my poems sometimes don’t make sense but I’m willing to work hard and hopefully by the end of this week 4 challenge , I will improve my writing skills , I’m very grateful that Graham is doing this challenge, it will help us all greatly with our writing ✍️
I thought I would share this in case anyone else feels the same way and I just wanted to add how proud I am of everyone. You are all smashing this challenge, I enjoy reading all the poems. I love this little community we have created here on Substack.🙏💜🌟
Thank you for your honesty, Irene. We all want to feel validated but you’re so right that this is about growing and doing uncomfortable things that help us go to a place maybe we haven’t been before. Every contribution is valuable, if only to ourselves. Keep writing! Keep challenging yourself to find value in the process and not just the results. ❤️
Irene, my initial response to your post is to say that I am sure it was not intentional. I am sure it was an oversight. I will say that I wish Graham would start a new thread for the submissions. It's hard to look through 300+ comments for new poems. Peace! ;-)
Irene, I don’t think he didn’t make a comment on it. I think it’s he may have missed it as it is difficult to navigate with so many comments and following what’s going on here. I feel bad because I think I’ve missed somebody along the way making a comment on their poem, but it is hard to navigate all of this so in all honesty I think you’re being too hard on yourself.He would never intentionally hurt someone by not responding.
This is so well written Irene and mirrors many of my very personal emotions, feelings and thoughts. Thank you for your honesty. My love and encouragement are with you. I love your words about unique voices and experiences and honoring ourselves. This is a special community full of wonderfully unique people. ❤️🤗
I feel much better. It is my first day back at work, this explains why I couldn’t turn on my camera on and raise my hand at the Founder’s live when Graham mentioned my comment. This is a topic that I would have loved to discuss further.
I appreciated your comment, Irene, and I hear and feel the importance of what you had to say about external validation and approval of others. I have thought a lot about what you said here. I don't disagree with you that we need to find our joy and satisfaction from our own voices and the process we engage in when we take on creative endeavors. However, I do feel that encouragement and confirmation from others can be the fuel that keeps us trying and growing and gaining courage in sharing our voices. We may not always hear what we want to hear or receive accolades when we put our creative endeavors out in the world and we can't let that deter us. Being willing to share your creative voice is a process of growth and we each have our own light that needs to spread. I know a lot of musicians, writers, and artists who don't always get the positive responses they are hoping for. So, yes, looking for affirmation from outside sources can't be the sole purpose behind our creativity. But that feedback, for good or bad, might just be the catalyst for growth and change. If you're only writing for yourself, you are the only encouragement you need. But if you are writing for a greater purpose, you have to be willing to let your work be accepted or rejected and not let it defeat you. Just my thoughts.....
So glad you didn't delete. The thing I love about everyone's contributions has little to do with them writing style or skill! For me it's getting to know each other better and to learn more about myself by seeing what others are going through and questions they are asking themselves. You are a wonderful, remarkable, giving and caring person. 🤗💕
Irene thank you for being so honest and making yourself vulnerable. I have felt the same as you many times in the past. Your poem was very good, heartfelt. I’m so glad you decided to continue your journey of writing. You are an amazing person, so supportive, and always willing to help. Blessings. 🥰
Irene, your poem was beautiful.Everything you always write is beautiful. I got mine in late and several other ones also did. And I think Graham just wasn't looking. He goes in and he looks and sometimes he doesn't go back. I know he's very busy and he doesn't have time probably to sit down and go through every bit of it,there is a lot
So I try not to let that bother me. I was pleased, also, as you said, from the reaction I got from all the people here. I am not a confident writer like you and so many of the ladies here but I wanna try.💜💜💜💜
I understand that Kathleen and my comment is not an attack to Graham in anyway . I just used that as an example as I wanted to make a point about how easy it is for us to be negative and doubt ourselves. I think I have had too much time off work as I’m still on quarantine and this is why I have been overthinking and writing so much.
Sometimes I feel like sharing my writing is like ripping of a bandage. It hurts. Other times it doesn't really hurt. I almost didn't share my poem, but growth for me right now was sharing something uncomfortable because I am learning to not shy away from sharing something. I agree that we let validation dictate what we think of ourselves.
Irene, thank you so much for posting this. I can't share my poem this week either but for many different reasons. I love the fact that you are always there for us. I hope that I can be there for you as well.
Irene, thanks for sharing. This is something I struggle with..approval from others. Putting myself out there with my poems and being vulnerable was so scary when I was working on my book. You are a wonderful writer, I enjoy reading your writings. Blessings!
Thank you, Linda, you are an amazing writer. I always enjoy reading everything that you share with us and your book has a special place in my heart. I often refer to it and read your poems :)
Irene, thank you for sharing this heartfelt reflection. The most important thing about this challenge is to test ourselves and celebrate our achievements. I think it may be a little difficult for Graham and us to read all the poems, so we may need to find another way to post them ❤
Irene please don’t ever think that your writing isn’t worthy. Because it is so worthy you write so beautifully. Your words flow so smoothly. And something else you should know as well you are the most encouraging person I know. You are an
Incredible person and we all couldn’t do the things here without you. You are a special friend supporter encourager and a beautiful soul. I just really wanted to tell you that.
I do understand your reason for not sharing, and I have experienced the same feelings. In general, I have not gotten any response from Graham on my comments. I have removed several comments that were very significant to me because of this. I realize that we have very supportive people here, so I should not allow my own negative thoughts to stop me. Thank you for being honest, Irene. You have helped me more than you know❤️
Thank you, Kathy, so much for sharing your thoughts, I just wanted to tell you that you are doing an amazing job. I always love reading everything that you have been writing and sharing :)
Dia, love this conversation with yourself, it's awesome! The last two lines are my favorite, reminds me of a recent talk I had with my younger self..it was so freeing!
This is so beautiful that I want to cry tears of joy! I struggle with letting Him take charge of my life. I try to do it all myself and I need to turn more to God.
When I first saw the topic of relationships, I didn't think about mine with myself and how that affects every other relationship. So I took Graham's advice and went for a walk in our newly fallen snow this morning. Myself and I found some clarity.
I love your description of your relationship with yourself. I find it quite interesting when I listen to my own voice whispering words of encouragement to me. Your words say safe and secure to me. Thank you. ❤️🤗
I think safe and secure comess from having faith that God sees me as a valued and precious child and I like to think His viewpoint of me should dictate how I feel about me, if that makes sense.
It definitely makes perfect sense to me and you said it well. ❤️ In the whispering conversation with myself, myself was telling me to love myself as God created me. 🙏❤️
Cathey, enjoyed reading your beautiful writing. It resonated with me, especially making the heart and mind connection, gave me a warm comfortable feeling of love.
I particularly liked, "Comparisons rob you of the energy of your soul" I was brought up in a household where there were comparisons made between me and a sibling. It serves no purpose. Nicely done Linda.
Thank you very much Dia. It is so nice having this community where we can share our thoughts and creativity. It is calming in an often crazy world. I hope you have a great rest of your week. ❤️🤗
Thank you very much Leigh. I love this challenge and the way it is pointing my writing in directions I may not normally go. I hope you have a really good weekend! Congratulations on the upcoming birth of your granddaughter. 🤗❤️🙏
Thank you very much Karen. I struggled a bit with where I wanted to go with it but I really just put my thoughts on paper as Graham suggested and it just flowed. I appreciate your words very much. I hope you have a good weekend. ❤️🤗
Thank you very much Shari. Those words reminds me of all the shining lights, the unique, creative people, like you, in this community. Enjoy the rest of your week Shari. ❤️🤗
Thank you so much Kathy. I really am enjoying this challenge, even though I struggle with how to put my thoughts on paper sometimes. I hope your weekend is a good one. It started out great last night. 👏👏. Good luck Buckeyes. ❤️🤗
This is so beautiful, Vicky. I love your heartwarming description of the guardian angels, always by your side, your right and your left. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us. I hope you have a good weekend. ❤️🤗
Graham, walking and talking with myself is something I often do when on a solo walk. Just yesterday I purposely took myself for a walk as gentle snow was falling so I could embrace the quiet surrounding me. As I was walking I “ checked” in with myself, we kicked the snow together, listened to the quiet surrounding us, and at the end we were smiling as we enjoyed the beauty around us.
Love the image and feeling of walking in the snow. In the City it quiets the noise and in the country nature's sounds seem more distinct and immediate.
I love your questions and the way you expressed them, Kathleen. From my perspective I look at everyone I know is in a relationship with me. That relationship could be casual, professional, business, friendship, familial, spouse etc. Each has a different level of interaction.. Thank you for sharing. I think your questions may be rhetorical, so this is me thinking out loud 😊 I really like your poem! 🤗❤️
Your words tell a story, so beautifully expressed, it flows, for me, as a dream waking to reality. Well done. Thank you Barbara, for sharing it with us. I hope you have a good weekend. ❤️🤗
Not sure myself if this makes sense as I am bored in passenger seat on our way home from traveling. No poem enclosed just my thoughts about relationships.
HEALING ON THE LETTING GO
I've observed in our society the subject about setting boundaries, there's often a tendency to create both physical and emotional distances that may feel abrupt or even jarring ( what I call unhealthy healing - surface level )
This isn’t necessarily a negative development, there are indeed moments when such separations are not just necessary, but vital for our well-being. Yet, it's crucial to recognize that if you simply walk away from a relationship or a damaging situation without taking the time to process the accompanying emotional pain, those unresolved feelings and protective patterns will continue to linger within you.
This is about taking the time to heal.
If you skip over the essential work of unpacking those emotions, and neglect to reflect on what transpired, you increase the likelihood of finding yourself very similar dynamic in the future
Ask yourself: what were the red flags that you perhaps ignored? Which painful experiences echoed past wounds?, how was that hurt familiar?
How did you contribute to the dynamic at hand ( hold you self accountable ), What could you have done differently? and what lessons might you carry from it? Furthermore, what alternative actions could you consider if you ever find yourself in a comparable scenario again? I call this process awareness in the application.
And, more important than these questions is allowing yourself to fully feel the feelings you didn't get to process in that dynamic with that person/situation. The truth is, you don't require the other person’s presence to navigate this internal work—you possess the ability to confront your pain with kindness, you can learn to meet your own pain with compassion, space, safety, and curiosity so that you don't carry that pain forward. Your own understanding and validation are indeed enough, a realization that becomes increasingly powerful as you cultivate a deeper connection with yourself.
Through the process of reflection and emotional processing, you can uncover new layers about your own identity and gain fresh perspectives on the dynamics you've endured. So, take a moment to slow down. Pause. Reflect on your experiences. Tune into your body—it often holds onto the weight of unexpressed emotion. Learn to set healthy boundaries!
It's important to recognize the value of letting go and moving forward in life, but equally crucial is allowing yourself the necessary time to fully process your experience. This includes acknowledging your feelings, grieving for what you've lost, and taking the opportunity to learn from the situations you've faced.
When we cut and run without processing, the patterns are more likely to repeat.
Give yourself the space & support to grow.
As you prepare to transition into 2025??? consider what you might be letting go of as you move forward??? . Have you carved out time to truly process the conclusion of this chapter in your life?
This is so beautiful and thought provoking. I love your emphasis on not only letting go but reflection and the processing of emotions. Thank you so much Lucy for sharing your thoughts. Safe travels. ❤️🤗
The relationship I have with myself is the most important thing that I've ever had to create in a human forum.
The true meaning for me is being myself, because that is all that I can be!
I've created my own identity and a strong personality and am unique and talented in my own special way.
A child like me wants acceptance and for someone to care, but many times no one was there.
I trust what my body is telling me.
My core values and beliefs for life are uniquely made for me.
I let my conscience be my guide, the inner child voices listening, talking and answering me.
The rhythm in my brain that makes my body move to the beat of a different drum is the way it is supposed to be.
I got magic in my touch and am worth more than anyone could offer
I have sensory that help me navigate the way I see my life growing and moving through each chapter of my life.
Having a good relationship with myself at a young age help me promote a sense of self-worth, and awareness that I had to accept because I had different abilities than everyone else.
The freedom I gave myself to live was a gift I've cherished all my life!
I am sharing an earlier poem I just modified for this challenge because it speaks to one of the most meaningful relationships in my life -- one that I've have figured out — finally… Ha!
He held my had that night walking down the plank to the “Odyssey.”
The gem-like stars and springtime moonbeams glistening through the glass roof
Pink petals and bubbly champagne
Covering our table for two
A delicious three-course dinner featuring beef tenderloin and tiramisu
A Kenyan attache and his wife sitting nearby
Asking for our secrets to success
Glowing landmarks reflecting in the shadowy Potomac River
Waves of memories floating by
Live music and slow dances
Celebrating commitment
A romantic 50th anniversary
He held my hand that night walking back up the plank
I love your description of this special night, which speaks to your special relationship and a special memory. It sounds like a beautiful evening. Xoxo
I often have conversations with myself. Both in my head and out loud. Living alone, it's easy to do.
I'll say I'm stupid then tell myself to not say that.
It helps me calm down. I do tge same thing with scribble writing in note books. It let's the negativity out and resolution, positive thoughts in.
After being programmed to always come last, that everything is my fault, and to never say 'no', I have learnt to put myself first, say no when I want and allow myself to decide. I am finally free of that program and it has freed me.
I sometimes revert, but not as much as I used to. It's an ongoing journey to better myself.
Christine,your poem is beautiful. So well spoken. I appreciate your vulnerability. Never doubt yourself Christine. You are beautiful. Great job.👏👏❤️🙏🏻🙂
You are such fun. I am glad I got to spend time with you in Sydney. I know it is difficult for you and I love how you are able to get out of your comfort zone.
While I truly appreciate the “Relationship‘s”topic for Week-2 , I decided not to share the poem that I wrote and will keep to myself as it is very personal.
Also while reading the helpful prompts for this weeks challenge, I discovered that I also love to Walk & Talk and yes I’m also guilty of talking negatively to myself. I did this only last week and I want to be honest and share with you guys why. After writing my poem for Week -1 and posting it, I started doubting myself because I noticed that Graham liked just about all the comments and poems before and after mine and ignored mine. Straight away I started the negative talk to myself and a wave of self-doubt washed over me as I thought my poem was terrible. I found myself on the brink of deleting my work, convinced that the absence of a 'like' from the author meant my poem was inadequate. However, I chose not to delete it, and I’m so glad I didn’t. The beautiful comments and encouragement from fellow participants truly warmed my heart. Their support reminded me that writing is not just about gaining approval but about connection and shared experience.
It was a sobering reminder of how easily we can let external validation dictate our self-worth.
In that moment, I realized how crucial it is to believe in ourselves, to trust our creative instincts, and to remember that our value doesn't hinge on the approval of others. We must nurture our own confidence and not seek affirmation and validation from the world around us. Every piece we create is a reflection of our unique voice and experiences, and it's essential to honor that regardless of the feedback we receive. I know that at the moment I’m not the best writer as my thoughts are scattered across , I have been writing down way too many notes in my journal and my poems sometimes don’t make sense but I’m willing to work hard and hopefully by the end of this week 4 challenge , I will improve my writing skills , I’m very grateful that Graham is doing this challenge, it will help us all greatly with our writing ✍️
I thought I would share this in case anyone else feels the same way and I just wanted to add how proud I am of everyone. You are all smashing this challenge, I enjoy reading all the poems. I love this little community we have created here on Substack.🙏💜🌟
Thank you for your honesty, Irene. We all want to feel validated but you’re so right that this is about growing and doing uncomfortable things that help us go to a place maybe we haven’t been before. Every contribution is valuable, if only to ourselves. Keep writing! Keep challenging yourself to find value in the process and not just the results. ❤️
Irene, my initial response to your post is to say that I am sure it was not intentional. I am sure it was an oversight. I will say that I wish Graham would start a new thread for the submissions. It's hard to look through 300+ comments for new poems. Peace! ;-)
Irene, I don’t think he didn’t make a comment on it. I think it’s he may have missed it as it is difficult to navigate with so many comments and following what’s going on here. I feel bad because I think I’ve missed somebody along the way making a comment on their poem, but it is hard to navigate all of this so in all honesty I think you’re being too hard on yourself.He would never intentionally hurt someone by not responding.
This is so well written Irene and mirrors many of my very personal emotions, feelings and thoughts. Thank you for your honesty. My love and encouragement are with you. I love your words about unique voices and experiences and honoring ourselves. This is a special community full of wonderfully unique people. ❤️🤗
Thank you Linda :)
You are welcome Irene. This community is blessed to have you in it. I hope you can get out and about again soon. ❤️🤗
I feel much better. It is my first day back at work, this explains why I couldn’t turn on my camera on and raise my hand at the Founder’s live when Graham mentioned my comment. This is a topic that I would have loved to discuss further.
I agree, Irene. It's an interesting topic that could use more discussion. Maybe one day, we can all have that conversation.
Great idea !!
I appreciated your comment, Irene, and I hear and feel the importance of what you had to say about external validation and approval of others. I have thought a lot about what you said here. I don't disagree with you that we need to find our joy and satisfaction from our own voices and the process we engage in when we take on creative endeavors. However, I do feel that encouragement and confirmation from others can be the fuel that keeps us trying and growing and gaining courage in sharing our voices. We may not always hear what we want to hear or receive accolades when we put our creative endeavors out in the world and we can't let that deter us. Being willing to share your creative voice is a process of growth and we each have our own light that needs to spread. I know a lot of musicians, writers, and artists who don't always get the positive responses they are hoping for. So, yes, looking for affirmation from outside sources can't be the sole purpose behind our creativity. But that feedback, for good or bad, might just be the catalyst for growth and change. If you're only writing for yourself, you are the only encouragement you need. But if you are writing for a greater purpose, you have to be willing to let your work be accepted or rejected and not let it defeat you. Just my thoughts.....
So true Cathey!
That is true Cathey ,thank you !!
So glad you didn't delete. The thing I love about everyone's contributions has little to do with them writing style or skill! For me it's getting to know each other better and to learn more about myself by seeing what others are going through and questions they are asking themselves. You are a wonderful, remarkable, giving and caring person. 🤗💕
I agree Karen. In my eyes, it's about us getting to know each other better and learn more about ourselves.
Thank you Karen ,I appreciate you very much:)
Irene thank you for being so honest and making yourself vulnerable. I have felt the same as you many times in the past. Your poem was very good, heartfelt. I’m so glad you decided to continue your journey of writing. You are an amazing person, so supportive, and always willing to help. Blessings. 🥰
Thank you Leigh :)
Irene, your poem was beautiful.Everything you always write is beautiful. I got mine in late and several other ones also did. And I think Graham just wasn't looking. He goes in and he looks and sometimes he doesn't go back. I know he's very busy and he doesn't have time probably to sit down and go through every bit of it,there is a lot
So I try not to let that bother me. I was pleased, also, as you said, from the reaction I got from all the people here. I am not a confident writer like you and so many of the ladies here but I wanna try.💜💜💜💜
I understand that Kathleen and my comment is not an attack to Graham in anyway . I just used that as an example as I wanted to make a point about how easy it is for us to be negative and doubt ourselves. I think I have had too much time off work as I’m still on quarantine and this is why I have been overthinking and writing so much.
Sometimes I feel like sharing my writing is like ripping of a bandage. It hurts. Other times it doesn't really hurt. I almost didn't share my poem, but growth for me right now was sharing something uncomfortable because I am learning to not shy away from sharing something. I agree that we let validation dictate what we think of ourselves.
Irene, thank you so much for posting this. I can't share my poem this week either but for many different reasons. I love the fact that you are always there for us. I hope that I can be there for you as well.
Thank You Donna ,so kind of you :)
Irene, thanks for sharing. This is something I struggle with..approval from others. Putting myself out there with my poems and being vulnerable was so scary when I was working on my book. You are a wonderful writer, I enjoy reading your writings. Blessings!
Thank you, Linda, you are an amazing writer. I always enjoy reading everything that you share with us and your book has a special place in my heart. I often refer to it and read your poems :)
Irene, thank you for sharing this heartfelt reflection. The most important thing about this challenge is to test ourselves and celebrate our achievements. I think it may be a little difficult for Graham and us to read all the poems, so we may need to find another way to post them ❤
I learn so much from you. Your writing is true and heartfelt.
Irene please don’t ever think that your writing isn’t worthy. Because it is so worthy you write so beautifully. Your words flow so smoothly. And something else you should know as well you are the most encouraging person I know. You are an
Incredible person and we all couldn’t do the things here without you. You are a special friend supporter encourager and a beautiful soul. I just really wanted to tell you that.
Thank you so much for your kind words Shari 🥹🙏💜
I do understand your reason for not sharing, and I have experienced the same feelings. In general, I have not gotten any response from Graham on my comments. I have removed several comments that were very significant to me because of this. I realize that we have very supportive people here, so I should not allow my own negative thoughts to stop me. Thank you for being honest, Irene. You have helped me more than you know❤️
Thank you, Kathy, so much for sharing your thoughts, I just wanted to tell you that you are doing an amazing job. I always love reading everything that you have been writing and sharing :)
My Walk & Talk With Me, Myself & I
My walk and talk between me and myself
Spurred several subjects resting on the shelf
My chatty noisy inner voice
Asked about my significant life choices
Were they made out of fear
Or a need to persevere
She asked me why so much doubt
The confident mature me wasn’t ready to sprout
Why do you feel such lack of worth
It’s a generational thing in my world and earth
Ah, now I understand your need to control
It’s the quiet calm that’s required for my soul.
You really ought to stop feeling diminished
And know that you’re unconditionally cherished.
Little Dia, you will be fine
Just keeping searching and you will see the sign.
Well done! I can imagine your conversation as you walk.
Love this conversation with your inner child. And you are cherished for sure!
This is so raw and real, Dia. ❤️
I am glad you have found your love in yourself.
Yeah, I'm still working on that and there is a long ways to go!
I love this Dia, Heartfelt and it ends with hope. Always hope. Have a good day Dia. 🤗❤️
I had not thought about ending in hope. You are right, it does. Thanks for noticing that. Have a great day.
Heartwarming. xoxo
Thank you Jan.
It is so easy for me to stuff things down and go on taking care of others. I love your poem.
A great poem and so relatable. 💖
Thank you, Christine.
Beautiful way to express your profound feelings and realizations. 🤗💕
Thanks Karen.
I am glad you were able to talk to yourself and find out what you needed.
Dia, sweet poem I really enjoyed reading it. Well done!!!!!👏👏
Thank you, Kathleen.
Thank you for sharing this honest and moving poem 🤗
Dia, love this conversation with yourself, it's awesome! The last two lines are my favorite, reminds me of a recent talk I had with my younger self..it was so freeing!
Thanks. I walked early in the morning while at work. I had an unusually calm day after that.
Thank you, Kathy!
Relationship Dance
Relationships, a delicate dance
of beginnings and endings
a marriage of moments, requiring
constant nurturing
Is it love, friendship, or fleeting acquaintance?
Do they bring laughter or tears?
Do I feel the bond, the connection?
Some relationships are whispers in the wind
momentary encounters, leaving
indelible marks or fading like mist
I let go, grateful for the encounter
In every meeting, I seek a spark
a memory to treasure, a lesson to learn
a piece of their soul to add to mine
But relationships are a two-way street
requiring harmony, shared values
kindness, empathy, compassion
the foundation for a connection that lasts
And then there's my relationship with God
a journey of trust, of faith
a conversation that flows like a river
me seeking guidance, Him leading me
But recently, I heard a truth that struck me
God's hands, nailed to the cross
a reminder that I must help myself
trust Him to lead, but I must take the step
1/7/2025
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Thank you , Cathey I have to give credit to the group of people that I have had the pleasure of getting to know being such an inspiration.
Oh, you’re so kind thank you it’s amazing. What sitting in our church pew will do for your mind and your soul.
Thank you I write how I feel.
Another good one my friend. I give you so much credit to do your writing. You always leave me thinking.
Thanks, Dana my friend I always appreciate you and your input.
Thank you for sharing your beautiful poem! Relationships are a constant learning process ❤
Yes, Elizabeth they truly are they take a lot of work. Just kind of like a marriage.
Wonderful work on relationships.
Thank you, Linda. I always appreciate your kind words.
Sheila, a wonderful read about relationships in the journey of life.
You sure had that moment of clarity that you express so well in this poem!
Beautifully expressed as always Sheila. I enjoy your writing and this one is so well written with so much wisdom. Thank you for sharing. 🤗❤️
Nice alliteration in this wonderful poem, Sheila. xoxo
This is so beautiful that I want to cry tears of joy! I struggle with letting Him take charge of my life. I try to do it all myself and I need to turn more to God.
Thank you, Amy and yes, but your self in God’s hands and I’ll help.
Love your dance! Beautiful, heartfelt and thought provoking 🤗💕🙏🕯🙏
Thank you, Karen. You have a beautiful day.
Sheila, very nice poem.Well done, and thank you for sharing!!!!
Thank you Shari, I appreciate and value your kind words.
I very heart felt poem Shelia, I felt this thank you for sharing.
When I first saw the topic of relationships, I didn't think about mine with myself and how that affects every other relationship. So I took Graham's advice and went for a walk in our newly fallen snow this morning. Myself and I found some clarity.
Myself is with me on my walk
Holds my hand, takes time to talk
Reminds me that God loves me as I am.
Behind me, beside me, within me
Mind to heart connection
Laughter, tears, deep conversations.
Knowing when to show up
Forgiving when I blow it up
A warm hug when I’m in broken pieces.
Trials have grown me,
Truth has guided me,
Time has cemented trust like glue.
Love whenever I need it
Acceptance when I doubt it
A lighthouse in the dark when I get lost.
Hope on the dark days
A sidekick for every phase
An ever present friend when I’m alone.
Seeing me as God sees me
Gives space for others also to be
Within concentric circles around my heart.
Cathey, your poem is a beautiful reflection on self-acceptance ❤
Thank you, Elizabeth! 💗
I am impressed with your relationship to yourself. It is so inspiring
Thank you, Juli. I guess I believe I have to be my own best friend.
Yes! I truly believe that.
I love your description of your relationship with yourself. I find it quite interesting when I listen to my own voice whispering words of encouragement to me. Your words say safe and secure to me. Thank you. ❤️🤗
I think safe and secure comess from having faith that God sees me as a valued and precious child and I like to think His viewpoint of me should dictate how I feel about me, if that makes sense.
It definitely makes perfect sense to me and you said it well. ❤️ In the whispering conversation with myself, myself was telling me to love myself as God created me. 🙏❤️
I love the "concentric circles" and "lighthouse". You had a nice conversation with yourself.
I did! And maybe a few birds and squirrels....
Beautiful Cathey. Love the metaphors and the image of concentric circles around your heart. Beautiful reflection of deep trust and faith in God.
Cathey, enjoyed reading your beautiful writing. It resonated with me, especially making the heart and mind connection, gave me a warm comfortable feeling of love.
I'm so glad you related, Linda! Thank you!
Just beautiful, Cathey. Love every word of it.
Thank you so much, Barbara!
Wonderful Cathey. It seems you have a great relationship with yourself. I love it.
Thanks, Leigh! I try to be my own best friend.
Your imagery in this piece really spoke to me, Cathey. Lovely!
Thanks, Breaha!
And thank you for your very kind words, Kathy!
The Whispering Voice
As the day begins so often do the shouting voices
The shouting voices rage on
There is no you, just the chaos, conflict, the whole
Suddenly is heard a whisper, rising above the fray
A voice much like my own, I retreat to stillness
You are not lost the voice whispers
Love that cannot be contained is here
The whispering voice resonates in my heart
Comparisons rob you of the energy of your soul
Listen to this familiar voice, you are not them
You are uniquely hopeful, loyal, kind, strong
Shine your light to the world around
No longer hold back the hidden hugs of your heart
Be you as only you can be
Love you as God created you
The shouting voices no longer serve you
They disrupt, alter your path, reflect the wishes of others
Listening to the whispering voice, I hear, I embrace
My destiny is mine and mine alone
Perfect teaches nothing, riches will not follow me to death
Harnessing my power within that is self love
I am the master of my heart, my roots are deep and will stand
To be real is to love, to feel passion, to be loved into eternity
To share love with others is the gift of life, always and forever
So speaks the whispering voice forever heard in my silence
Such a lovely poem Linda. So well written and tells a story for sure.!!!!!
Thank you very much Kathleen. I hope you have a great rest of your week and stay safe and warm. I wish your Steelers and Penn State luck. ❤️🤗
I particularly liked, "Comparisons rob you of the energy of your soul" I was brought up in a household where there were comparisons made between me and a sibling. It serves no purpose. Nicely done Linda.
Thank you so much Audrey. I like your thought of it serves no purpose. That is so true. I hope you have a great rest of your week. ❤️🤗
Beautiful poem, Linda! Reminds me of the importance of listening to my inner voice ❤
Thank you very much Elizabeth. ❤️❤️❤️. I hope your week is going good. 🤗❤️
I am glad you have found the love for yourself.
Thank you Juli. I think I need a check up every once in awhile. ❤️ I hope your week is going well. ❤️🤗
A beautiful transition from the shouting, rage and chaos to your whispering voice and silence. I can feel the calm. Thanks for sharing with us.
Thank you very much Dia. It is so nice having this community where we can share our thoughts and creativity. It is calming in an often crazy world. I hope you have a great rest of your week. ❤️🤗
Linda, the whispering voice has so much to tell us when we sit in stillness and listen. A great read, thanks for sharing.
Thank you very much Linda. I love how you often write about being in stillness. I hope you have a great day today. ❤️🤗
My favorite lines: "Be you as only you can be. Love you as God created you."
Thank you Cathey. When I get hard on myself I always remember where I came from and how we all are unique. Enjoy your day! 🤗❤️
I love your whispering voice -- it is calming, unique & beautiful. xoxo
Thank you very much Jan. Enjoy your day. Xoxo 🤗❤️
Beautiful Linda. I love the whispering voice that is always there for you.
Thank you very much Leigh. I love this challenge and the way it is pointing my writing in directions I may not normally go. I hope you have a really good weekend! Congratulations on the upcoming birth of your granddaughter. 🤗❤️🙏
Wow! This is profound, honest and filled with hope in the face of life's challenges.
Thank you very much Karen. I struggled a bit with where I wanted to go with it but I really just put my thoughts on paper as Graham suggested and it just flowed. I appreciate your words very much. I hope you have a good weekend. ❤️🤗
Linda I love this I love shine your light to the world. And you are uniquely hopeful, loyal, kind and strong. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you very much Shari. Those words reminds me of all the shining lights, the unique, creative people, like you, in this community. Enjoy the rest of your week Shari. ❤️🤗
Thank you so much Kathy. I really am enjoying this challenge, even though I struggle with how to put my thoughts on paper sometimes. I hope your weekend is a good one. It started out great last night. 👏👏. Good luck Buckeyes. ❤️🤗
I share my poem from the January Writers' Challenge: Week 2
"My soul mate"
My soul mate, my loyal partner,
you go with me on my daily walks.
You remind me of who I am, my pure essence,
and together we explore my inner world.
You guide me with the lessons I learn along the way,
with patience and love, never rushed.
You celebrate with me each of my accomplishments,
and motivate me to always keep moving forward.
You advise me with wisdom and tenderness,
offering me words of encouragement in my moments of doubt.
You lead me on paths of reflection,
and remind me that every step is an opportunity.
Let us celebrate together who I have become,
with my virtues and my weaknesses.
Our conversation ends in a heartfelt embrace,
my soul mate, my best friend.
A Beautiful poem,telling a beautiful love story. Thank you for sharing your heart!!❤️❤️
Glad you liked it! Hugs 🤗🤗🤗
Such a special relationship. You are so lucky.
Thank you Juliann! I like the 5 steps for decision making, it will be very useful for me.
Beautiful story of loving relationship!
Thank you Linda! ❤
Elizabeth, what a wonderful partner you found in Cesar. I love your love story.
Muchas gracias Dia! ❤
You have expressed many times how Cesar is your soul mate and best friend, and this poem tells that story in such a meaningful way. You are blessed!
Cathey, thank you for your support and motivation ❤
This is beautiful Elizabeth. Your words tell such an endearing story. Thank you for sharing. 🤗❤️
Thank you for your kind words, Linda! ❤
What a beautiful, meaningful love! This touches my heart.
Thank you for your kind words, Breaha! Hugs 🤗
Eu amei seu poema Elizabeth, muito inspirador! Obrigada por compartilhar! 🙌🏻❤️
Obrigado, Valdelice! Me alegra muito que você tenha gostado ❤️
This is truly lovely and loving. Beautifully expressed
Thanks for your kind words Karen! 🤗
Love this. Thanks for sharing.
Thank you Barbara! ❤
Thank you for your kind words, Kathy! ❤
January Writer’s Challenge - Week 2
As I wander through each day
trying to find my way,
my 2 companions are by my side-
myself to the left and my special person,
whom I lost too soon, is on my right.
Hello
Where did you go?
I wanted to talk to you today.
I have so much to say
but God took you away.
He said it was your time
but I said not yet, you were at your prime.
I have never lived alone,
living with family and friends is all I have known.
The “what ifs” are constant in my mind,
as I worry most of the time.
Please guide me and lead the way,
as you are both with me night and day.
My 2 guides do not always agree,
but my best interest is what they want to achieve.
Not all relationships will last
as some will be in the past.
I feel blessed
for my guardian angels are the best.
So together we will stay,
leading me as I make my way,
keeping my journey from going a stray.
I pray I will always be able to hear my voices from within,
as gifts bestowed as I pretend.
May you always feel the warmth of your guardian angels. Beautifully said, Vicky. ❤️
Thank you Elaine, I have felt my guardian angels save me many times 💕
Thank you for your beautiful and touching poem Vicky! Your guardian angels protect you and are always by your side.
Thank you Elizabeth🥰
Your poem touched my heart deeply. Beautifully written and thank you for sharing. Big hug, my friend.
Thanks for the kind words and hug 🥰
Vicky, this is so beautiful! I had tears in my eyes as I read it. You will always have your special guardian angel to guide you. ❤️🙏
I hope they do not give up on this “work in progress” 😁 thank you Leigh 😍
Vicky, Vicky, Vicky! I just want to give you a big hug. Beautiful and emotional and healing. ❤️🥰
Thank you Dia, yes, it is healing. I will meet you 1/2 way 😁
So beautiful Vicky. I love how you speak of your guardian angels.
Thank you Juli 🥰
This is so beautiful, Vicky. I love your heartwarming description of the guardian angels, always by your side, your right and your left. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us. I hope you have a good weekend. ❤️🤗
Thank you Linda, wishing you a warm and happy weekend 😍
Vicky, your poem touched my heart. I can relate to the line “ lost too soon”.
Yes, too soon, and then I think of the “what ifs”
I had the same feelings and thoughts...if only, since that time I have worked through those feelings, taken a few years. and not easy.
I feel your pain and sadness, as well as a sense of comfort. It is very heartfelt.
Losing a life partner must be so, so hard. Thank you for sharing this part of your journey, Vicky.
Thank you for your kind words Breaha 🤗
Week2 Relationships
My Remarkable Friend
When I call on you, I can’t worry.
What I expect is your reassuring stand.
Requests are filled with a calmly laid hand.
Learning to trust in you I do find just what I need.
I don’t have to beg or plead.
Your kindness to me will meet me or exceed.
Quietly I sit under your gaze.
Folding my hands I reach, you touch my face.
Prayer and meditation I find your grace.
A lighter side is when we sing.
Together finding a note to bring
I feel your hands clapping like a birds wing.
Our friendship will never end.
My praises to you I daily send.
Not just my creator but my dearest friend.
This my friend brings me close to others clasping hands to greet and shake.
We find new friends on the way.
We talk about you whom we cannot see.
Agreeing you lead us to unmeasured love.
Everyone knows you when we meet.
Let’s be together and acknowledge who you are.
Walking hand in hand on a trail or by the sea in the sand.
Let this relationship grow and the seeds of faith flow.
Peacefully dwelling together for the world to know.
Beautiful thoughts, Lucinda!
Beautiful Lucinda. I love it all but particularly…”My praises to you I daily send”. I hope you have a great rest of your week. ❤️🤗
Very good, Lucinda.
Beautiful, Lucinda.
Graham, walking and talking with myself is something I often do when on a solo walk. Just yesterday I purposely took myself for a walk as gentle snow was falling so I could embrace the quiet surrounding me. As I was walking I “ checked” in with myself, we kicked the snow together, listened to the quiet surrounding us, and at the end we were smiling as we enjoyed the beauty around us.
Love the image and feeling of walking in the snow. In the City it quiets the noise and in the country nature's sounds seem more distinct and immediate.
There were many times I was insecure in my younger years. I always wondered “Do they like me”? “Why don’t they like me”?
I am not sure where those insecurities came from because my family and true friends loved and love me.
I learned it was the toxic people in my life that tried to make me think I was unliked and unloved.
Thank God for Your love.
Thank you Graham for inviting me to put my thoughts down on paper.
Here’s my poem about “Relationship”.
Hello..I am Love
I wonder what people think and perceive
Forlorn, insecure, naive me?
Don’t judge, don’t assume, open your eyes
I’m kind, I’m faithful … not in disguise
Elaine, this is very touching, the first line draws you into , well done!
I love the way you start your heartfelt poem with love. Well done Elaine! 👏👏. I hope you have a great weekend. ❤️🤗
January writing challenge week 2. I am looking at this differently than others. I have given this much thought I have a question.
Relationships versus friendships.
If I am your friend
Are we in a relationship?
Hard to define fully
Everyone will have a different perspective
I feel love relationships
Such as I love my husband
Differently than I love my friends.
Yet my husband is my friend.
I love my friends
Yet are we in a relationship??
Complex, friendships versus relationships
There is a difference between loving somebody and being in love with somebody.
Is it different for you, or is it all the same?
Now as I walk with a different version of myself
Will she, the other me
Agree with me??
Different from friendships
Nice Kathleen. Hope you find your answers!🤔
I like your take on this, Kathleen. Good questions!
Cathey, thank you so much. I appreciate your comment!!!! ,
Kathleen, great take on relationships..with self and others. I really enjoyed reading your writing.
Awe,thank you so much Linda. I appreciate you!!!!
Good questions Kathleen! I think the important thing is not to stop giving others all the love we have in our hearts ❤
Elizabeth,I appreciate your comment!!!!
Hmmm...very thoughtful. Thanks for sharing your questions for us to ponder!
Thank you so much Dia!!!
I love your questions and the way you expressed them, Kathleen. From my perspective I look at everyone I know is in a relationship with me. That relationship could be casual, professional, business, friendship, familial, spouse etc. Each has a different level of interaction.. Thank you for sharing. I think your questions may be rhetorical, so this is me thinking out loud 😊 I really like your poem! 🤗❤️
Linda, I appreciate your comments. !!!!!
Do you remember
The girl who dreamed
Of fame and fortune?
The chance arrived
She chose her love instead.
He was her knight
And she his lady
Their dreams, like
Billowed sails
Floated on clouds.
They lived in the land of
Make believe
Where dreams come true.
But, remember the girl
Lives now in the land
Of reality.
Beautiful but sad. I hope your new reality becomes wondrous.
Thank you.
Thank you. May you have a good weekend too.
Thank you.
Beautiful poem Barbara! Sometimes life surprises us with dreams come true.
Thank you.
Your words tell a story, so beautifully expressed, it flows, for me, as a dream waking to reality. Well done. Thank you Barbara, for sharing it with us. I hope you have a good weekend. ❤️🤗
Week # 2 Writers Challenge-Relationships
Not sure myself if this makes sense as I am bored in passenger seat on our way home from traveling. No poem enclosed just my thoughts about relationships.
HEALING ON THE LETTING GO
I've observed in our society the subject about setting boundaries, there's often a tendency to create both physical and emotional distances that may feel abrupt or even jarring ( what I call unhealthy healing - surface level )
This isn’t necessarily a negative development, there are indeed moments when such separations are not just necessary, but vital for our well-being. Yet, it's crucial to recognize that if you simply walk away from a relationship or a damaging situation without taking the time to process the accompanying emotional pain, those unresolved feelings and protective patterns will continue to linger within you.
This is about taking the time to heal.
If you skip over the essential work of unpacking those emotions, and neglect to reflect on what transpired, you increase the likelihood of finding yourself very similar dynamic in the future
Ask yourself: what were the red flags that you perhaps ignored? Which painful experiences echoed past wounds?, how was that hurt familiar?
How did you contribute to the dynamic at hand ( hold you self accountable ), What could you have done differently? and what lessons might you carry from it? Furthermore, what alternative actions could you consider if you ever find yourself in a comparable scenario again? I call this process awareness in the application.
And, more important than these questions is allowing yourself to fully feel the feelings you didn't get to process in that dynamic with that person/situation. The truth is, you don't require the other person’s presence to navigate this internal work—you possess the ability to confront your pain with kindness, you can learn to meet your own pain with compassion, space, safety, and curiosity so that you don't carry that pain forward. Your own understanding and validation are indeed enough, a realization that becomes increasingly powerful as you cultivate a deeper connection with yourself.
Through the process of reflection and emotional processing, you can uncover new layers about your own identity and gain fresh perspectives on the dynamics you've endured. So, take a moment to slow down. Pause. Reflect on your experiences. Tune into your body—it often holds onto the weight of unexpressed emotion. Learn to set healthy boundaries!
It's important to recognize the value of letting go and moving forward in life, but equally crucial is allowing yourself the necessary time to fully process your experience. This includes acknowledging your feelings, grieving for what you've lost, and taking the opportunity to learn from the situations you've faced.
When we cut and run without processing, the patterns are more likely to repeat.
Give yourself the space & support to grow.
As you prepare to transition into 2025??? consider what you might be letting go of as you move forward??? . Have you carved out time to truly process the conclusion of this chapter in your life?
Thank you for your beautiful reflection, Lucy! ❤
This is so beautiful and thought provoking. I love your emphasis on not only letting go but reflection and the processing of emotions. Thank you so much Lucy for sharing your thoughts. Safe travels. ❤️🤗
Thank you for your thoughtful reflection and invitation, Lucy!
The relationship I have with myself is the most important thing that I've ever had to create in a human forum.
The true meaning for me is being myself, because that is all that I can be!
I've created my own identity and a strong personality and am unique and talented in my own special way.
A child like me wants acceptance and for someone to care, but many times no one was there.
I trust what my body is telling me.
My core values and beliefs for life are uniquely made for me.
I let my conscience be my guide, the inner child voices listening, talking and answering me.
The rhythm in my brain that makes my body move to the beat of a different drum is the way it is supposed to be.
I got magic in my touch and am worth more than anyone could offer
I have sensory that help me navigate the way I see my life growing and moving through each chapter of my life.
Having a good relationship with myself at a young age help me promote a sense of self-worth, and awareness that I had to accept because I had different abilities than everyone else.
The freedom I gave myself to live was a gift I've cherished all my life!
I am sharing an earlier poem I just modified for this challenge because it speaks to one of the most meaningful relationships in my life -- one that I've have figured out — finally… Ha!
He held my had that night walking down the plank to the “Odyssey.”
The gem-like stars and springtime moonbeams glistening through the glass roof
Pink petals and bubbly champagne
Covering our table for two
A delicious three-course dinner featuring beef tenderloin and tiramisu
A Kenyan attache and his wife sitting nearby
Asking for our secrets to success
Glowing landmarks reflecting in the shadowy Potomac River
Waves of memories floating by
Live music and slow dances
Celebrating commitment
A romantic 50th anniversary
He held my hand that night walking back up the plank
To another odyssey.
Beautiful memories of such a special night! ❤
I love the last part.
Jan, such a heart warming description of a special memory. Congratulations on 50 years of a wonderful relationship!
A very special night! So many years of sharing life. Congratulations on all it took for you to be married 50 years and still feel this way!
I love your description of this special night, which speaks to your special relationship and a special memory. It sounds like a beautiful evening. Xoxo
CONVERSATIONS IN MY HEAD
I often have debates
Inside my head.
A battle rages on
From what I've said.
I talk out loud
To reassure myself.
Have a conversation
On how to help.
I hear my fear,
I hear my rage.
My other voice tells me
Not to feel this way.
Where is my patience?
Where is my calm?
I need to breathe,
A soothing balm.
I reflect and think
On conversations had,
On advice given,
Not to feel bad.
I'm being too harsh
I know it's true.
In many situations,
I don't have to do.
I don't need to do everything
From people asked.
I don't have to pretend
Or keep being masked.
There's nothing wrong
With saying 'no',
No explanation needed,
No need to do so.
I know my limitations,
And that's just fine.
I've learnt from experience
From lots of time.
Though it took awhile,
With professional help.
I gained so much knowledge
Learnt about myself.
I have some quirks,
Some medical conditions,
But that's okay,
I can make those admissions.
I talk to myself,
Calm myself down.
I'm not a bad person
No need to frown.
So continue to reassure yourself,
When not doing so well.
Think of how far you've come
Let the feeling swell.
Have positive conversations,
Of passions found.
Take up those passions
And let it surround.
Enjoy what you have,
What you've been given
Get out of your mind
It's time to start living.
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I often have conversations with myself. Both in my head and out loud. Living alone, it's easy to do.
I'll say I'm stupid then tell myself to not say that.
It helps me calm down. I do tge same thing with scribble writing in note books. It let's the negativity out and resolution, positive thoughts in.
After being programmed to always come last, that everything is my fault, and to never say 'no', I have learnt to put myself first, say no when I want and allow myself to decide. I am finally free of that program and it has freed me.
I sometimes revert, but not as much as I used to. It's an ongoing journey to better myself.
Beautiful Christine! I am so touched by your honesty and vulnerability, and so proud for all you’ve accomplished. Thank you for sharing.
What a beautiful and touching comment. Thank you so much Leigh💖🤗.
This is powerful and raw. Thank you so much for this honest writing. Your healing path is inspirational.
Thank you so much Robin💖🙏🤗. It's ongoing, but I have made progress.
You are doing an amazing job. It is a long road back to you, but you are well on your way. Peace and blessings always.
💖🙏💖
Beautiful poem Christine! Your perseverance to overcome life's challenges are inspiring. 🤗
Your are so sweet Elizabeth🤗💖. Gracias, 🙏
Christine,your poem is beautiful. So well spoken. I appreciate your vulnerability. Never doubt yourself Christine. You are beautiful. Great job.👏👏❤️🙏🏻🙂
Thanks so much Kathleen 💖🤗. You are so kind. 🙏💖
You are such fun. I am glad I got to spend time with you in Sydney. I know it is difficult for you and I love how you are able to get out of your comfort zone.
I so appreciate your touching comment. Means a lot to me as I appreciate you. I am so happy that I got to meet you in Sydney also. 💖🤗💖🙏
Thank you for sharing your heartfelt journey with us. I love your last line about living. You got this Christine! ❤️👏. Enjiy your weekend. ❤️🤗
Thank you so much Linda 💖🤗🙏. I am happy to see your writing also. 💖
Thank you so much Kathey🤗💖