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Irene Kigais's avatar

While I truly appreciate the “Relationship‘s”topic for Week-2 , I decided not to share the poem that I wrote and will keep to myself as it is very personal.

Also while reading the helpful prompts for this weeks challenge, I discovered that I also love to Walk & Talk and yes I’m also guilty of talking negatively to myself. I did this only last week and I want to be honest and share with you guys why. After writing my poem for Week -1 and posting it, I started doubting myself because I noticed that Graham liked just about all the comments and poems before and after mine and ignored mine. Straight away I started the negative talk to myself and a wave of self-doubt washed over me as I thought my poem was terrible. I found myself on the brink of deleting my work, convinced that the absence of a 'like' from the author meant my poem was inadequate. However, I chose not to delete it, and I’m so glad I didn’t. The beautiful comments and encouragement from fellow participants truly warmed my heart. Their support reminded me that writing is not just about gaining approval but about connection and shared experience.

It was a sobering reminder of how easily we can let external validation dictate our self-worth.

In that moment, I realized how crucial it is to believe in ourselves, to trust our creative instincts, and to remember that our value doesn't hinge on the approval of others. We must nurture our own confidence and not seek affirmation and validation from the world around us. Every piece we create is a reflection of our unique voice and experiences, and it's essential to honor that regardless of the feedback we receive. I know that at the moment I’m not the best writer as my thoughts are scattered across , I have been writing down way too many notes in my journal and my poems sometimes don’t make sense but I’m willing to work hard and hopefully by the end of this week 4 challenge , I will improve my writing skills , I’m very grateful that Graham is doing this challenge, it will help us all greatly with our writing ✍️

I thought I would share this in case anyone else feels the same way and I just wanted to add how proud I am of everyone. You are all smashing this challenge, I enjoy reading all the poems. I love this little community we have created here on Substack.🙏💜🌟

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Cathey Cone's avatar

Thank you for your honesty, Irene. We all want to feel validated but you’re so right that this is about growing and doing uncomfortable things that help us go to a place maybe we haven’t been before. Every contribution is valuable, if only to ourselves. Keep writing! Keep challenging yourself to find value in the process and not just the results. ❤️

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Dia Utterback's avatar

Irene, my initial response to your post is to say that I am sure it was not intentional. I am sure it was an oversight. I will say that I wish Graham would start a new thread for the submissions. It's hard to look through 300+ comments for new poems. Peace! ;-)

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Sheila Peterson's avatar

Irene, I don’t think he didn’t make a comment on it. I think it’s he may have missed it as it is difficult to navigate with so many comments and following what’s going on here. I feel bad because I think I’ve missed somebody along the way making a comment on their poem, but it is hard to navigate all of this so in all honesty I think you’re being too hard on yourself.He would never intentionally hurt someone by not responding.

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Linda Jane Brown's avatar

This is so well written Irene and mirrors many of my very personal emotions, feelings and thoughts. Thank you for your honesty. My love and encouragement are with you. I love your words about unique voices and experiences and honoring ourselves. This is a special community full of wonderfully unique people. ❤️🤗

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Irene Kigais's avatar

Thank you Linda :)

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Linda Jane Brown's avatar

You are welcome Irene. This community is blessed to have you in it. I hope you can get out and about again soon. ❤️🤗

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Irene Kigais's avatar

I feel much better. It is my first day back at work, this explains why I couldn’t turn on my camera on and raise my hand at the Founder’s live when Graham mentioned my comment. This is a topic that I would have loved to discuss further.

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Dia Utterback's avatar

I agree, Irene. It's an interesting topic that could use more discussion. Maybe one day, we can all have that conversation.

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Irene Kigais's avatar

Great idea !!

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Cathey Cone's avatar

I appreciated your comment, Irene, and I hear and feel the importance of what you had to say about external validation and approval of others. I have thought a lot about what you said here. I don't disagree with you that we need to find our joy and satisfaction from our own voices and the process we engage in when we take on creative endeavors. However, I do feel that encouragement and confirmation from others can be the fuel that keeps us trying and growing and gaining courage in sharing our voices. We may not always hear what we want to hear or receive accolades when we put our creative endeavors out in the world and we can't let that deter us. Being willing to share your creative voice is a process of growth and we each have our own light that needs to spread. I know a lot of musicians, writers, and artists who don't always get the positive responses they are hoping for. So, yes, looking for affirmation from outside sources can't be the sole purpose behind our creativity. But that feedback, for good or bad, might just be the catalyst for growth and change. If you're only writing for yourself, you are the only encouragement you need. But if you are writing for a greater purpose, you have to be willing to let your work be accepted or rejected and not let it defeat you. Just my thoughts.....

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Bie Matthyssen's avatar

So true Cathey!

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Irene Kigais's avatar

That is true Cathey ,thank you !!

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Karen Howells's avatar

So glad you didn't delete. The thing I love about everyone's contributions has little to do with them writing style or skill! For me it's getting to know each other better and to learn more about myself by seeing what others are going through and questions they are asking themselves. You are a wonderful, remarkable, giving and caring person. 🤗💕

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Audrey Dumas-Ghidotti's avatar

I agree Karen. In my eyes, it's about us getting to know each other better and learn more about ourselves.

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Irene Kigais's avatar

Thank you Karen ,I appreciate you very much:)

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Leigh Sims's avatar

Irene thank you for being so honest and making yourself vulnerable. I have felt the same as you many times in the past. Your poem was very good, heartfelt. I’m so glad you decided to continue your journey of writing. You are an amazing person, so supportive, and always willing to help. Blessings. 🥰

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Irene Kigais's avatar

Thank you Leigh :)

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Kathleen Ludwig's avatar

Irene, your poem was beautiful.Everything you always write is beautiful. I got mine in late and several other ones also did. And I think Graham just wasn't looking. He goes in and he looks and sometimes he doesn't go back. I know he's very busy and he doesn't have time probably to sit down and go through every bit of it,there is a lot

So I try not to let that bother me. I was pleased, also, as you said, from the reaction I got from all the people here. I am not a confident writer like you and so many of the ladies here but I wanna try.💜💜💜💜

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Irene Kigais's avatar

I understand that Kathleen and my comment is not an attack to Graham in anyway . I just used that as an example as I wanted to make a point about how easy it is for us to be negative and doubt ourselves. I think I have had too much time off work as I’m still on quarantine and this is why I have been overthinking and writing so much.

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Amy’s Stories's avatar

Sometimes I feel like sharing my writing is like ripping of a bandage. It hurts. Other times it doesn't really hurt. I almost didn't share my poem, but growth for me right now was sharing something uncomfortable because I am learning to not shy away from sharing something. I agree that we let validation dictate what we think of ourselves.

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Donna Armstrong's avatar

Irene, thank you so much for posting this. I can't share my poem this week either but for many different reasons. I love the fact that you are always there for us. I hope that I can be there for you as well.

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Irene Kigais's avatar

Thank You Donna ,so kind of you :)

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Linda Lubitz's avatar

Irene, thanks for sharing. This is something I struggle with..approval from others. Putting myself out there with my poems and being vulnerable was so scary when I was working on my book. You are a wonderful writer, I enjoy reading your writings. Blessings!

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Irene Kigais's avatar

Thank you, Linda, you are an amazing writer. I always enjoy reading everything that you share with us and your book has a special place in my heart. I often refer to it and read your poems :)

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Elizabeth de Pancorvo's avatar

Irene, thank you for sharing this heartfelt reflection. The most important thing about this challenge is to test ourselves and celebrate our achievements. I think it may be a little difficult for Graham and us to read all the poems, so we may need to find another way to post them ❤

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Juli Warner's avatar

I learn so much from you. Your writing is true and heartfelt.

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Shari McIntyre's avatar

Irene please don’t ever think that your writing isn’t worthy. Because it is so worthy you write so beautifully. Your words flow so smoothly. And something else you should know as well you are the most encouraging person I know. You are an

Incredible person and we all couldn’t do the things here without you. You are a special friend supporter encourager and a beautiful soul. I just really wanted to tell you that.

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Irene Kigais's avatar

Thank you so much for your kind words Shari 🥹🙏💜

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Janis Dithmer's avatar

I do understand your reason for not sharing, and I have experienced the same feelings. In general, I have not gotten any response from Graham on my comments. I have removed several comments that were very significant to me because of this. I realize that we have very supportive people here, so I should not allow my own negative thoughts to stop me. Thank you for being honest, Irene. You have helped me more than you know❤️

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Irene Kigais's avatar

Thank you, Kathy, so much for sharing your thoughts, I just wanted to tell you that you are doing an amazing job. I always love reading everything that you have been writing and sharing :)

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Dia Utterback's avatar

My Walk & Talk With Me, Myself & I

My walk and talk between me and myself

Spurred several subjects resting on the shelf

My chatty noisy inner voice

Asked about my significant life choices

Were they made out of fear

Or a need to persevere

She asked me why so much doubt

The confident mature me wasn’t ready to sprout

Why do you feel such lack of worth

It’s a generational thing in my world and earth

Ah, now I understand your need to control

It’s the quiet calm that’s required for my soul.

You really ought to stop feeling diminished

And know that you’re unconditionally cherished.

Little Dia, you will be fine

Just keeping searching and you will see the sign.

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Leigh Sims's avatar

Well done! I can imagine your conversation as you walk.

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Cathey Cone's avatar

Love this conversation with your inner child. And you are cherished for sure!

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Diane Beddingfield's avatar

This is so raw and real, Dia. ❤️

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Juli Warner's avatar

I am glad you have found your love in yourself.

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Dia Utterback's avatar

Yeah, I'm still working on that and there is a long ways to go!

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Linda Jane Brown's avatar

I love this Dia, Heartfelt and it ends with hope. Always hope. Have a good day Dia. 🤗❤️

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Dia Utterback's avatar

I had not thought about ending in hope. You are right, it does. Thanks for noticing that. Have a great day.

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Jan Stoneburner's avatar

Heartwarming. xoxo

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Dia Utterback's avatar

Thank you Jan.

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Amy’s Stories's avatar

It is so easy for me to stuff things down and go on taking care of others. I love your poem.

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Christine Davies's avatar

A great poem and so relatable. 💖

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Dia Utterback's avatar

Thank you, Christine.

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Karen Howells's avatar

Beautiful way to express your profound feelings and realizations. 🤗💕

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Dia Utterback's avatar

Thanks Karen.

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Juli Warner's avatar

I am glad you were able to talk to yourself and find out what you needed.

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Kathleen Ludwig's avatar

Dia, sweet poem I really enjoyed reading it. Well done!!!!!👏👏

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Dia Utterback's avatar

Thank you, Kathleen.

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Elizabeth de Pancorvo's avatar

Thank you for sharing this honest and moving poem 🤗

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Linda Lubitz's avatar

Dia, love this conversation with yourself, it's awesome! The last two lines are my favorite, reminds me of a recent talk I had with my younger self..it was so freeing!

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Dia Utterback's avatar

Thanks. I walked early in the morning while at work. I had an unusually calm day after that.

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Dia Utterback's avatar

Thank you, Kathy!

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Sheila Peterson's avatar

Relationship Dance

Relationships, a delicate dance

of beginnings and endings

a marriage of moments, requiring

constant nurturing

Is it love, friendship, or fleeting acquaintance?

Do they bring laughter or tears?

Do I feel the bond, the connection?

Some relationships are whispers in the wind

momentary encounters, leaving

indelible marks or fading like mist

I let go, grateful for the encounter

In every meeting, I seek a spark

a memory to treasure, a lesson to learn

a piece of their soul to add to mine

But relationships are a two-way street

requiring harmony, shared values

kindness, empathy, compassion

the foundation for a connection that lasts

And then there's my relationship with God

a journey of trust, of faith

a conversation that flows like a river

me seeking guidance, Him leading me

But recently, I heard a truth that struck me

God's hands, nailed to the cross

a reminder that I must help myself

trust Him to lead, but I must take the step

1/7/2025

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Sheila Peterson's avatar

Thank you , Cathey I have to give credit to the group of people that I have had the pleasure of getting to know being such an inspiration.

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Sheila Peterson's avatar

Oh, you’re so kind thank you it’s amazing. What sitting in our church pew will do for your mind and your soul.

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Sheila Peterson's avatar

Thank you I write how I feel.

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Dana Petrasek's avatar

Another good one my friend. I give you so much credit to do your writing. You always leave me thinking.

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Sheila Peterson's avatar

Thanks, Dana my friend I always appreciate you and your input.

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Elizabeth de Pancorvo's avatar

Thank you for sharing your beautiful poem! Relationships are a constant learning process ❤

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Sheila Peterson's avatar

Yes, Elizabeth they truly are they take a lot of work. Just kind of like a marriage.

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Juli Warner's avatar

Wonderful work on relationships.

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Sheila Peterson's avatar

Thank you, Linda. I always appreciate your kind words.

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Linda Lubitz's avatar

Sheila, a wonderful read about relationships in the journey of life.

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Cathey Cone's avatar

You sure had that moment of clarity that you express so well in this poem!

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Linda Jane Brown's avatar

Beautifully expressed as always Sheila. I enjoy your writing and this one is so well written with so much wisdom. Thank you for sharing. 🤗❤️

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Jan Stoneburner's avatar

Nice alliteration in this wonderful poem, Sheila. xoxo

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Amy’s Stories's avatar

This is so beautiful that I want to cry tears of joy! I struggle with letting Him take charge of my life. I try to do it all myself and I need to turn more to God.

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Sheila Peterson's avatar

Thank you, Amy and yes, but your self in God’s hands and I’ll help.

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Karen Howells's avatar

Love your dance! Beautiful, heartfelt and thought provoking 🤗💕🙏🕯🙏

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Sheila Peterson's avatar

Thank you, Karen. You have a beautiful day.

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Kathleen Ludwig's avatar

Sheila, very nice poem.Well done, and thank you for sharing!!!!

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Sheila Peterson's avatar

Thank you Shari, I appreciate and value your kind words.

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Shari McIntyre's avatar

I very heart felt poem Shelia, I felt this thank you for sharing.

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Cathey Cone's avatar

When I first saw the topic of relationships, I didn't think about mine with myself and how that affects every other relationship. So I took Graham's advice and went for a walk in our newly fallen snow this morning. Myself and I found some clarity.

Myself is with me on my walk

Holds my hand, takes time to talk

Reminds me that God loves me as I am.

Behind me, beside me, within me

Mind to heart connection

Laughter, tears, deep conversations.

Knowing when to show up

Forgiving when I blow it up

A warm hug when I’m in broken pieces.

Trials have grown me,

Truth has guided me,

Time has cemented trust like glue.

Love whenever I need it

Acceptance when I doubt it

A lighthouse in the dark when I get lost.

Hope on the dark days

A sidekick for every phase

An ever present friend when I’m alone.

Seeing me as God sees me

Gives space for others also to be

Within concentric circles around my heart.

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Elizabeth de Pancorvo's avatar

Cathey, your poem is a beautiful reflection on self-acceptance ❤

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Cathey Cone's avatar

Thank you, Elizabeth! 💗

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Juli Warner's avatar

I am impressed with your relationship to yourself. It is so inspiring

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Cathey Cone's avatar

Thank you, Juli. I guess I believe I have to be my own best friend.

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Juli Warner's avatar

Yes! I truly believe that.

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Linda Jane Brown's avatar

I love your description of your relationship with yourself. I find it quite interesting when I listen to my own voice whispering words of encouragement to me. Your words say safe and secure to me. Thank you. ❤️🤗

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Cathey Cone's avatar

I think safe and secure comess from having faith that God sees me as a valued and precious child and I like to think His viewpoint of me should dictate how I feel about me, if that makes sense.

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Linda Jane Brown's avatar

It definitely makes perfect sense to me and you said it well. ❤️ In the whispering conversation with myself, myself was telling me to love myself as God created me. 🙏❤️

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Dia Utterback's avatar

I love the "concentric circles" and "lighthouse". You had a nice conversation with yourself.

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Cathey Cone's avatar

I did! And maybe a few birds and squirrels....

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Karen Howells's avatar

Beautiful Cathey. Love the metaphors and the image of concentric circles around your heart. Beautiful reflection of deep trust and faith in God.

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Linda Lubitz's avatar

Cathey, enjoyed reading your beautiful writing. It resonated with me, especially making the heart and mind connection, gave me a warm comfortable feeling of love.

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Cathey Cone's avatar

I'm so glad you related, Linda! Thank you!

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Barbara Avgerinos's avatar

Just beautiful, Cathey. Love every word of it.

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Cathey Cone's avatar

Thank you so much, Barbara!

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Leigh Sims's avatar

Wonderful Cathey. It seems you have a great relationship with yourself. I love it.

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Cathey Cone's avatar

Thanks, Leigh! I try to be my own best friend.

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Breaha Joy's avatar

Your imagery in this piece really spoke to me, Cathey. Lovely!

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Cathey Cone's avatar

Thanks, Breaha!

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And thank you for your very kind words, Kathy!

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The Whispering Voice

As the day begins so often do the shouting voices

The shouting voices rage on

There is no you, just the chaos, conflict, the whole

Suddenly is heard a whisper, rising above the fray

A voice much like my own, I retreat to stillness

You are not lost the voice whispers

Love that cannot be contained is here

The whispering voice resonates in my heart

Comparisons rob you of the energy of your soul

Listen to this familiar voice, you are not them

You are uniquely hopeful, loyal, kind, strong

Shine your light to the world around

No longer hold back the hidden hugs of your heart

Be you as only you can be

Love you as God created you

The shouting voices no longer serve you

They disrupt, alter your path, reflect the wishes of others

Listening to the whispering voice, I hear, I embrace

My destiny is mine and mine alone

Perfect teaches nothing, riches will not follow me to death

Harnessing my power within that is self love

I am the master of my heart, my roots are deep and will stand

To be real is to love, to feel passion, to be loved into eternity

To share love with others is the gift of life, always and forever

So speaks the whispering voice forever heard in my silence

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Kathleen Ludwig's avatar

Such a lovely poem Linda. So well written and tells a story for sure.!!!!!

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Linda Jane Brown's avatar

Thank you very much Kathleen. I hope you have a great rest of your week and stay safe and warm. I wish your Steelers and Penn State luck. ❤️🤗

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Audrey Dumas-Ghidotti's avatar

I particularly liked, "Comparisons rob you of the energy of your soul" I was brought up in a household where there were comparisons made between me and a sibling. It serves no purpose. Nicely done Linda.

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Linda Jane Brown's avatar

Thank you so much Audrey. I like your thought of it serves no purpose. That is so true. I hope you have a great rest of your week. ❤️🤗

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Elizabeth de Pancorvo's avatar

Beautiful poem, Linda! Reminds me of the importance of listening to my inner voice ❤

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Linda Jane Brown's avatar

Thank you very much Elizabeth. ❤️❤️❤️. I hope your week is going good. 🤗❤️

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Juli Warner's avatar

I am glad you have found the love for yourself.

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Linda Jane Brown's avatar

Thank you Juli. I think I need a check up every once in awhile. ❤️ I hope your week is going well. ❤️🤗

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Dia Utterback's avatar

A beautiful transition from the shouting, rage and chaos to your whispering voice and silence. I can feel the calm. Thanks for sharing with us.

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Linda Jane Brown's avatar

Thank you very much Dia. It is so nice having this community where we can share our thoughts and creativity. It is calming in an often crazy world. I hope you have a great rest of your week. ❤️🤗

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Linda Lubitz's avatar

Linda, the whispering voice has so much to tell us when we sit in stillness and listen. A great read, thanks for sharing.

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Linda Jane Brown's avatar

Thank you very much Linda. I love how you often write about being in stillness. I hope you have a great day today. ❤️🤗

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Cathey Cone's avatar

My favorite lines: "Be you as only you can be. Love you as God created you."

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Linda Jane Brown's avatar

Thank you Cathey. When I get hard on myself I always remember where I came from and how we all are unique. Enjoy your day! 🤗❤️

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Jan Stoneburner's avatar

I love your whispering voice -- it is calming, unique & beautiful. xoxo

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Linda Jane Brown's avatar

Thank you very much Jan. Enjoy your day. Xoxo 🤗❤️

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Leigh Sims's avatar

Beautiful Linda. I love the whispering voice that is always there for you.

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Linda Jane Brown's avatar

Thank you very much Leigh. I love this challenge and the way it is pointing my writing in directions I may not normally go. I hope you have a really good weekend! Congratulations on the upcoming birth of your granddaughter. 🤗❤️🙏

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Karen Howells's avatar

Wow! This is profound, honest and filled with hope in the face of life's challenges.

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Linda Jane Brown's avatar

Thank you very much Karen. I struggled a bit with where I wanted to go with it but I really just put my thoughts on paper as Graham suggested and it just flowed. I appreciate your words very much. I hope you have a good weekend. ❤️🤗

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Shari McIntyre's avatar

Linda I love this I love shine your light to the world. And you are uniquely hopeful, loyal, kind and strong. Thank you for sharing.

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Linda Jane Brown's avatar

Thank you very much Shari. Those words reminds me of all the shining lights, the unique, creative people, like you, in this community. Enjoy the rest of your week Shari. ❤️🤗

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Linda Jane Brown's avatar

Thank you so much Kathy. I really am enjoying this challenge, even though I struggle with how to put my thoughts on paper sometimes. I hope your weekend is a good one. It started out great last night. 👏👏. Good luck Buckeyes. ❤️🤗

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I share my poem from the January Writers' Challenge: Week 2

"My soul mate"

My soul mate, my loyal partner,

you go with me on my daily walks.

You remind me of who I am, my pure essence,

and together we explore my inner world.

You guide me with the lessons I learn along the way,

with patience and love, never rushed.

You celebrate with me each of my accomplishments,

and motivate me to always keep moving forward.

You advise me with wisdom and tenderness,

offering me words of encouragement in my moments of doubt.

You lead me on paths of reflection,

and remind me that every step is an opportunity.

Let us celebrate together who I have become,

with my virtues and my weaknesses.

Our conversation ends in a heartfelt embrace,

my soul mate, my best friend.

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Kathleen Ludwig's avatar

A Beautiful poem,telling a beautiful love story. Thank you for sharing your heart!!❤️❤️

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Elizabeth de Pancorvo's avatar

Glad you liked it! Hugs 🤗🤗🤗

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Juli Warner's avatar

Such a special relationship. You are so lucky.

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Elizabeth de Pancorvo's avatar

Thank you Juliann! I like the 5 steps for decision making, it will be very useful for me.

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Linda Lubitz's avatar

Beautiful story of loving relationship!

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Elizabeth de Pancorvo's avatar

Thank you Linda! ❤

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Dia Utterback's avatar

Elizabeth, what a wonderful partner you found in Cesar. I love your love story.

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Elizabeth de Pancorvo's avatar

Muchas gracias Dia! ❤

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Cathey Cone's avatar

You have expressed many times how Cesar is your soul mate and best friend, and this poem tells that story in such a meaningful way. You are blessed!

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Elizabeth de Pancorvo's avatar

Cathey, thank you for your support and motivation ❤

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Linda Jane Brown's avatar

This is beautiful Elizabeth. Your words tell such an endearing story. Thank you for sharing. 🤗❤️

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Elizabeth de Pancorvo's avatar

Thank you for your kind words, Linda! ❤

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Breaha Joy's avatar

What a beautiful, meaningful love! This touches my heart.

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Elizabeth de Pancorvo's avatar

Thank you for your kind words, Breaha! Hugs 🤗

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Valdelice Marinho's avatar

Eu amei seu poema Elizabeth, muito inspirador! Obrigada por compartilhar! 🙌🏻❤️

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Elizabeth de Pancorvo's avatar

Obrigado, Valdelice! Me alegra muito que você tenha gostado ❤️

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Karen Howells's avatar

This is truly lovely and loving. Beautifully expressed

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Elizabeth de Pancorvo's avatar

Thanks for your kind words Karen! 🤗

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Barbara Avgerinos's avatar

Love this. Thanks for sharing.

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Elizabeth de Pancorvo's avatar

Thank you Barbara! ❤

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Elizabeth de Pancorvo's avatar

Thank you for your kind words, Kathy! ❤

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January Writer’s Challenge - Week 2

As I wander through each day

trying to find my way,

my 2 companions are by my side-

myself to the left and my special person,

whom I lost too soon, is on my right.

Hello

Where did you go?

I wanted to talk to you today.

I have so much to say

but God took you away.

He said it was your time

but I said not yet, you were at your prime.

I have never lived alone,

living with family and friends is all I have known.

The “what ifs” are constant in my mind,

as I worry most of the time.

Please guide me and lead the way,

as you are both with me night and day.

My 2 guides do not always agree,

but my best interest is what they want to achieve.

Not all relationships will last

as some will be in the past.

I feel blessed

for my guardian angels are the best.

So together we will stay,

leading me as I make my way,

keeping my journey from going a stray.

I pray I will always be able to hear my voices from within,

as gifts bestowed as I pretend.

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Elaine Hamilton's avatar

May you always feel the warmth of your guardian angels. Beautifully said, Vicky. ❤️

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Vicky Schilhab's avatar

Thank you Elaine, I have felt my guardian angels save me many times 💕

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Elizabeth de Pancorvo's avatar

Thank you for your beautiful and touching poem Vicky! Your guardian angels protect you and are always by your side.

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Vicky Schilhab's avatar

Thank you Elizabeth🥰

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Diane Beddingfield's avatar

Your poem touched my heart deeply. Beautifully written and thank you for sharing. Big hug, my friend.

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Vicky Schilhab's avatar

Thanks for the kind words and hug 🥰

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Leigh Sims's avatar

Vicky, this is so beautiful! I had tears in my eyes as I read it. You will always have your special guardian angel to guide you. ❤️🙏

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Vicky Schilhab's avatar

I hope they do not give up on this “work in progress” 😁 thank you Leigh 😍

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Dia Utterback's avatar

Vicky, Vicky, Vicky! I just want to give you a big hug. Beautiful and emotional and healing. ❤️🥰

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Vicky Schilhab's avatar

Thank you Dia, yes, it is healing. I will meet you 1/2 way 😁

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Juli Warner's avatar

So beautiful Vicky. I love how you speak of your guardian angels.

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Vicky Schilhab's avatar

Thank you Juli 🥰

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Linda Jane Brown's avatar

This is so beautiful, Vicky. I love your heartwarming description of the guardian angels, always by your side, your right and your left. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us. I hope you have a good weekend. ❤️🤗

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Vicky Schilhab's avatar

Thank you Linda, wishing you a warm and happy weekend 😍

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Linda Lubitz's avatar

Vicky, your poem touched my heart. I can relate to the line “ lost too soon”.

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Vicky Schilhab's avatar

Yes, too soon, and then I think of the “what ifs”

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Linda Lubitz's avatar

I had the same feelings and thoughts...if only, since that time I have worked through those feelings, taken a few years. and not easy.

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Breaha Joy's avatar

I feel your pain and sadness, as well as a sense of comfort. It is very heartfelt.

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Cathey Cone's avatar

Losing a life partner must be so, so hard. Thank you for sharing this part of your journey, Vicky.

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Vicky Schilhab's avatar

Thank you for your kind words Breaha 🤗

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Lucinda Jolly's avatar

Week2 Relationships

My Remarkable Friend

When I call on you, I can’t worry.

What I expect is your reassuring stand.

Requests are filled with a calmly laid hand.

Learning to trust in you I do find just what I need.

I don’t have to beg or plead.

Your kindness to me will meet me or exceed.

Quietly I sit under your gaze.

Folding my hands I reach, you touch my face.

Prayer and meditation I find your grace.

A lighter side is when we sing.

Together finding a note to bring

I feel your hands clapping like a birds wing.

Our friendship will never end.

My praises to you I daily send.

Not just my creator but my dearest friend.

This my friend brings me close to others clasping hands to greet and shake.

We find new friends on the way.

We talk about you whom we cannot see.

Agreeing you lead us to unmeasured love.

Everyone knows you when we meet.

Let’s be together and acknowledge who you are.

Walking hand in hand on a trail or by the sea in the sand.

Let this relationship grow and the seeds of faith flow.

Peacefully dwelling together for the world to know.

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Cathey Cone's avatar

Beautiful thoughts, Lucinda!

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Linda Jane Brown's avatar

Beautiful Lucinda. I love it all but particularly…”My praises to you I daily send”. I hope you have a great rest of your week. ❤️🤗

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Leigh Sims's avatar

Very good, Lucinda.

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Juli Warner's avatar

Beautiful, Lucinda.

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Linda Lubitz's avatar

Graham, walking and talking with myself is something I often do when on a solo walk. Just yesterday I purposely took myself for a walk as gentle snow was falling so I could embrace the quiet surrounding me. As I was walking I “ checked” in with myself, we kicked the snow together, listened to the quiet surrounding us, and at the end we were smiling as we enjoyed the beauty around us.

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Karen Howells's avatar

Love the image and feeling of walking in the snow. In the City it quiets the noise and in the country nature's sounds seem more distinct and immediate.

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Elaine Hamilton's avatar

There were many times I was insecure in my younger years. I always wondered “Do they like me”? “Why don’t they like me”?

I am not sure where those insecurities came from because my family and true friends loved and love me.

I learned it was the toxic people in my life that tried to make me think I was unliked and unloved.

Thank God for Your love.

Thank you Graham for inviting me to put my thoughts down on paper.

Here’s my poem about “Relationship”.

Hello..I am Love

I wonder what people think and perceive

Forlorn, insecure, naive me?

Don’t judge, don’t assume, open your eyes

I’m kind, I’m faithful … not in disguise

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Linda Lubitz's avatar

Elaine, this is very touching, the first line draws you into , well done!

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Linda Jane Brown's avatar

I love the way you start your heartfelt poem with love. Well done Elaine! 👏👏. I hope you have a great weekend. ❤️🤗

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Kathleen Ludwig's avatar

January writing challenge week 2. I am looking at this differently than others. I have given this much thought I have a question.

Relationships versus friendships.

If I am your friend

Are we in a relationship?

Hard to define fully

Everyone will have a different perspective

I feel love relationships

Such as I love my husband

Differently than I love my friends.

Yet my husband is my friend.

I love my friends

Yet are we in a relationship??

Complex, friendships versus relationships

There is a difference between loving somebody and being in love with somebody.

Is it different for you, or is it all the same?

Now as I walk with a different version of myself

Will she, the other me

Agree with me??

Different from friendships

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Barbara Forbes Smiechowski's avatar

Nice Kathleen. Hope you find your answers!🤔

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Cathey Cone's avatar

I like your take on this, Kathleen. Good questions!

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Kathleen Ludwig's avatar

Cathey, thank you so much. I appreciate your comment!!!! ,

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Linda Lubitz's avatar

Kathleen, great take on relationships..with self and others. I really enjoyed reading your writing.

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Kathleen Ludwig's avatar

Awe,thank you so much Linda. I appreciate you!!!!

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Elizabeth de Pancorvo's avatar

Good questions Kathleen! I think the important thing is not to stop giving others all the love we have in our hearts ❤

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Kathleen Ludwig's avatar

Elizabeth,I appreciate your comment!!!!

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Dia Utterback's avatar

Hmmm...very thoughtful. Thanks for sharing your questions for us to ponder!

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Kathleen Ludwig's avatar

Thank you so much Dia!!!

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Linda Jane Brown's avatar

I love your questions and the way you expressed them, Kathleen. From my perspective I look at everyone I know is in a relationship with me. That relationship could be casual, professional, business, friendship, familial, spouse etc. Each has a different level of interaction.. Thank you for sharing. I think your questions may be rhetorical, so this is me thinking out loud 😊 I really like your poem! 🤗❤️

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Kathleen Ludwig's avatar

Linda, I appreciate your comments. !!!!!

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Barbara Avgerinos's avatar

Do you remember

The girl who dreamed

Of fame and fortune?

The chance arrived

She chose her love instead.

He was her knight

And she his lady

Their dreams, like

Billowed sails

Floated on clouds.

They lived in the land of

Make believe

Where dreams come true.

But, remember the girl

Lives now in the land

Of reality.

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Juli Warner's avatar

Beautiful but sad. I hope your new reality becomes wondrous.

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Barbara Avgerinos's avatar

Thank you.

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Barbara Avgerinos's avatar

Thank you. May you have a good weekend too.

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Barbara Avgerinos's avatar

Thank you.

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Elizabeth de Pancorvo's avatar

Beautiful poem Barbara! Sometimes life surprises us with dreams come true.

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Barbara Avgerinos's avatar

Thank you.

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Linda Jane Brown's avatar

Your words tell a story, so beautifully expressed, it flows, for me, as a dream waking to reality. Well done. Thank you Barbara, for sharing it with us. I hope you have a good weekend. ❤️🤗

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Lucy Bernas's avatar

Week # 2 Writers Challenge-Relationships

Not sure myself if this makes sense as I am bored in passenger seat on our way home from traveling. No poem enclosed just my thoughts about relationships.

HEALING ON THE LETTING GO

I've observed in our society the subject about setting boundaries, there's often a tendency to create both physical and emotional distances that may feel abrupt or even jarring ( what I call unhealthy healing - surface level )

This isn’t necessarily a negative development, there are indeed moments when such separations are not just necessary, but vital for our well-being. Yet, it's crucial to recognize that if you simply walk away from a relationship or a damaging situation without taking the time to process the accompanying emotional pain, those unresolved feelings and protective patterns will continue to linger within you.

This is about taking the time to heal.

If you skip over the essential work of unpacking those emotions, and neglect to reflect on what transpired, you increase the likelihood of finding yourself very similar dynamic in the future

Ask yourself: what were the red flags that you perhaps ignored? Which painful experiences echoed past wounds?, how was that hurt familiar?

How did you contribute to the dynamic at hand ( hold you self accountable ), What could you have done differently? and what lessons might you carry from it? Furthermore, what alternative actions could you consider if you ever find yourself in a comparable scenario again? I call this process awareness in the application.

And, more important than these questions is allowing yourself to fully feel the feelings you didn't get to process in that dynamic with that person/situation. The truth is, you don't require the other person’s presence to navigate this internal work—you possess the ability to confront your pain with kindness, you can learn to meet your own pain with compassion, space, safety, and curiosity so that you don't carry that pain forward. Your own understanding and validation are indeed enough, a realization that becomes increasingly powerful as you cultivate a deeper connection with yourself.

Through the process of reflection and emotional processing, you can uncover new layers about your own identity and gain fresh perspectives on the dynamics you've endured. So, take a moment to slow down. Pause. Reflect on your experiences. Tune into your body—it often holds onto the weight of unexpressed emotion. Learn to set healthy boundaries!

It's important to recognize the value of letting go and moving forward in life, but equally crucial is allowing yourself the necessary time to fully process your experience. This includes acknowledging your feelings, grieving for what you've lost, and taking the opportunity to learn from the situations you've faced.

When we cut and run without processing, the patterns are more likely to repeat.

Give yourself the space & support to grow.

As you prepare to transition into 2025??? consider what you might be letting go of as you move forward??? . Have you carved out time to truly process the conclusion of this chapter in your life?

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Elizabeth de Pancorvo's avatar

Thank you for your beautiful reflection, Lucy! ❤

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Linda Jane Brown's avatar

This is so beautiful and thought provoking. I love your emphasis on not only letting go but reflection and the processing of emotions. Thank you so much Lucy for sharing your thoughts. Safe travels. ❤️🤗

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Breaha Joy's avatar

Thank you for your thoughtful reflection and invitation, Lucy!

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Bonnie Giddings's avatar

The relationship I have with myself is the most important thing that I've ever had to create in a human forum.

The true meaning for me is being myself, because that is all that I can be!

I've created my own identity and a strong personality and am unique and talented in my own special way.

A child like me wants acceptance and for someone to care, but many times no one was there.

I trust what my body is telling me.

My core values and beliefs for life are uniquely made for me.

I let my conscience be my guide, the inner child voices listening, talking and answering me.

The rhythm in my brain that makes my body move to the beat of a different drum is the way it is supposed to be.

I got magic in my touch and am worth more than anyone could offer

I have sensory that help me navigate the way I see my life growing and moving through each chapter of my life.

Having a good relationship with myself at a young age help me promote a sense of self-worth, and awareness that I had to accept because I had different abilities than everyone else.

The freedom I gave myself to live was a gift I've cherished all my life!

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Jan Stoneburner's avatar

I am sharing an earlier poem I just modified for this challenge because it speaks to one of the most meaningful relationships in my life -- one that I've have figured out — finally… Ha!

He held my had that night walking down the plank to the “Odyssey.”

The gem-like stars and springtime moonbeams glistening through the glass roof

Pink petals and bubbly champagne

Covering our table for two

A delicious three-course dinner featuring beef tenderloin and tiramisu

A Kenyan attache and his wife sitting nearby

Asking for our secrets to success

Glowing landmarks reflecting in the shadowy Potomac River

Waves of memories floating by

Live music and slow dances

Celebrating commitment

A romantic 50th anniversary

He held my hand that night walking back up the plank

To another odyssey.

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Elizabeth de Pancorvo's avatar

Beautiful memories of such a special night! ❤

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Juli Warner's avatar

I love the last part.

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Linda Lubitz's avatar

Jan, such a heart warming description of a special memory. Congratulations on 50 years of a wonderful relationship!

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Cathey Cone's avatar

A very special night! So many years of sharing life. Congratulations on all it took for you to be married 50 years and still feel this way!

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Linda Jane Brown's avatar

I love your description of this special night, which speaks to your special relationship and a special memory. It sounds like a beautiful evening. Xoxo

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Christine Davies's avatar

CONVERSATIONS IN MY HEAD

I often have debates

Inside my head.

A battle rages on

From what I've said.

I talk out loud

To reassure myself.

Have a conversation

On how to help.

I hear my fear,

I hear my rage.

My other voice tells me

Not to feel this way.

Where is my patience?

Where is my calm?

I need to breathe,

A soothing balm.

I reflect and think

On conversations had,

On advice given,

Not to feel bad.

I'm being too harsh

I know it's true.

In many situations,

I don't have to do.

I don't need to do everything

From people asked.

I don't have to pretend

Or keep being masked.

There's nothing wrong

With saying 'no',

No explanation needed,

No need to do so.

I know my limitations,

And that's just fine.

I've learnt from experience

From lots of time.

Though it took awhile,

With professional help.

I gained so much knowledge

Learnt about myself.

I have some quirks,

Some medical conditions,

But that's okay,

I can make those admissions.

I talk to myself,

Calm myself down.

I'm not a bad person

No need to frown.

So continue to reassure yourself,

When not doing so well.

Think of how far you've come

Let the feeling swell.

Have positive conversations,

Of passions found.

Take up those passions

And let it surround.

Enjoy what you have,

What you've been given

Get out of your mind

It's time to start living.

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I often have conversations with myself. Both in my head and out loud. Living alone, it's easy to do.

I'll say I'm stupid then tell myself to not say that.

It helps me calm down. I do tge same thing with scribble writing in note books. It let's the negativity out and resolution, positive thoughts in.

After being programmed to always come last, that everything is my fault, and to never say 'no', I have learnt to put myself first, say no when I want and allow myself to decide. I am finally free of that program and it has freed me.

I sometimes revert, but not as much as I used to. It's an ongoing journey to better myself.

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Leigh Sims's avatar

Beautiful Christine! I am so touched by your honesty and vulnerability, and so proud for all you’ve accomplished. Thank you for sharing.

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Christine Davies's avatar

What a beautiful and touching comment. Thank you so much Leigh💖🤗.

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Robin's avatar

This is powerful and raw. Thank you so much for this honest writing. Your healing path is inspirational.

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Christine Davies's avatar

Thank you so much Robin💖🙏🤗. It's ongoing, but I have made progress.

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Robin's avatar

You are doing an amazing job. It is a long road back to you, but you are well on your way. Peace and blessings always.

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Christine Davies's avatar

💖🙏💖

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Elizabeth de Pancorvo's avatar

Beautiful poem Christine! Your perseverance to overcome life's challenges are inspiring. 🤗

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Christine Davies's avatar

Your are so sweet Elizabeth🤗💖. Gracias, 🙏

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Kathleen Ludwig's avatar

Christine,your poem is beautiful. So well spoken. I appreciate your vulnerability. Never doubt yourself Christine. You are beautiful. Great job.👏👏❤️🙏🏻🙂

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Christine Davies's avatar

Thanks so much Kathleen 💖🤗. You are so kind. 🙏💖

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Juli Warner's avatar

You are such fun. I am glad I got to spend time with you in Sydney. I know it is difficult for you and I love how you are able to get out of your comfort zone.

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Christine Davies's avatar

I so appreciate your touching comment. Means a lot to me as I appreciate you. I am so happy that I got to meet you in Sydney also. 💖🤗💖🙏

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Linda Jane Brown's avatar

Thank you for sharing your heartfelt journey with us. I love your last line about living. You got this Christine! ❤️👏. Enjiy your weekend. ❤️🤗

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Christine Davies's avatar

Thank you so much Linda 💖🤗🙏. I am happy to see your writing also. 💖

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Thank you so much Kathey🤗💖

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