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Irene Kigais's avatar

Thanks Graham for another thought provoking poem .If you had asked me last week , what is calling from my world in deep, I would have had a different answer . Today was a difficult day for me as I received the news I was dreading to hear about my mothers health as she was diagnosed with Alzheimers. My calling is to be strong and not to give up , care for my mother and to make lots of memories together before her condition deteriorates and she won’t remember me . This must be the hardest thing on earth to watch somebody you love forget they love you❤️

Irene Kigais's avatar

I would like to say a broad thank you to every single one of you who took time to reply to me . I can’t reply to everyone individually , I just need to tell you that your kind and encouraging words have touched me deeply and have helped me a lot. I love this beautiful little community that Graham has created here at Substack full of wonderful and caring people!! 🙏❤️

Danny Payne's avatar

Irene…you really have to feel good about the love and support you are receiving from this community. I personally think it is amazing. While we have not met in person there is obviously a strong connection among us which to me makes it all the more amazing. Love and blessings to you and your Mother.💕🙏

Linda Lubitz's avatar

Irene, may you find comfort and strength in knowing you have the prayers of many. God will be with you and your Mom every step, every day.

Lucy Bernas's avatar

You know how to get a hold of me ❤️🙏

Marsha Cullen's avatar

I feel the same as you Irene! 🙏❤

Shari McIntyre's avatar

Irene I’m here whenever you need me. Love my friend ❤️

Cindy LaMantia's avatar

Continuing prayers and hugs, Irene 🙏🏼💞

Silvina Rosenberg's avatar

Whatever you need, here for you 💕

Danny Payne's avatar

Absolutely Irene…prayers to you🙏💕

Bev Butler's avatar

Irene we are all here for you 💖🙏🇦🇺

Cathey Cone's avatar

I'm so sorry to hear about your mom, Irene. I know this was in the back of your mind for awhile now, but it's still so difficult to hear. May God carry you while you care for her. Remember to take care of yourself and allow yourself to feel all the feelings. Much love to you!

Irene Kigais's avatar

Thanks Cathey 🙏❤️

Aimee Moore's avatar

I think I was fortunate in a way, maybe it was worse in others. Dad had dementia. He never forgot me though he got a little iffy on Mom sometimes, but he forgot reality. His mind became this horrible dark carnival.

Alzheimer’s and dementia are two very difficult things to watch a loved one go through. I wish I could wave a wand or twitch my nose and make those two diseases among many others cease to exist.

Irene, you are one of the strongest people I know, but if you eventually need help to care for her it doesn’t make you any less strong. That was something I struggled with in caring for my Mom. I felt less a person for getting help because I couldn’t do it alone anymore. And that was absolutely not true. It takes a very strong person to admit they need help and to ask for it. So I’m saying this, if and when it gets to that point, it’s okay! You are amazing and I love you so much Mum! Big hugs!

Lucy Bernas's avatar

Well said Ms. Amy I took care both my in laws end of life and now I am taking care of clients that has Alzheimer’s grateful I am able to help them.

Kathleen Ludwig's avatar

That was beautifully said Aimee and so true my sister and I experienced something similar with our mother that was many years ago. One person can't do it all and as time goes on it gets harder and harder.

Aimee Moore's avatar

Thank you❤️. Yes it does, and it’s so easy to become convinced asking for help is a weakness, but you have to be strong to know and admit when you can’t do it on your own anymore.

Barbara Forbes Smiechowski's avatar

Irene, I'm terribly sorry that your mother has this awful disease. I was a caregiver for a couple of years to the most wonderful woman I have ever met who had this disease. I spent time with her, enjoying her and supporting her. It was the most fulfilling job I ever had. You as a daughter will experience it in a whole different way. My thoughts are that you take each day as a gift and give your Mom the support she needs as her memory slips away. She may in the end not remember you are her daughter, but she will see you as a loving friend who cares for her. When she is back in God's loving care she will be so thankful you supported her through all of it. Blessings to you and your Mom.

Kathleen Ludwig's avatar

Hi Irene, so sorry about the diagnosis your Mom is facing. I really don't know you but yet I feel like I do. You are so kind and caring I can feel that when I read what you write to so many of us here. Your Mom will need you now more than ever. I know it will be hard, but you can do it. Even though you are many miles away from most of us here, you know that we will all be here for you. I offer you my prayers for your Mom as well as for yourself. Take care and God bless.

Irene Kigais's avatar

Thanks Kathleen for your kind words. It was lovely to see you at the zoom chat. 🙏❤️

Kathleen Ludwig's avatar

Thank you Irene I was a little nervous because I always wanted to do it never had enough nerve but I got through with this time now I think I'll feel better about it the next time I want to do it. It's nice to see everybody on those zooms and put a face to the names that you've become familiar with.

Anne Wooten's avatar

Irene - I just stopped work and prayed for you and your mother. Thank you for sharing with me over on Instagram. I pray God will provide all the comfort and strength to you and your mother as you go through this. I truly believe a lot of people will be lifting you up in prayer within this community. Thank you for feeling comfortable to share this with us. Take care of yourself too! Much love to you and God bless you my dear friend!

Jody Sweeney's avatar

I am so sorry to hear about your mom, Irene. I lost my mom to cancer last year, but I am so grateful for the last months we had together. I am praying that you have many months, and hopefully years, to enjoy each other. God will teach you many lessons through this (especially patience!). I'm also praying for strength and comfort for you during this time.

Donna Armstrong's avatar

Irene, I'm so very saddened and sorry to hear this. Its so extremely hard to be a caregiver. God will keep you strong and help you do all that you need to do. I send my hugs and prayers!

Sherry Kerdman's avatar

So sorry to hear this Irene! You are strong and steadfast. It will be a difficult journey but one I know you are equipped to walk through. You have often said you are making the best of every day with your Mom. I know you will continue to do so with all your energy and all your heart. Praying for you and for your mother. Sending love. 💜🙏🏻

Rosalie's avatar

Irene, I am so very sorry your mom has Alzheimer’s. I know first hand how heart wrenching it is when your loved one has Alzheimer’s. You can do this, Irene. You have many people who care about you and will be praying for you. Please though, remember to take care of yourself and ask for help when you need it. I will continue to send positive, strength and healing thoughts your way. Make those memories!!!

Laura's avatar

My mother in law has Alzheimers and she is 87. She lives alone next door to us which is her choice. She plays cards on her computer, reads magazines and 2 newspapers every day. She loves her computer. She goes to Adult Day Care 2 days a week because she can put my husband in a tail spin at times. We take care of her and she is happy as long as there is structure and a routine even though she can't remember the routine. We give her all of her meds. She delivered Meals on Wheels until a few years ago and now she gets Meals on Wheels. We encourage her and keep her on a schedule. It is amazing the way her mind works or does not work. I wish you well on your journey with your mom. Take it one day at a time and do what she will let you do for her as long as you can. If I can help you, please reach out. It is a heart wrenching illness.

Teresa Montgomery's avatar

My love, thoughts and prayers are with you at this time Irene. Your mum is in good hands as she is with you and she is loved. I know how you will be feeling having been through the same thing with Bill's mum. Just take care i

of yourself and ask for help when you need it. ❤

Juliane's avatar

Irene ❤️ it’s a though diagnose. It was a part of my job (night shift) earlier to take care of people with all kind of diagnoses of dementia. There’s so many variants, and almost all of them ending up forgetting the people they love. It’s heartbreaking for the family, but try to remember the good times. I know it’s hard, but you could do it 🥰 they almost always remember things from earlier years. So maybe you can get som stories from your mothers earlier life, then you have something to talk about when she forgets, that’s things she can relate to and maybe remember. I have “feed” horses on night shift, because a man were so worried about the horse. And I have done so many other things too, to keep them calm and get a good night sleep. Well, just send me a message if you want to, I am a good listener :) hugs ❤️

Irene Kigais's avatar

Thanks Julianne so much ,everything you said is so right and one of the things I have started doing is writing a journal with all the old stories my mum has been sharing me . I may take you up on your offer and message you when I'm feeling overwhelmed !:)

Leigh Sims's avatar

I’m so sorry to hear this Irene. I pray for God’s love to surround you as you take this journey with your mom. And I pray that He will guide you and watch over you. Make lots of memories to cherish but take care of you too. Remember we all love you and we’re here for you. ❤️❤️

Patty Hamilton's avatar

IRENE I am so sorry for this news about your mom ! but I understand it too well I can tell you its not easy but the best advice I got when I was going through this was go along with them no matter what they are saying . its very hard but you will get used to just loving them more and agreeing with them makes it easier for you in the long run. its a very sad but they make it fun just to be with them . YOUR MOM AND YOUR FAMILY WILL REMAIN IN MY PRAYERS. SENDING ALL MY LOVE !!!!!

Cynthia Aaro's avatar

Hi Irene, my mother has dementia and I am thankful or everyday that I see her. I live in the same town as Mom and Dad, so I work remotely one day a week from their house to help my Dad out so he can run errands and such. They also know that they can call me anytime if they need help. Somedays are good somedays are bad, every once in awhile the old Mom will pop out. My mother has forgotten a lot of people even me at times, I just remember it is not her who has forgotten it is the disease. God Bless you and your family as you go through this difficult time. Please know that I am here if you ever need to talk.

Anne Wooten's avatar

Wow Graham, after speaking with you Saturday on the Founder's Call and sharing with you and others the many amazing things that has happened on this journey of mine for the last four months or so, this beautiful poem really summarizes everything and encapsulates it all. God constantly is the guiding light that leads my heart and my walk in faith to be able to stay the course on this journey even when the struggles of life or insecurities decide to rear their ugly heads. Like yourself, my one desire while taking care of myself both spiritually and physically, is to encourage and lift others up. If one thing I share inspires one person, the blessing I receive from that humbles me so much. That is what this is all about for me. After all these years, I can truly say that I am happy where I am in life now, and whatever challenges or surprises that arise in the future, I will let my faith guide me through those. Again, it was a pleasure speaking with you on Saturday. I always enjoy the Zoom calls hearing from everyone sharing their experiences, etc. Graham, thank you again for sharing your inspiration with us and to this amazing community, I wish each and everyone God speed and all the blessings! Cheers!

Cathey Cone's avatar

I feel much the way you do, Anne. So grateful for God opening my heart to living out my calling in new ways. The fulfillment is overwhelmingly humbling and beautiful.

Anne Wooten's avatar

Amen Cathey! It took awhile to get here, but it's worth it in the end. The blessings are overwhelming, humbling, and oh so beautiful. Take care and God bless!

Lucy Bernas's avatar

I too Anne as God is holding my hands and always with me every time I have my surgery. And for guiding me to this path and meeting all of you is amazing .

Anne Wooten's avatar

Amen Lucy! I love seeing your progress in the photos you've shared. You are truly a blessing and an inspiration to me and so many others! God is truly holding your hands and so many others in this group. Take care and God bless my friend!

Tricia Thornton's avatar

Anne, I might be getting your writing and the writing here all jumbled up in my head. It’s also wonderful! I came across this today in my devotion from Ann Voskamp. It just seemed so pertinent, and I thought I would share it with you and the rest of the community.

”And when you want what isn’t happening — want grace more.

The grace that washes wounds,

the grace that carries you,

the grace that always carries you forward,

that carries you to better things around the next bend,

the grace that makes you brave.

The grace that covers all the things you didn’t do,

and makes all things into the right you hoped things to be.” ~ Ann Voscamp

Anne Wooten's avatar

Tricia - you don't have anything mixed up. Absolutely loved what you shared because it is God's grace that carries us forward and helps to be brave. But it's up to each one of us to stay vulnerable to submit to God's will to guide us with the heart and not with the head. Grace makes all that possible. That's the way I interpret what you shared and what I wrote One Day at a Time. earlier today. It all comes together because in the end, Grace should win each time and let God guide the heart. I write with how the heart guides me. Hopefully, that helps. God bless my friend!

Christine Davies's avatar

You're doing so well Anne. You've achieved so many goals & continue to do so. Well done & keep up the good work. 💖

Anne Wooten's avatar

Thanks Christine. With God, all things are possible. That's what I try to do each and every day! Take care and God bless!

Jan Kieser's avatar

Anne, you are such a blessing! I read your comments and have also begun to read your Substack.. you are a true inspiration! ❤️

Anne Wooten's avatar

Thanks Jan! I appreciate it. I've been tremendously blessed beyond anything I could ever believe. That is exactly how God works. It takes hard work on our behalf, but in the end, it's all worth it. God is there fighting for us, but we need to let him in to do so. We're all here to encourage one another, but for me, I owe everything to God because without HIM, none of this would be possible. Thank you for your kind words. Take care and God bless!

Leigh Sims's avatar

Anne, you have inspired me more than you know. The story of your journey pushes me to take the steps I need to for better health and a closer walk with God. As I have gotten older my focus has changed to the things that are truly important. Thank you. I pray for continued success for you on your walk with God.

Anne Wooten's avatar

Leigh, I'm right there with you. I find also the older we get, we appreciate what truly is important. Our focus naturally shifts I believe. But also with that comes for me to totally surrender to God for each and every step of this journey. I appreciate your kind words. Take care and God bless!

Shari McIntyre's avatar

Anne, congrats on keeping up with your weight loss journey. I’m right there with you as I’m on my own weight loss journey. You inspire me and each time I read your comments and your blog. We have to keep our faith in God to have him guide us every day. Keeping him in our lives and letting him help us thru our journey is key. Thank you Anne for keeping us inspired so we to can keep going, share in our success and know even if we falter people like you can keep us going. Take care my dear friend.

Anne Wooten's avatar

Thanks Shari - and right back to you. Thanks for sharing this about you also. With God all things are possible. Amen! Take care and God bless!

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Anne Wooten's avatar

Thank you for the kind words Jody! God is my guiding light and takes me through the highs and lows of life or this journey. You are a blessing yourself. Take care and God bless!

Pat Kretschmer's avatar

Hi everyone. I am a new member, my name is Pat. My response to your question Graham is that I have been pulled toward a spiritual pilgrimage-- it's called the Way of St. James, also known as Camino de Santiago. It is a 500 mile walk from France to Spain. I am leaving next month and I'm a little anxious at this point as to whether I can complete the hike through the mountains on my own. But, this pilgrimage is also about self reflection, a way to build character by venturing into the unknown. In my heart I know I'm supppse to do this. If I stay positive, and connected to God I know I will make it safely to the end.

Dia Utterback's avatar

Pat, I walked part of the Camino in 2017. It will be a life changing journey for you. It was for me! You can totally do this. You will probably find and form your Camino family early on and they will be your friends for life! Buen Camino!

Pat Kretschmer's avatar

Thank you Dia for your comment. It truly does help to relieve my anxiety!

Dia Utterback's avatar

Are you part of the FB page Camigas - A Buddy System for Women on the Camino? Lots of great info and inspiration. Check it out.

Pat Kretschmer's avatar

You know, I don't really spend alot of time on social media. I unsubsidized from FB some time ago. I may have to consider getting back on it. Thanks for reminding me of this resource.

Dia Utterback's avatar

That's a good thing! Camigas can be a great resource for you. And I'd love to give you a few names of my favorite places/alburges that we stayed out. Let me know.

Kathryn Brand's avatar

I pray God’s angels will be with you!

Kathleen Ludwig's avatar

Hi Pat, welcome to this great community that our beloved Graham created, and we so love. The pilgrimage that you are about to seems amazing. Your God and your heart will guide to success.

Hope you will enjoy it here and we will always be here for you. Please share your adventure with us when you have completed it. Nice to have you here. Graham is a special young man.

Carolyn Vann's avatar

Welcome Pat! That is awesome about your spiritual walk!! I will be praying for you that you will have great weather during your journey. I am so happy that you are getting to do this! God bless you!!!

Leigh Sims's avatar

Welcome to the group Pat. Prayers for success on your pilgrimage. May God watch over you and guide you every step of the way.

Patty Driskill's avatar

Welcome! I worship at a church named for St. James. I've heard of this. May you receive the love and help you will receive as you make this journey!

Kathryn Brand's avatar

Amen! You will make it being connected to God. Welcome to our community!

Shari McIntyre's avatar

Pat welcome to our little community. We all know you can do this. As long as you have God on your side you can do anything. I will make you a promise. I will in-vision that you have already made it thru the mountains if you will to. Together we will get this done all of us. Blessings to you.

Irene Kigais's avatar

Welcome Pat , wishing you all the best in your journey :)

Laura's avatar

Welcome! This sounds like an amazing journey. I wish you the best. I can't wait to hear about it.

Teresa Montgomery's avatar

Welcome to the community Pat. I am sure you will enjoy this walk. I haven't done it but saw movie about it and it was very interesting. May you meet many wonderful people and find God in a new and deeper way. Blessings

Joan J.'s avatar

Welcome, Pat! I’m very excited for you! I was able to walk a bit of the Camino a few years ago and it was very special and a memory I hold very close to my heart. Trust me, you will find much encouragement, companionship, support and remarkable insights throughout your journey. The Camino is a remarkable experience. There are a few films about the Camino you might enjoy. A favorite is “The Way” with Martin Sheen. Many blessings as you embark upon your journey of the Camino.

Pat Kretschmer's avatar

Thank for your encouragement Joan. Yes I did see The Way and loved it.

Patty Hamilton's avatar

WELCOME PAT !!!!this is a great place !! I pray you will enjoy as much as I do . these people are all so full of LOVE . good Luck on your walk. I just got back from a month long trip . my experience was so great !! I will keep you in my prayers. send you much LOVE .

Christine Davies's avatar

Welcome Pat. What a goal you have set for yourself. Amazing. Very brave. I wish you all the very best on your pilgrimage & hope you find what you are seeking. 🙏

Anne Wooten's avatar

Welcome to the community Pat. What a wonderful thing you shared that you will be doing. As long as you are guided by the heart, I bet things will go well. God will be with you every step of the way. I'm you glad you joined Substack. Wishing you peace and Godspeed on this journey!

Juliann Desmond's avatar

Welcome Pat. What an awesome undertaking you are embarking on. My former roommate has done the Camino a couple of times & she is in her 70s. Prayers to you for a meaningful journey. 🙏🙏🙏

Lucy Bernas's avatar

Todays poem really made me look at myself that my beautification journey shall pass , I’ve written last week title Grace. Grace is Gods acceptance without having to earn it. No matter what we’re going thru God is with you, I have learn thru this journey that God has a better plan and it’s my patience. It’s my faith that we can really rejoice when we go through hard times because I have discovered a special secret and form of passion and my faith in God increases. Have you ever felt like no matter how much you accomplish or did you just couldn’t gain the love or attention that you wanted from someone or that you still didn’t fit in? I have. We live in such a performance base world that often times , we find ourselves on a fast track, chasing others, approval in order to fit in. When we fall into the “ people pleaser” trap it leads us feeling discouraged,unloved , and even hopeless. But, Grace change everything! Graham thank you for sharing your inspiration as I am slowly moving forward and with this community I am slowly healing. I read this verse every day “ God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble .” Psalm 46:1 The live chat was pretty awesome I really enjoy the live zoom except I don’t have a good internet as I was not home and I was able to listen and see you and Kerry and everyone.Thank you everyone for all kind words and prayers you all are amazing and I now back home .Cheers!

Susie Stapleton's avatar

Grace is what we need. It is free

Patty Driskill's avatar

Grace: Just needs to be accepted.

Christine Davies's avatar

People pleasing is a no win situation. Unfortunately so many of us get caught in the trap. I have been caught in it many times. We need to be happy within ourselves.

Wishing you all the best on your continued journey, Lucy. 🙏💖

Cathey Cone's avatar

You are doing a beautiful job of sharing your journey, my friend! Grace is a big word and like you, I'm so thankful for it! You bless me every day with what you share. Have confidence in what God is giving you to do!

Patty Driskill's avatar

I am trying to hit the heart button, but something is wrong and it won't grow through. I appreciate what you said to Christine.

Leigh Sims's avatar

Lucy, I’m so glad your recovery is going well. Your faith and positive attitude are amazing. You are a light shining bright in this crazy world.

Lucy Bernas's avatar

Thank you Leigh❤️🙏

Anne Wooten's avatar

So glad the recovery is going well for you Lucy, and I love what you shared and wrote about recently. Amen to everything you shared in your comments. God will take us through each and everything in our lives. Take care my friend and wishing you all the best! God bless!

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Well said Lucy! I have struggled to get out of the 'people pleaser trap' - and I'm finding it easier than I believed it would be now. It is so empowering to speak your truth. It helps when you can let go of the need for approval. God loves you ❤️ that's all you need to know. Much love ❤️

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Lucy Bernas's avatar

Thank you Judy and I will be praying for you also.🎈

Cathey Cone's avatar

I feel my calling has always been to be a light to people, to give hope, to encourage and lift up. However, I’ve spent this last year realizing that how I thought I was living out my true calling was being limited by certain boxes I had put myself in. About a year ago now I broke out of those boxes and my calling came to be manifested in whole new ways. I had spent many years squelching what God really wanted me to be doing because I wasn’t open to the possibilities that He wanted to provide for me. It’s been the most amazing journey that has given me new passion and joy. It’s hard to even describe the freedom and fulfillment from doing what I’m gifted to do and to see the ripples that come from being open to God’s leading. I’m learning to surrender every day and refuse to get back in those boxes that used to limit me. I want to encourage all to really go deep within yourself and listen to what God is whispering, then follow your heart. When you take that step, it all works out in surprising and amazing ways. Graham, this poem speaks my heart! Thank you for sharing yours. And by the way - you really nailed the rhyming on this one. I've been working on that as well. Well done!!

Lucy Bernas's avatar

You are my light and I am so grateful of our friendship even only thru social media and when I need help with my substack you are always there for me. Thank you ❤️

Cathey Cone's avatar

I am equally blessed by our friendship! 💕

Shari McIntyre's avatar

Cathey you are an inspiration to me. I to have to let God in and help me. I need to hear him speak to me. I asked God this morning of all things in the shower it seem that’s where I do most of my talking LOL. I ask him for strength and guidance to help me hear him, to lead me thru my day. I know he will I just have to tune into him. Thank you again Cathey.

Cathey Cone's avatar

Wow - thank you, Shari. The process was interesting for me as first I had to get quiet, let all the feelings and fears work through and then I could hear what God was telling me to do. Once I surrendered control, the path became very clear. I tend to want to get ahead of God sometimes and then remember to slow down, get quiet and wait. I'll be praying for you that His guidance will come to you in ways that you know clearly what is next for you. 💕

Anne Wooten's avatar

Amen Cathey! I couldn't not have said it better myself. I too refuse to go back to those old boxes. The freedom and fulfillment I feel right now is overwhelming and exciting at the same time. When we do act in Faith and let ourselves be totally vulnerable before God, he will provide all the necessary tools to take us on the journey he has laid before us. You are an inspiration to me, and I so appreciate you. Take care and God bless!

Cathey Cone's avatar

Likewise! Here's to breaking out of boxes!! 💕

Cathey Cone's avatar

I truly feel I am! Ridiculously enjoying my life right now.

Kathleen Ludwig's avatar

I have lived on this earth for many more years than I have left to live. That at times can be very scary, but I try so hard to not dwell on that. Life has thrown me many curve balls and I always have tried to deal with it in a positive way, not only for myself, but how it could effect others. My faith, my family, and so many great teachers along the way have helped lead to be the person I have always wanted to be. Not perfect, but happy!!! Graham's poems, even at my age,have put my mind to work and I am loving it. I am not the writer that some here are, but I am forced to look back and reflect on who I am and what I can still be and move on it. Never did I ever expect that at this time last year when I started watching a show called HEARTLAND, that it would lead me to Graham and this great community. Thank you Graham, you inspire this "Older" lady every day. Thank you God for leading me here, YOU knew what I needed. 🙏🙏🙏❤❤❤👏👏

Cathey Cone's avatar

You don't have to be a "writer" to be a writer! Graham always says he was never a writer either but look at the wonderful poems he shares that inspire so many. As he often says, if you share from your heart, the quality of the writing is not the most important thing. I am often inspired by what "non-writers" share and love that they say things differently than I do, but are just as meaningful. Please keep sharing!

Anne Wooten's avatar

Kathleen, I too am NOT a writer, but God gives me the words to share about the journey I'm currently on. Every word I share in the comments or over on my blog comes from the heart and guided by God through my faith. Believe me when I tell you, if you feel that tug on your heart that is guiding you to do something out of your comfort zone, pray about it and move forward with it if you feel such a powerful pull in that direction. You bless each and everyone of us in this community. We are glad you're here! Take care and God bless!

Christine Davies's avatar

You are a writer Anne. You write with your heart & that to me is the best writer be it of stories or poetry. 💖

Lucy Bernas's avatar

Kathleen I am no writer either but it’s good for me to start un stock myself and share my journey. I have watch Heartland since 2007 my family in Alberta introduce me lol as my aunt would recorded and mail them to me. I am a reader not a tv person and I didn’t really get into watching it until I got sick so I would watch heartland dvd while having my chemo as I have a portable DVD car player . I joined back up on social media last year as I am slowly moving forward. That’s when I meet so many amazing friends.

Patty Driskill's avatar

I love your expression "reflect on who I am and what I can still be and move on it. Everyone can benefit from that ! Me, especially. There are many of us in this community who are senior citizens. I might even be a senior, senior citizen! ha. So, I hope all of us in this community tap, as Graham's today's poem says, into the base of who we are and live on it.

Brenda Lup's avatar

Kathleen, I also found Heartland and Graham during the pandemic. I have never followed an actor/ writer before, but I do look forward to every Tuesday to read Grahams inspirational poems.

God has lead everyone in this community to here.. 🙏🙏🙏

Christine Davies's avatar

I'm was never good at school & don't consider myself a real writer. But I write. It maybe simple & not perfect, but it's something I'm still proud of.

If you love to write & it's a passion of yours, write & be proud of what you have accomplished.

Kathleen Ludwig's avatar

Thank you Christine for your kind words. Sometimes I amaze myself because I think what am I going to say how can I relate to this or that and then when I stop and I think and I reflect I find the words and being in this community and being part of this poems of Graham helped me with that.

Lucinda Jolly's avatar

It’s less than a month from now I will turn 68. These last months with your poems have brought my thoughts to remembering the past. Where I have come from and who I listened to. My classroom of life was some of my parents then a wonderful pastor to point me to the wonders of God. I really have had two moments of boldness. I moved with my two dogs to San Diego for three years. Now I’m doing this childrens story once a week. That is my deep, a little scared of rejections and making mistakes. I don’t have life ahead of me that is a long one but I will pray to keep wonderful people like you in it.

Anne Wooten's avatar

Lucinda - you have such a sweet spirit about you. I haven't met you, but by reading your comments, that's something I just feel. Do not fear mistakes or rejections my friend. We've all had those, but as long as you are being guided by your heart, the rest will take care of itself. I'm so glad you shared this with us. This community is just that, encouraging one another as we go through our journeys of life. Take care and God bless!

Lucinda Jolly's avatar

Thank you Anne I appreciate that. God has brought me to it and He walks with me in it.

Patty Driskill's avatar

Hi Lucinda, I was thinking of you today and my all time favorite children's book. The title is "Because Amelia Smiled" by David Ezra Stein. It's a great book to read aloud. If a globe is available, the children can see how Amelia's smile makes a trip around the world. The globe would be turned one full trip! Continuing to send you heart wishes!

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Please don't dwell on your age! I salute you for sharing yourself in such a wonderful way with children. This community will NEVER reject you. We all make mistakes; let them go and have fun looking for a book for next week's children's story. Pure suggestion: is either of your dogs of such personality as to be able to visit a facility? Does your community have a literacy organization needing a tutor? All the best to you!

Lucinda Jolly's avatar

I don’t dwell on it just regret not starting sooner.

Patty Driskill's avatar

I apologize for using a word that was offensive to you. Sending you all good wishes and prayers for peace about the past, which I personally know can be hard but doable.

Christine Davies's avatar

Have faith in yourself & I'm sure you will succeed, Lucinda. 💖🙏

Brenda Lup's avatar

Hello.Lucinda. I turned 68 this month. I also think about how many years I have left. Same as you. Enjoy each day and.continue to move forward. Best wishes to you...🙏😊

Bek Crispin's avatar

Thanks so much for these words Graham. I am a new member and just wanted to share a little bit of where I am at lately, as so many others here have so bravely done. I am currently a stay at home mum of 3 little girls and this often has me feeling a little trapped mentally and physically, it can be difficult to get out and about with the kids and as much as I love my girls more than anything they really do demand a lot of my time and head space right now. So I've been trying to think of ways that I can follow in the direction I am feeling pulled towards lately which is to help other struggling young mums that may not have the family support that I or other mums are blessed to have. I have had an idea for a community outreach program for a while now, focusing at first on young struggling mums/families and building up from there. As much as it scared me I finally built up the courage to approach a few in my church community to form a small committee to bounce ideas off each other and get the wheels in motion for this outreach program. I feel really proud of making these first steps, as small as they were and it has really built my confidence and I am ready to hit the ground running. Just wanted to share that and to say God bless to all of you :)

Tricia Thornton's avatar

Sounds like a beautiful program!

Barbara Forbes Smiechowski's avatar

This outreach program is absolutely a wonderful idea Bek!! And you with 3 little ones!! You are sincerely my hero for doing this. Where are you located?

Bek Crispin's avatar

Thank you Barbara, you are very kind!! I am in Australia.

Barbara Forbes Smiechowski's avatar

I wish you lots of luck and love for your wonderful program. Welcome to this community Bek!! You are the type of person who jumped right in and was able to contribute right away! I love that and I'm certain Graham does too!!

Lisa Lodi's avatar

All these women will be very lucky to have a program such as this. Congratulations for getting this idea rolling and good luck👏!

Christine Davies's avatar

Firstly, welcome Bek. Secondly, what an amazing thing you are doing. You should feel proud starting to establish an outreach program. Thank you for sharing & I wish you all the very best as it moves forward. Good luck. 🍀🙏

Laura's avatar

Welcome! That is amazing idea. Keep us posted on your success!

Cindy LaMantia's avatar

Welcome, Bek so nice to have you join this inspirational and supportive community!

Your outreach idea and beginning steps to bring it into reality is fantastic! I, too, was a mom of 3 little girls (now in their mid to late 30’s)...add to it being a single one at that. I totally understand your feelings of loving them to the moon and back and the all consuming tug of their needs, time, dreams, attention and so on...plus working full time. It was the most exhaustingly, rewarding time in my life. So, for you to have the energy to open your heart to help others is nothing short of admirable! I wish you nothing but the best in your endeavors. Blessings 🙏🏼💞

Bek Crispin's avatar

Thank you so much for your lovely words and well done for being a single mum to 3 girls, you are my hero! God Bless you!

Jan Stoneburner's avatar

Good Luck, Bet! I bet it will be a great success. Positive thoughts & prayers coming your way from Ohio, USA>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

Linda Lubitz's avatar

Welcome, Bek, Those first steps are great, you are taking a leap of faith with God by your side. You will be a blessings to others and you will receive blessings in return. Will be praying for you on this new path!

Anne Wooten's avatar

Bek, welcome to the community. Glad to have you hear. That sounds amazing! Outreach programs of any kind are amazing!. Wish you all the best on this journey! Take care and God bless!

Jill's avatar

To get away from the negative people and situations in my life. To focus on the positive and blessings that are around me. Life is so much easier when keeping a positive attitude.

Bev Goble's avatar

I believe I was put here on earth by God to serve others, it's not something I have to wait to do until I'm perfect, which can never be achieved. God uses broken crayons, but neither am I to sit my my brokenness. I have to surrender the broken places to God learn, grow and change so that I can be the best version of me I can be. It's God's still voice leading, guiding and my being willing and open to hear and apply.

Danny Payne's avatar

Graham…you are challenging me twice today…my magic painting description I wrote about earlier today and now this poem. I am constantly making every effort to become whole within my heart by cutting loose those things within me that are holding me back so to speak…things that are heavy on my heart. And I’m attacking burdens as honestly as I know how. I know I have a long way to go to achieve the wholeness and purity within me. I’m in the gym a lot and the personal trainers are constantly giving me guidance on how to perform a certain exercise to ensure that I do not injure myself. An injury at 75 would be devastating to me. But to me the most important personal trainer or coach is God and his Son Christ. I talked about the importance of their love and guidance in my magic painting discussion. I spend a lot of time in silent discussion with them…seeking guidance. But you know Graham, your inspiration and influence on me through your work is also working for me. You have accomplished in me your love of life…your compassion for this community. My goal is to continue this journey with you and to see just how much wholeness within my heart / within me as a person I can achieve. I think it will be a beautiful journey and one that will enable me to appreciate myself more…to appreciate life more…and mostly love life beyond comprehension. Thanks Graham and thanks to this community. You have given me something that I’ve never had before…a feeling that it’s ok to openly share myself…share who I am and who I want to become…who I want to “create within this world in deep and to keep.” Love and blessings.

Anne Wooten's avatar

Beautifully stated Danny!

Linda Lubitz's avatar

A beautiful, thought inspiring poem. I listened to the poem and message before taking a walk this morning ( side note I made 1.5 miles again today) . As I was walking I took time to reflect on your message as it resonated with me and the step I took a couple of months ago to face the feeling I had been hiding inside for many years. After sharing that feeling and letting it go my heart is no longer heavy, there is peace in my heart. This renewed peace brings me joy everyday. Thanks to you, Graham , for helping me see the signs that it was time. Your writings, books you shared, and inspirational messages are a blessing to me and many others.

As I look back I realize my calling/ passion was teaching young children, I started when I was 22, retired at 65. Teaching was my joy for all those years, even the difficult years, there were challenges every year but I knew in my heart this is what God had planned for me. The renewed peace I have found brings that joy back . When I listen closely to my inner self, I take a breath, am grateful for all the blessings I’ve had in my life and appreciate the blessings yet to come.

Christine Davies's avatar

Good on you Linda. 😊🙏

Anne Wooten's avatar

Linda - so glad to hear that the pain has subsided so you can get back and walk. I know how much that means to you. I'm so happy for you. That is answer to prayer. Take care and God bless!

Jan Stoneburner's avatar

Graham ~ I feel like a happy but anxious camper using a compass with a spinning arrow. I’m not afraid, but I’m not sure where I’m going. I don’t really like being an unsettled wanderer without a definite direction. I have no doubt God is pointing me somewhere. I’m listening to Him, but I can’t really hear Him clearly right now. You & the Substack Community are my North Star at the moment -– but sometimes your poems are confusing to me even when others seem to understand them so easily. What am I hiding? What does it mean to be whole again?

One of my friends said, “Jan, will you quit analyzing everything & just live life!” Maybe she’s right. I'm in my head too much.

This is the long-time mission statement I live by. So why am I unsure, questioning my calling -- again? I wish the compass would stop spinning. Can you help me?

“To laugh often and much; To win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; To earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; To leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived; This is to have succeeded.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

Jan Stoneburner's avatar

OMG after rereading my post & walking away from the computer, I heard this voice inside me say, “You ARE living your calling. Get on with it.” I still don't understand everything, but It'll Be OK.

Off to do laundry. I think I just need some more excitement in my life right now. Maybe I’ll jump on the Community Zoom call at the end of the month. The idea of that scares me to death. Ha!

Thanks, Graham & Substack Community, for being my sounding board.

Cathey Cone's avatar

I loved this post because not so long ago, I was exactly where you are. I have a feeling we are alike in many ways. I tend to overthink everything to death! Once I let go of the need to know the whats and whys and whens, it gave me so much freedom to just see what each day brings. Doesn't mean I don't still plan, but my plans now have holes in them to leave room for things to go a different direction. In time you will come to relax and enjoy the ride. Please jump into the Zoom - you can just listen if you want. I'm not one that loves the camera either, but I'm getting braver! You'll be blessed!

Jan Stoneburner's avatar

Thanks, Cathey! I love the part about plans having holes to leave room for the unexpectant. I've kinda been through this passage before & I know things turn out all right -- usually great. But, I'm too busy trying to "think" my way out of it -- again. Darn it! It's easy for me to tell everyone else to surrender. Ha! It's that da#@ Character #1 that needs to take a break. Thanks again! xoxo

Cathey Cone's avatar

I am far too familiar with Character #1!! LOL.

Christine Davies's avatar

I tend to overthink at times & it does shift your compass & make it spin in all directions. I try to rely on my instincts as they are pretty much right most of the time. They steer me in the right direction. I tend to go off course when I don't listen & make rash decisions or overthink something.

But when you wrote your second post, it appears that you listened to your instincts & your heart to rethink.

Taking on new challenges & stepping outside your comfort zone is a real challenge, but the rewards are worth it. All the best. 🙏

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Me either!!!! Some have told me they see my hand up but I don't even see on my phone how to do that!

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I finally have that part figured out. Down in the tray below the people, there is a button that says "reactions". If you click on that, one of the options is "raise hand". Just in case you decide to get brave..... :)

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I use my laptop, so don't know what it looks like on my phone.

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Hi Jody ~ sounds good! I was a teacher & speaker for many years. (I even taught a broadcasting class.) Can't figure out what in the world's got me so spooked about ZOOM. I've only been on 2 zoom calls & I was freaked. Ha ha! Maybe it's "The Leap" God is giving me... Thanks for the support!

Marsha Cullen's avatar

Wonderful quote from RWE! Thanks for sharing it.

Barbara Forbes Smiechowski's avatar

One of my favorite quotes Jan. Thank you for sharing it with us today. Perfect!

Jan Stoneburner's avatar

I love Emerson & Thoreau!!!

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Susan ~ what do you write about after reading GW's poems? Anything that comes into your head? I'm a retired English teacher who used "Wild Writes" a lot with my students. It would be a great idea for me. It would make it personal to ME. Thanks!

Lucinda Jolly's avatar

Graham, what you have created here is a deep well for all of us to go to, to express our deepest joys, sad times and regrets. Your creativity is a welcoming place to come.🤗

Christine Davies's avatar

I agree Lucinda. 🙏💕

Halina Frederick's avatar

What am I passionate about well I love children their Gods gift I will do anything to help a child so many children are not only abused physically but mentally degraded and put down by their own parents where they grow up to have low self esteem and never feeling good enough in this world so my focus will always be on them my other thing I’m passionate about at this point in my life is finding peace and joy and finding the time to enjoy them both ❤️

Christine Davies's avatar

Great goals in life. I was emotionally abused by my mother & I wished I had someone to help me as a child. I still struggle with all that wrote here.

I am also trying to find peace with all that I went through.

I too love helping children. I did volunteer work, which has come to a halt due to the pandemic, but hope to help again one day or try a different avenue.

Bless you Halina.

Barbara Forbes Smiechowski's avatar

I am with you Halina. I have a passion for children and you and I may have a calling together if I move closer in the next month or so. There are some things to think about, eh?

Lynette Dennis's avatar

How incredibly short life is. Our vet, who attends church with us and has a wife, four daughters and one son who just turned 18. The son was on an ATV on July 3rd and had a horrific accident. He was taken off of life support yesterday. I just saw all of them at church that morning. They are amazing. I just have no words.

Carole's 💜 Community 🙏's avatar

That is so sad Lynette, and a reminder to us all that life is short here on earth 🌎 - we need to live as if each day is our last.

Christine Davies's avatar

OMG, so sad! He was so young. 🙏