I learned last week what Graham means when he said, "I work for God." Creating this community - Wow! Last week I shared a little of myself and was indescribably uplifter, blessed, and HAPPY to have such an outpouring from so many of you. I am an "older" woman who has never been married and has no children. So often, I have substituted eating for pleasures I thought I was missing. Every day now, often through motivation from many of Graham's poems and podcasts, I am finding other ways to feel "satisfied." My Christian faith is also growing. I am trying to be honest with myself and others. There is love around me. I am reaching for it. It feels so good knowing there are so many of you who wish me well!
Patty, I am right there with you on each and everything you just said. I takes loving yourself, Trust in God, and to stay motivated to stay on course. Like you, my Christian faith has grown so much after getting out my comfort zone. It's amazing how God blesses us each and every time that happens. Have a wonderful week!
Patty this community I can’t say enough about it. Graham is such a loving person. We as you know care greatly for each person. I’m very humble and proud to have learned not only from Graham and others like Anne,Carol, Irene, jeff and so many others. I really feel I’ve gained not lost. So Patty any time you need a lift we will always be there for you no matter what.
That was lovely Shari. There are not enough words to use to describe the enduring gift given to anyone who desires to be a part of this community. Graham has many times said that he could not ever have envisioned what would come of his own new journey. And here we are a group of individuals from
many walks of life and different age ranges, in many countries, talking and sharing Graham's journey and he ours.
We hold space for each other and support each other. Blessed! 🙏🏻💜
It’s all true. I still struggle more times than I admit. Though I do have to give credit to Graham and everyone else that I’m starting to come out of my shell a little more each day. I’m like a turtle slowly getting there.
Good for you for cracking your shell. Maybe you can picture yourself like the beautiful baby chick or a lovely butterfly. Turtles stick their necks out to see the world. I hope you see us holding you up and CHEERING: GO, SHARI!
Hi Shari. I love.your comment...its Me! Last week I.opened up about my life and received prayers and aupport which I truly needed. I'm a.slow.turtle too.🙏
Feel the same way Shari, I’m slowly sharing feelings that have been hiding from others and from myself. Graham’s work has helped me open my heart and mind, as result am taking a new path.
Yes we are lucky and blessed to be a part of Graham’s platform thank you Graham. You look so tired please take care of yourself and give time for yourself.
It's so inspiring, Patty, to hear your story. In the four months (!) since I joined, I have experienced many of the positives you are describing. This is a most unusual podcast community, and I am grateful to Graham for starting it and maintaining it. I am also grateful to each and every one of you who share right from the heart on a consistent basis. The help I receive is incredible! God love and bless each of you.
At the first of the pandemic, I binge watched Heartland. The overall quality of the acting impressed me. Having some theater experience myself, I was touched by Graham's portrayal of Ty. I kept thinking no director could give detailed enough directions for the nuances that revealed such a depth of kindness, gentleness, and strength. It was a no brainer that I would watch (most) of his podcasts; however, these Tuesday poems and discussions have surpassed any expectations. It took me until last week to join this community of sharers. I'm so glad I did. Blessings to you, Phillip.
I have no theater experience, but I have thought from the first time I watched Heartland that it would be impossible for a director to include all of those little nuances. The more I have learned about Graham I realize those are him portraying love, kindness, strength. And it is coming from his heart not some script.
Well Patty I discovered Heartland way back when, it was being shown on one of our channels( I’m in the UK) and from the very first time I watched it Graham playing Ty impacted on me, he is an actor yes ,playing a part yes, but the depth that he bought to Tys character came from a place within him that I had never seen in any other actor. And then what did they do……they stopped showing the series in this country, I was devastated but I never forgot about Ty/Graham because of the impact he’d had on me. So back in 2020 when I discovered it on NetFlix I was over the moon. Returning to the programme was like becoming reacquainted with an old friend and seeing Graham on the screen playing the part of Ty again was even better than I remembered. He was still bringing everything to the part from that place within him so it was no surprise when I started listening to his podcasts to hear all that warmth and love emanating through his voice . I always felt that there was more to this man I have not been let down, infact everything he does just gets better and better. He is a very special human being and I am very grateful to him for bringing us all together so we can all be as one, one huge family.
I compleatly agree Patty AND Lynn same feeling has happened to so many people... I have watched alot of ACTORS and no one has matched up to Graham... he has to be special for so many people to say the same things about him .. yes he feels like a real family member... I KNOW HE FEELS ALL OUR LOVE.... I started following his life and I never want to lose touch... i a[ways wanted to see him and Amber together but it was not to be but they are real close friends... he said if he could he would be in another movie with her ... I am so looking forward to seeing them act together again..
thanks Philip.. this is so true for so many of us .. it sure made us all appreciate Graham so much more than we were thinking .. I was alone alot because of the times we were forces to live in .. so I watched alot of TV..like so many people turned to .. yes this is also my story why we are here with this community .. I LOVE IT ... THEY say everything is for a reason. we can all be thankful .. I THINK ITS MADE OUR LIFE BETTER... THANKS TO GRAHAM .. I AM STILL BY MY SELF BUT ITS DIFFERENT I FEEL SO MUCH LOVE FROM ALL THIS COMMUNITY... from Michigan
It’s an accepting group of people who have also lived through many challenges and give from their hearts whatever support is needed. A warm blanket and a cup of cocoa in front of a fire. That’s how I look at it and the gratitude I have is overflowing. I’m so glad you feel similarly Phillip! 🙏🏻💜
I deleted my last comment when I saw my spelling mistakes!
I also struggle with using food as a substitute for love ❤ also to deaden emotional pain. I am learning to trust God and to find all my satisfaction in Him. I want to honour God with my whole being.
Dear Carole, If the new channel means we can talk to each other like a social media, would you consider honoring me by being my "buddy" as I struggle with abusing food? (when we transfer to the new channel) Sincerely, Patty Driskill
I used to use food and then I ballooned to over 300 lbs, went through a gastric bypass and now live with the consequences of that behavior, but I have learned to love myself with all my past.
Food has been the least and the ladt of my addictions - it has also been the hardest to kick! I mean we actually have to eat to live so it's hard to control. Alcohol, relationships etc can be stopped altogether- but not food. Well done for loving yourself free. I'm working on it.
I had my procedure done in the early 90's, it took months to finally decide. Being able to play with my kids won over fear. Back then they only did a full bypass and counseling before, during & after was mandatory. Having your whole digestive system changed was huge.
I understand and agree with your comments Patty. I’ve travelled and negotiated this journey and not with ease. We each have our own stories to tell but one thing I do know now without doubt is that learning who you are and loving yourself is the key to it all. Each day reveals a fresh realization and the air is delicious to breath when you are peaceful within yourself. Loved what you wrote. We are blessed indeed 🙏🏻💜
Patty, I’m so glad you decided to reach out and share a part of your life with us. This is an amazing group, very loving, encouraging and supportive. I don’t always post much due to a very busy schedule but I enjoy reading and supporting everyone else’s journeys. When I have shared some of my life I always feel loved and encouraged. Prayers for continued success. ❤️❤️
Patty you are so right that there is love all around.. I have been lifted and supported as well in this community. Im so glad you have had the chance as well. Please always feel you can reach out to us for support or encouragement..
Thank you, Bonnie. I don't know if you are old enough to remember the song from Urban Coyboy, "Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places". I've done that a lot. One good thing about the pandemic is when I do go out, I take the sunniest, cleanest love attitude within me. I have had many happy returns.
I am old enough to remember this song. I am fortunate to have been a long relationship over 38 years together, that being said we have a daughter who after many years of "wrong loves" has finally found a true friend /love in her new guy. She finally stopped looking in all the wrong [laces and open herself up to being her best self and she was so surprised when an off chance meeting happened. I am thrilled for her and thrilled for you that you can walk out with your head held high filled with lovely attitude. You deserve all the blessing that may come your way. Remember to love yourself first it radiate off of you
Wow Graham that was another awesome poem this week . This is so true you have to love yourself before loving anyone else. I’m guilty of having the habit of always running around,taking care of others and neglecting myself. I will take your challenge this week and take more care of myself. I will do more of the things I enjoy. Go for a walk, eat and cook my healthy meals ,go out in the nature,read a book, I will meditate more . You have to take more care of yourself, because at the end of the day you're all you've got. Please you also have to try and rest more as you do look very tired and maybe a little thin. Wishing you all the best!! Cheers!🙏💖
Amen to that, Aimee. Been thinking along those lines all day. Graham is carrying a burden and we need to lift him up, so God, hear our prayers for Graham.
Danny I feel like Graham is blessed to have so many honoury mums,dads, sisters,nannies etc..from around the world looking out for him . I hope he can feel the positive vibes we are all sending!🙏❤️
Yes Leigh I agree. Graham needs to take some time for himself. I to pray for him as well. He does so much for the people in this community we are so lucky to have him in our lives.
I agree Irene. Graham, take time for yourself too! You are a blessing to each and every one of us, so make sure to have a little "YOU TIME". Blessings and Cheers!
So true Irene. I am also guilty of running around and taking care of others and neglecting myself. My family and friends keep telling me to look after myself, but what can you do when it's your family, especially your parents.
I think it's about time I think of myself. Now that the weather is better, go for more walks, eat healthier, sit and relax, maybe read a book or two and reach out and ask for help with Mom and Dad.
Graham, take care if yourself and get plenty of rest .💞
Hi Irene you noticed that to that he looks tired. Your right he needs to take care of his self just like he tells us. Graham you always make sure to help us in our daily lives. Please remember to take care of yourself. Get plenty of rest and stay healthy for you not us.
Yes I agree Graham looks tired. He has lots on his plate. He forgets to take care of himself or give more time for himself. He neglects to take care of his beard and hair. I always pray for you Graham.
I'm not quite comfortable with us going into making comments or assumptions about Graham's looks. We accept him as a helpful guide through this life and appreciate that guidance. That's it. All of us look different from time to time. I join you in adding him to my prayers of gratitude and most sincere wishes for his happiness and well being as I do for all of you!
I thought the same, Irene. I hope that Graham takes care of himself. He seems to be doing a lot, especially with the move, which can be extremely stressful.
You're an amazing person Irene. You do give of yourself a lot, which is why I believe is why you chose the profession you're in. Whilst this makes you the beautiful & kind heartened person you are, you also need to look after you. 🙏🙌💞
Yes Irene. It’s ok to first meet your needs in life. That’s important so that you can give others your love. I really liked this poem. Graham captured the meaning of “loyal love” so eloquently and diplomatically. What a gift he shares. The very best to you.🙏❤️
Graham, this is beautiful and so true. This verse was revealed to me as I read and listened to your video. Proverbs 19:8 NLT "To acquire wisdom is to love yourself; people who cherish understanding will prosper."
I've learned the hard way, but oh, I'm so glad I'm currently living it. Believe me, it is never too late! I had to learn and truly believe that I am worthy and love myself before I could even start to come out of my comfort zone and explore the possibilities that lie ahead. From that love comes FAITH in trusting God/or that higher Power to guide you along the way.
Graham, thank you for the simple reminder and inspiration that for me, I am worthy and I love who I currently am because that is what is helping me to consistently stay on this current journey I'm on. So far the journey has been successful even when the rough patches appear. I love myself enough to stay the course when that occurs.
What a wonderful way to start the day! God bless you Graham and everyone in this wonderful community!
Anne, your journey is an inspiration to me and others. Thank you for continuing to share with us. It sounds like you are in a good place and I am so happy for you. You are worthy and never forget that. God loves you and so do we. Prayers for continued growth in your faith and success on your journey.
Thank you Leigh! Sharing the journey is important to me as it definitely holds me accountable. God guided me here, and I'm eternally grateful that I listened and opened myself up. I am so humbled and blessed by all the inspiration and encouragement received from Graham and this entire community. Blessings to you and your family!
Thank you. I thought it was so appropriate for this week's poem. God does tell us to love ourselves as well as others because we are all his children. I have that quiet time as I call it each morning because if I don't my day will go off the rails so to speak. God's word leads the way for me and inspiration through Graham and others like yourself in this amazing community. Have a blessed day and weekend my friend! All the best to you! Cheers!
Anne have you ever heard of the book '' MIRCLE morning '' ... by HAL ELROY Graham told us about it a few years ago you would love it . Ithink it sure helped me a lot .. have a blessed day ..
Thank you Elisa! So far God has been there every step of the way even on a few of the tougher days. I am very grateful and blessed by the journey thus far. May God Bless you and your family!
Beautiful Anne. There are struggles along the way. I too have experienced that but I like you stay the course and the wild ride is so wonderful as it opens our hearts. 🙏🏻💜
Thanks Sherry! There are definitely a few hiccups but those make us stronger! I'm staying the course. It's hard work, but anything in life that's worth it, hard work is required. Blessings my friend!
I feel so honored to call you my friend. I’ve never met you but it doesn’t matter. The sharing and knowing that there is even one person who truly cares is so important We are not islands. We act in the greater good. Thank you Anne 🙏🏻💜
Jody, thank you for those kind words. I felt I needed the approval of others and when that failed, then I resorted to not taking care of myself, etc. Over the years, it built up but I truly believe God led me on the long journey to discover Heartland, then Graham and this wonderful community. Ever since the DonnyMac podcast, everything changed for me as I gradually came out of my comfort zone and decided I need to start taking care and loving myself while also remaining true to myself and FAITH. There have been a few hiccups along the way, but I'm determined to fight those because in the end, they make you stronger. It's not easy, but anything worth loving whether it's yourself, spouse, family, or a friend is definitely worth it. We're all a work in progress including myself, but right now I'm taking it one day at a time while envisioning the future but not concentrating on that. It takes work, but it's definitely worth it. Jody, if you ever feel like emailing or talking, let me know. I'm a good listener, and I just want to be there to encourage or just be there for others as that is what I believe I'm here to do. Praying for you and wishing you all the blessings!
Thanks Jody. Your heartfelt comment brought joyful tears to me, and I am so humbled. This is how it all works being here and encouraging one another along life's journey whatever and wherever that takes us. Prayers and blessings extended to you! Cheers!
I want you to know that I lost weight when I started aqua yoga.I also go to the hot pool 3 times a week. It helps me a lot.I also met many friends in the pool.I don’t swim but I walk in the water I feel so good after my water exercise.cheers !
That's great Elisa. I love the water. With working full time even remotely, walking is the best for me. Right now it's working, and I feel good too after I get that exercise. We'll keep this up together. Cheers to you!
Graham we all must start in a quiet place of thought. To be gentle and kind to ourselves. To divorce ourselves from the noise, the negativity the entropy. Peace with ourselves is obtained with self acceptance. We are who we are! We can change ourselves from within. No one else can do this. This is truly loyal love when it permeates throughout ourself. We can hope, we can wish we can long for others we love to feel the same toward us as we would want them to but they have their own lives and issues to deal with for themselves. Too often we feel the ones we love don’t give us enough in return. It’s hard to accept this. It’s hard in times of crisis when those you thought would be there are not. And yet, there are those that mysteriously appear and make you feel whole again. Don’t take disappointment as a slight or a lack of love. Once we have the capacity to accept and feel we alone are enough then we can fulfill the longing of love for ourselves. Once that is done and that cup is full we can then pass our love externally. Others you feel should love you more do not have their cups full. Once yours overflows you can help fill their cups and maybe, just maybe your cup will be refilled with their love as well! Love Graham Tuesdays now get some rest and give a little love and peace for yourself! We will be ok for a week loving ourselves!
There is so much truth in what you write. For me, however, it remains very difficult to come close to myself and to be satisfied with myself. I come from a large family and have always had the feeling of being part of a greater picture. Alone I feel incomplete. The more effort I make to find and love myself, the more I discover that there is a void in myself that can only be filled by others... Not easy to follow Graham's learning track. But interesting!
Bie loving yourself is not an act of selfishness. It is making yourself complete, in having the confidence that you are enough. You have to improve, correct shortcomings, be introspective and that is often hard. Just find a quiet place, what are your greatest attributes? Shortcomings? What can you do to make a better version of yourself?? No one will ever reach perfection but we can strive for satisfaction!
needed others to help you fill up is not a bad thing. finding the right people is the hard part. We all need others in our lives, it is true you must find ways to love/like yourself sometimes we need help. I hope you find support with in this group. We can do hard things if it is for the betterment of ourselves and those around us. Please feel free to share here wit us.
My friend… YES. Well stated Jeffry. We each have our own perspective as we negotiate the pebbles and then the rocks. Life often throws curve balls and we are at plate to do the very best we can for the greater good. First on the menu has to be caring care of and loving yourself which gives you the ability to love others. 🙏🏻💜
We must fill our own cups first before they can run and fill others. Whether you refilled by the ones you seek should not be deterrent if you do not get it back in return
As Graham says, write in a quiet place where you can connect with your heart. The brain comes along for the ride and don’t hold back. Substack is beautiful to write on its nonjudgmental it’s Bonnie’s thoughts. We can absorb them, relate to them , comment about them or go on to the next post. Literary freedom!
Graham, I so agree you can't give what you don't have. It took me a lot of years to realize that loving myself opened up being able to love others more and to give more. Even scripture tells us to love yourself, but we often listen to our critical voice instead of our loving voice. It takes lots of practice to being able to shut off the negative voice and hear the quiet voice saying your good, but it can be done. Stand in the mirror and learn to love what you see.
I agree Bev, it is hard to shut down that internal voice that tells us we 'should' be doing all sorts of things. I am learning that I need to listen to my own inner wisdom and follow that without feeling guilty or pressured by the needs of others.
You right Carol I have to remember that. Like I said in my post I’m trying and its hard. I’m going to try to listen to my inner wisdom voice. The trick is in remembering that because of being so busy.
Shari no matter how busy we must find time for ourselves. It took me awhile as I was always busy helping others until my therapist talk to me that I need time to myself.
I hated mirrors not just for looks but for perception of what I saw... I have recently been looking in mirrors not from a vanity place but from of place of accepting of who I am ---it is where I do some of my self talk .
I still struggle with mirrors, photos and videos. I am working on loving myself just as I am - and not as I wish to be. Its hard when you're a natural perfectionist. I see all my flaws magnified. Yet I don't even notice the flaws in others. It is difficult to follow my creative path with this blockage. I need some self talk too.
Human love is always imperfect. It often comes with expectations and judgments and is influenced by history and experiences. To love ourselves completely, we have to be able to see ourselves as God sees us. We have to allow ourselves to be who we are with all of our flaws and accept where we are right here and right now just as God does. For me, loving myself involves surrendering to God’s vision of me, which is always much better than how I see myself. And just like my own imperfect love, others love us imperfectly, too. Only God can fill the gaps and love us completely in perfect balance, with a love that always only wants the best for us even if it means lessons that are difficult to learn. Nothing about love is simple or easy or formulaic, but until we allow God to teach us how to love ourselves, we will struggle to love others and be loved by them within our human boundaries. There’s a lot in this poem, Graham. I feel I’m only scratching the surface at the moment – more contemplation to come. Hope you find rest and peace this week!
Cathey -- I don't know if you saw my post, but I wanted to let you know I started a blog called "That's Good To Know" on Substack. Thanks for planting the seed!!! I'm not so good at poetry so it's more narration, but I think it will be fun writing somewhat humorous anecdotes about aging. I hope you & others from our group join me on the blog sharing their funny "aging" experiences. Thanks again!
Jan I saw your blog.I like your idea because it helps me with my aging.I just turned 79 last month and now I am experiencing senior moments.I started to write on my journal now. Thanks Jan.
I to am thinking about doing a blog never have I done one before. I’m just thinking about what to call my blog. I have a couple of names. Soul searching, Where the journey begins, I’m still trying to figure out everything. If anyone as any ideas please by all means let me know. I’m up for a new challenge.
Shari -- there are a lot of websites that give you advice on writing a blog. Mainly, you need to have a basic audience in mind -- kind of a theme to your blog. I studied a lot of the ones written by people on here -- especially Cathey's. You can click on their Substack pages -- you'll see them right beside people's names on here. It helps! Good Luck!
I agree, Jan. Having an idea of a theme or a direction helps and figuring out who your audience is are two great places to start. And also checking out what others are doing also inspires. I read more than I actually write most of the time. But bottom line - you just have to start. Putting the first one out there is a bit intimidating, but you'll find your direction. This group is super supportive!
You express yourself so well Cathey, and there is so much to gain from your comment. I wish I could put this more into practice. But, taking it one day at a time, to get to that place of self love. Not easy to do. Thank you for continuing to inspiring me to believe in myself more. I need to trust in myself and the decisions I make. I need to take time & not rush into things. I need to know that I am a good person & that I don't have to prove myself to others or try to be someone I'm not. I don't have to impress others to like me by doing things that are beyond me. We all have limits and I need to accept that, that's ok. That just because I can't do something, it doesn't make me weak or pathetic. We can't do everything. Everyone has their limits. I just found out the hard way. I have learnt a big lesson and know now that I should have trusted my gut, my instincts.
You encourage me so much and I need to be me, not what I think I should be. 💖🙏
Christine, I just now saw this comment that I somehow missed in the original posting. You are absolutely right about loving yourself just as you are and finding the beauty within yourself that others already see. ❤
Oh Carol I should of read this before replying. You are so spot on with what you said. You have to see how God sees us and draw from that. Let God lead us to how we should not only love ourselves but others as well. Thank you for reminding me to view myself as God sees me not how I see myself. Thank you for sharing I just love how you put those words to use.
Cathy... I have just had a second to read through a few of the comments. As I was sitting outside eating a quick lunch yesterday. I had only read the poem and not listened to Graham's narrative yet. You just described my thoughts. Oh how thankful I am for God's perfect love! Blessings!
Hi Wendy - I am so thankful too, knowing that though I always have things to work on, God loves me right where I'm at and that gives me the confidence to love myself. Sounds like you feel the same. Thanks for sharing!
Yes, I have plenty to work on as well. But I truly believe that without the love of our Lord we truly cannot love ourselves or others as we are called to. Surface love is easy but deep authentic love is another. "We love because he first love us." 1 John 19
Thank you Graham and happy Tuesday. This is beautifully written, you express yourself so well to connect with us this community you built that I am so grateful to be a part of.I am in a working progress to develop confidence, to improve loving myself as there’s only me to treat myself right. After my fast experience this last 7 years of my beautification journey I learn to appreciate my own company, by taking time to do things that feels good to make me happy and love myself so I can love others. The weather is getting nicer and warmer I love outdoors,I can ride my motorcycle and this last weekend was amazing I went hiking with my little people “2 grandchildren “. Helping others is a good thing also can become overwhelming, I don’t feel guilty anymore. I practice saying no , so I can avoid putting myself under too much pressure. I simply repeat self-love mantra such as “I am enough “. I love and respect myself. Loving myself is a commitment, time and effort. It is important not to neglect my relationship with myself. Nurturing ourselves does not come naturally, I practice daily self- care and loving my self. I can do all this through him who gives me strength. Get some good rest Graham .Cheers.🙏❤️
Lucy…you so inspire me…have faith. Loving yourself is a positive thing which will provide you more strength to reach your dreams and to extend your love to others. Blessings to you.🙏
Thank you I appreciate you , I am struggling Danny as my surgery was put on hold I had my last surgery 2/19/2020 it supposed to have 6 weeks apart then March I was sent home due to pandemic and my chances to rest and heal. After they were slowly taking patients June 2020 I took my chances of asking all 6 panels of surgeons if the transposed veins questionable I might wait until end of year 2020? We all agreed and next meeting January 2021 roadblock so we wait. I just wanted this to be over and I fully accepted that it will never be the same but I am still they same human being it’s all superficial. I missed my family also my medical missions trip . It’s all in Gods plan and yes sometimes I need to be reminded so thank you. ❤️🙏
Yes I am so grateful I joined back up on social media as I disconnected myself early 2016 except my husband have to keep FB to communicate my families my health updates. I am so grateful meeting so many amazing humans thru Graham community.❤️🙏
Lucy everything you said I should be doing. I to have to love myself. Actually I need to start practicing it might just do me good. Thank you for sharing. You truly are a special person. Take care.
Thank you Shari I am slowly moving forward , before I had cancer I love myself and love life then my darkest moments hit rock bottom. I am slowly healing and truthfully I am so grateful that I join back up on social media last year , I left all social media 2016 and turn off everything and my husband keep FB so he can communicate with our families on my health issues.
You are a very special person Lucy- believe that. You are “enough”. More than! You care for others and make their lives a little happier and the resin you can do that is because you have so much love to give to others. You are loved and respected. 🙏🏻💜
Graham, that was awesome, I so agree with your words you have to love yourself first. My Grandson struggled for years wanting his Mom or as he now refers to her my birth mom to love him(she never bonded with him, one of the reasons I raised him). He was in counseling for many years as he took his disappointment out on himself an the other around him that did love him. He has come full circle, finally something clicked and he started to realize she will not change and he cannot go through life not loving himself. I had my doubt that he would finish HS on time, but Jan 2021 something clicked and he basically finished 4 years of HS in about 2 years. He finished early last October, and will be walking with his class Friday night. He is talking about going on to design school. He is so happy now and knows who loves him and who he wants to be around these day. I do miss him terribly as he move from New Mexico to Missouri to be with his Dad right before he turned 16 but it was the best thing for him getting away from his Mom's side of the Family (I am his Dads mother). I am so very grateful that I am able to be here to watch him walk after all the struggles he has gone through.
Cynthia, I shared last week about my grandson. I've raised him since birth. Same story his Mom abandoned us. Bless you.for hanging in there for him and you gave me hope he will have a good life. Any holiday especially his birthday is very difficult for him... His anger at the world gets so intense for I have a bruised mouth that I'm nursing from his anger. So happy for your grandson and for you to see his growth. Take care and like Graham says to love yourself.
you should be a very proud grandma...I know the feeling. My daughter struggles with mental health and has a 12 year old ---the light of my life==she works very hard to be healthier for herself and her daughter. i hold a lot hope
Cynthia, I'm so happy for your grandson. I'm sure you played a huge part in his coming full circle and the influence you have had on him. God bless you.
Congrats to your grandson and his accomplishment. It’s wonderful how he persevered in all the struggles he had with growing up. He is hope for those Velho are going thru the same thing.
Cynthia, such a beautiful story. What a glorious occasion that your grandson graduates this Friday. Thank you for giving him all that love and stability. May the love from above fill you to overflowing. You are beautiful.
This came to me at exactly the right time. I have been struggling with some of my close relationships for a while now in regards to what do I truly mean to them, and is it what I need or want that relationship to be. Something is missing, inside me, with them, and I am a work in progress trying to figure that out. I've put others' needs before my own for so long I almost feel guilty putting some of mine first now. So I've been learning to respect and love myself more and be more vocal about what I need, and why. I hope this doesn't sound selfish, but sometimes we just go along in life just accepting things the way they are or frankly, being too lazy or afraid to make changes. Like you often say, you have to put yourself out there, give it a try, take the chance, have faith.
I did that when I joined this community and it has really helped having this place to call my own and I am grateful. Everyone is so supportive.
BTW, you don't look tired. but I hope you get the rest you need and have a happy week. It's beautiful here today and I am going to enjoy the sunshine and nice breeze . I hope you get to do the same. Bless You.
Cindy, it also started for me when I joined Substack. Amen to everything you just stated. You have to truly love yourself, and have the FAITH and trust that you will be led where you are truly supposed to go or to be. Have a blessed week!
Hi I too am a care taker of others. I have had to teach myself to put up boundaries ( there has been push back but I am being strong) some weight has been lifted from me and i was afraid that people would stop being my friend ---that hasnt happened we just redefined the roles in the relationships and I am mush happier... Best to you
I agree, Cindy. If he experienced three big happenings in two days, he probably needs quite a bit of reflection and peace. He'll do it. No doubt about that. Glancing down at Deloris' comment: boundaries are so important. I'm sure Graham knows a lot about boundaries. For several years, I led a discussion group in a women's prison based on a boundaries book. It helped me; I hope it helped them.
Cynthia, I've had a similar journey. I needed outside help to develop healthy boundaries and then ability to live with/ in those boundaries for my own health - actually, for others health as well. As long as I was stepping in to " help" or to "fix", others weren't developing their own skills. For a while, I felt guilty and thought of myself as being lazy - not stepping in to help. But, that was just the Old number trying to run me again. Those feelings went away in time. I felt I had more energy. Not so drained all the time. Keep on going.
Cynthia we are some what a like. It’s hard to put yourself first when it’s you helping someone else. I fall into that trap all the time. I’m not very self loving never have been. I know my family loves me my husband my children. But it’s hard to love yourself. I’m glad your doing self love we all need to do that. Take care God bless.
Graham…I loved this poem. It was perfectly written…so well stated…it was to me a building of thoughts of love throughout life to a final conclusion…how I wished one would have loved me in my lifetime…how I would want to be cherished…and concluding…loyal love…be it for yourself…then for them.
Yes for me I have often thought during my life how much I wanted to be loved…to be cherished. But now at this late stage of my life and looking back, I received so much love … unconditional love … from my parents. I don’t believe I appreciated it as much then as I do now. And I sure wish I had expressed my thanks to them for their love more often. And today I feel loved by my family…wife…sons…grand kids…a blessed feeling that I am thankful for.
As far as me loyally loving myself first I have never been good at it throughout my life. I would always have a guilty feeling when putting myself first before others. I can’t turn back the time. But I can say to this community … practice hard what Graham has written. Don’t put it off. I would have given anything if I had seen a poem such as this in my earlier life. I think it would have afforded me more opportunities to have a better balance between internal love … loyally love for me … and external love … love for others.
Fast forward to today, at 75 I frankly get more pleasure out of giving my love to my family than receiving their love. That’s just me … that’s just who I am. But I do make time for myself…do the things that I want to do. As an example my loyalty to myself is spending about three hours each morning at the gym…this is how I start my day…and everyone knows this is MY sacred time. Enough about me. (Graham…are you scheduling gym time…I’ve heard you say that you do.)
Turning to you Graham. I don’t know if you saw my message to you in Telegram on May 9 responding to that cute video of the kids pouring flour in plates on their heads. My message at that time was that I was concerned that I had not seen any postings / communications from you in a while. For some reason, over the past few weeks I have thought about you each day and was wondering how you were doing. What I was feeling was a sincere concern for your well being…I guess like a fatherly concern for a son. But that is what you have done to me and this community. You have inspired all of us to have concern for others and to love. And when I read this poem and listened to your message, I felt a validation of my concern. I feel as though in the short time that I have have known you that you have been so intense since the beginning of Heartland to now that you may not have taken the quality time that you need for yourself. Maybe now is a good time to retool your business plan to lessen the stress on you personally … I may be overreacting but this is what I feel. I certainly would not make these comments if I didn’t feel that you would receive them in the way I intend them. I certainly have so much love and admiration for you and your work and I know this community has the same feeling as well. And I want you … we all want you … to be successful on your newly sought out journey in life. We need you for sure. So I hope … we hope … that you do what you said at the end…take some time for yourself…loyally love for yourself first…then to others.
Graham, you have to feel the love for you and the support for you from this community by reading these comments. You are such a gift to us and an inspiration. I personally have never seen anyone in my life time who could write like you in a way that is simple but the words have such heavily impactful meaning on life…on my life personally. So be proud of yourself…be proud of your gifted talent…and know that everyone can feel that your work is from deep within your heart…from your heart to our heart. Bless you Graham and remember loyally love for yourself first this week…then to others.🙏
Danny I also share some of your concern for Graham. For a couple if weeks there has been a certain feeling I'm getting that he has been a little disconnected. Can't really put my finger on it but I started noticing it when he got back home from the road trip. Maybe a plate that's too overloaded or decisions and conflicts that need to be resolved. All we can do is pray that he gets the guidance he needs to do what's best for him. Many blessings to you Danny. Thank you for sharing.🙏❤
Yes Barbara I agree with your comment. I have faith that Graham will be fine. He sure has the love and support from this community…and I know that he feels it and appreciates it.🙏💕
Danny this is so well said... I pray Graham feels how much this community loves and respect him... IN all my life I have never known anyone that does so much for everyone as Graham does ... If thats not LOVE then I dont know what is ...GRAHAM is love... PATTY HAMILTON
I truly hope that Graham knows how much he has done for all of us. I know we appreciate his work and the time he takes to share with us. I too hope that he takes time out to look after himself. Starting, establishing & refining a business isn't easy. There is so much work involved as we have seen through Graham's clips etc. Now with the stress of moving, I'm glad that he decided to not do the cameos as that is at least one thing to lessen the load. I wish Graham all the very best & hope that things will slow down for him soon. Like you stated, Danny, we care about Graham & want the best for him. 💖🙏🤗
Wow Danny! You can write too. Very well said. You put into words what I feel about Graham from time to time also. I'm glad you put this into words on the page
Danny I totally agree with you 100 ..percent.. Graham is a very gifted person .. and I thank God he is sharing it with us so freely.. He is young and has alot to give.. So into showing Love and kindness to all humans...its from deep in his heart.. YES I told him awhile back I Knew his parents were proud of him .. He said yes they are.. Graham you have more people loving you than you can ever know but if its not the one you want to love you then you still have that empty feeling .. but God will help you with a filling love that will fill your cup over flowing...we all love and respect you .. we all are praying for your happieness.....
I agree Patty, God can do that for us! One condition, we need to be willing to let him. If a person is not ready for God to help them, He is not going to force it.
Danny I love reading your comment every time ,you have such a gift in writing and you always put your heart and soul , sending you my love and blessings from the land down under !! P.S. ..3 hours at the gym ???? How do you do that ?? I struggle to do about 1 ,1/2 hours before work ,I usually go at 4:30 am as lately its the only time I have free, but 3 hours sounds like a lot to me ,I don't think I'm fit enough now lol ....
Thanks so much Irene…I appreciate it. You know Graham has a way of encouraging us to say what we feel. This particular poem was a special one. It’s taken me a while to achieve a 3 hour workout. Keep in mind that I’m retired and so I have no reason to quickly finish it. Keep at it and you will get there…blessings to you.🙏
This was really good! I recall when I became a mom, I was a teenager and my daughter was unplanned. I was certainly not at all ready to be a mother and I was truly concerned because I did not have a loving upbringing. My upbringing was quite abusive. This abuse led me to be a very self hating, OCD and very legalistic individual, as well as a perfectionist. I grew up in Appalachian KY and that is very poor. So I had my baby and decided I was not going to be a statistic and I graduated high school. I immediately moved from my poor county to Louisville KY and entered into U0fL on federal grants and plunged myself into everything my family wasn't. However I had not dealt with the pain, the abuse and the anguish. I worked FT and went to school FT while daycare was raising my baby. I did get that degree and I was successful but I was still that OCD perfectionist that was all about rules and that was how I "loved". Then I found Jesus and he broke me. I recall how many times my little girl would "help" me do a chore around our little apartment and I would just ridicule her for how wrong it was done breaking her little spirit instead of letting her know how thankful I was for her. No I didn't yell at her, beat her or sexually abuse her; I successfully broke that cycle of abuse like I promised myself but my way of loving was cold. Because I didn't know how to love myself. I am thankful for some really great ladies I met within the church when my daughter was still impressionable that was able to help me and mold me. I am thankful they spoke truth to me in love and taught me it isn't selfish to love myself first. See I thought that was taboo. To me love was working hard to be sure she never went without like I did, never felt scared like I did and was never hurt like I was. I missed out on so much by working so hard. Yep I have that Accounting degree I worked so hard for but I missed her first steps, her first words and I didn't even potty train her....babysitters did all of that. She also taught me love because she loved me unconditionally. It was just her and I for much of her growing up because I didn't trust anyone. I finally met my husband when she was 14 and she finally had a daddy. I think the timing was perfect because I had finally figured out how to love myself so I could actually love him too. I moved away from Kentucky completely when she was 8 years old for a position in Virginia and I never looked back. My husband I met 6 years later was stationed in VA in the military so we have now lived all over....funny thing is he is actually from Kentucky himself. We are currently making plans on settling back in KY because his parents are getting older and need help, they are in Western KY, I was from Eastern KY. I still to this day all these years later do not know how to feel about being in my "home" state. I have been to visit my parents over the years and I still feel unloved by them. The world in the mountains of Eastern KY is like another country, people are stuck in their ways. Abuse is rampant and no one tells. Children are to be seen but not heard. Religion is cult like and used as an abuse of power not for love. There is a reason why on airplanes they tell you to put your oxygen mask on yourself before you help someone else...you are no good to others if you are dead inside. Wow, sorry I know this was way long but learning to love oneself is a journey for sure.
Lynette -- I learned a great trick from a counselor once. Keep a picture of yourself as a little kid in your billfold. Pull it out when you are in doubt or feel unloved. Talk to her in a loving way. Give yourself the self-love you need. Who can resist a little kid?! Congratulations! You are a Survivor!!!
Wow! That is really good. This whole poem was perfect timing. My dad called me right after I wrote this post to let me know we are having a family reunion in September. Side note: my dad was never abusive physically, emotionally distant, he did the best he could. My mom and her family were abusive. My mom protected my abusers. My dad removed me from her when I was 15 but goodness he had no clue how to care for a teenage girl with so many issues. Since I was so sexually abused he was afraid to hug me. He still awkwardly hugs me. He tries, he really does. I love my dad, I tolerate my mom.
Lynette. You are so strong. Your willingness to love your dad to the best of your ability is something that is so hard to do. With what you went thru as a child is something only you can understand. I believe God will help you thru this. I to hope you go to your family reunion just enjoy yourself and have a wonderful time.
I hope and pray she feels the same way. I definitely created a strong daughter. She went to college as well, first to Baptist Bible College to be a special needs teacher (after raising her in a stressful accounting environment she definitely steered clear of that) but she realized quickly she didn't like dealing with parents in the educational system. She is currently back in college pursuing a career in animal medicine. She too is a perfectionist and very OCD; I blame myself for that. I have learned a lot from loving her though because she is the type of person that will stop to help anyone, much to my constant fear. I cannot take all the credit for how she has turned out: our church and my wonderful husband that loved her as his own were both very important in her life.
Lynette. Wow. Such awareness and strength of character and at such a young age to take action and break deep, unhealthy cycles. I have learned from your story of determination and perseverance. Most powerfully that you've achieved ability to feel and give love. TY
Five or six times already today I have come over to this screen and have attempted to write about this topic. Love myself the way I wish others had??? It stops me in my tracks.
I have been loved. My Dad loved me. He was a loving man and I really can't imagine him not loving anyone, although I'm guessing there may have been some he didn't love as much.
My children love me, my grandchildren, my brother, my sister., some friends. I have been loved in my life.
Why isn't that enough then? Why couldn't I have been better at whatever it was I could be better at so that my Mom had loved me. Or what about my husband? Why wasn't being loved by other people enough to override the lack of love from two very critical people in my life?
I'm certain my Mom loved me when I was born and young. But she chose alcohol over me and alcohol won that contest.
My husband...not as certain. His childhood was unusual. Not much affection or displays of love. He then wasn't equipped to show that either or as he said...I don't know how love feels. All I know is how I felt. It didn't feel like love.
So Graham, you ask what did I learn? I learned the difference between someone loving me and not loving me and how that feels. I stopped beating myself up from the questions that always loomed...like...how could I have been better to get them to love me. What should I do to make someone love me who doesn't. I've finally let that go. It took a REALLY long time. And much of it has come very recently. From being in this community that Graham has brought together. Brought together because of love. We are all ok here. Accepted in all our messiness. We are encouraged to love ourselves the way we dreamed of being loved. And that is Graham's doing. Because he accepts and loves every flawed one of us. Now that is what I've learned...I've learned loyal love.
Barbara ... I’m crying as I write this. In my comment I alluded to that lack of “husband” love. That’s where I was last year- with everything I am and have to give why would a husband violate his vows. Why. - now I know that what matters is loving myself and I realize that I cannot be responsible for the acts of anyone else. I too let it go but I remember that the scars are there they just do not control me anymore. Thank you for your share. 🙏🏻💜
Sherry, you are definitely not responsible for any one's acts. Nothing can be changed by looking back to that time. I know...believe me I know...it's painful to be betrayed. But I'm through that and here today as you are. The breaths we take are here and now and there isn't any reason to revisit the painful time again. Be gentle and kind to yourself Sherry.
What a story Barbara sorry that you grew up in that environment. But you rose above all of that and made a better life for yourself. You have a beautiful live !!!
Barbara you waited until just the right moment to write! Your story and the rest of your response to this Loyal Love poem has amazed me. I'm sorry about your Mom. I'm sure you know now that Alcoholism is a disease and your Mom was sick.
You write so well and your interpretation explains this poem to me.
So thank you!
I read the poem and I had no clue how to interpret it or respond. I felt like my bbrain was numb. I still feel no personal response except I believe I have always been loved. Just differently or more or less depending on who the other person was. Some people care for us as much as they are able. I'm sorry your problem person was your Mom. I think that would have really messed me up.
Wow I felt this. Like really felt this. They say the lack of a fathers love is critical. As a female I really needed my mom. My mom never loved me. I was always in her way and she left me with family members that brutalized me. When I told a teacher, she turned on me. Then when I got pregnant with my daughter she told me "I knew you would get knocked up you should just get an abortion"....that little girl I was carrying was the only hope of love I had. God knows I had no clue how to be a mom but you can be sure I was not going to be the mom I had. My daughter has never had to question my love for her. She calls me probably 4 times a week for advice (shes 25 now), just to talk and tells me every time "I love you mommy". She knows I will go to the end of the world for her. I dated some while she was growing up but I always chose her over anyone. I wouldn't take the chance on a man doing to her what I went through. We had this favorite show when she was growing up "Gilmore Girls"....I always called her my "Rory". I love what you said about being okay in our messiness because life is messy.
Oh dear Lynette, your childhood story is tragic. I read your post here too and was simply in awe of what you went through and your determination for a better life for you and your daughter and how you accomplished that. I know you have regrets and look back on how you would have done things differently but the fact of the matter is you have the NOW. How you got here was sheer determination and grit. May God Bless you. And the past...it's best left in the dust where it belongs.
I totally sympathize with what you're saying, Barbara. I have the same experiences with my mother and another person in my life whose love I crave. It is still working every day on letting go and accepting. Thank you for your story🙏💕
Yes we need to let it go Bie. But we never have to accept it. I always thought that because my Mom was an alcoholic she wasn't able to love me. She was sick. I no longer believe that. She made choices and chose not to get help. I urged her but she continued on her path. I'm happier letting her go. She has been gone for 37 years and I fret about it entirely too long.
If my mother was still here I would be doing the same. I pray for you Bie and understand how painful this must be for you. Look at the person you are! You are a loving person and that is something you can be proud of. You caring for your mom is a call from God. Nothing but good can come of it.
Barbara - I can relate to what you shared. Up until about 2 1/2 years ago, I did not care about myself very much. Most of this was self inflicted by me because I always thought I had to give and give to feel the appreciation from others. Well how long does that last? It's temporary. Like you, I finally had to take a hard look at myself and ask God's forgiveness for what I put myself through but also I had to forgive myself. It was not easy, but when it happened, it was a huge weight off my shoulders. After that, I was led to Heartland, Graham's writings & podcasts, and now this wonderful community. Grateful doesn't begin to express how I feel, but I'm eternally grateful for God leading me on this journey to find Graham and this wonderful and amazing community. Thank you for sharing and may God bless you and your family.
It seems like we had similar paths to finding ourselves here. I mean we all watch tv, but Heartland gave many of us a comforting feeling while we hunkered down in our homes only to discover the young man who somehow spoke to us. I've never followed a tv personality in my life. This is where we are now and really it's been quite amazing. So many of us on a path to heal and thrive. Thank you Graham and to those who are here supporting you and each other. 🙏❤
Thanks Graham for this beautiful and timely poem ❤ I had a powerful realisation this past few days - I have been sabotaging myself for so long, I made a firm decision to stop doing it - and it has caused me some distress as it means I am putting myself first for a change and others don't like it! I have hesitated to complete some creative ventures and to share my authentic self. So next week I am having a 3 day silent retreat - to go within and find clarity about my life, and where I need to make changes. The following week I have booked to go away with two friends to a spiritual retreat centre in Wales. I am already taking your advice.
Many blessings to you 🙏 ✨ you do look tired, but peaceful. My prayers go out to you and your family.
Enjoy the retreat and you own as well. I find that silence really helps in the thinking process. You must be so proud of yourself taking these steps in self-care. 🙏🏻💜
I truly believe it will be revealed and happen for you. It's not easy and I still struggle myself, but until I dealt with it, I would not be where I am now. I'm just truly humbled and grateful. Blessings to you!
I am reminded of a line in an old Whitney Houston song, “Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all.” That line made me uncomfortable. It sounded selfish, egotistical, and just plain wrong. My mom explained it to me and it kind of made sense. She said that love of God must come first, and because He loves me, I must love myself. Then and only then am I capable of loving others. I’ll be honest, I wasn’t fully convinced, but I bought it. Only after many decades on this Earth is it starting to make sense to me. Recent events in my life have caused me to lose this healthy “self love.” I’m working on getting it back and find that it is getting a bit easier to open my heart to others. Let the healing begin and the love come out. To quote another great artist, Lenny Kravitz, “Let love rule.”
Philip, I'm glad you feel like you can share and be open in this space. A wise person in my life once suggested making a "Love List" to yourself of the qualities and characteristics you appreciate in yourself, and then also a list of how God sees you. I haven't done that for a long time but might give it a go this week.
That is such a great idea, Cathey. It goes against my nature, but that is probably a good thing. It might also help me in the confidence department as I interview for jobs.
Elisa, that is so kind of you. I am getting new job jitters, but have to be brave to get back out there after a year of early retirement. God is in control!
Philip, I remember both of those songs. When I read your comments, I can feel the healing has begun. I’m still a work in progress because there have been some days where I’ve struggled, but I keep pressing forward. Not always easy, but the blessings outweigh the struggles. Blessings to you!
I learned last week what Graham means when he said, "I work for God." Creating this community - Wow! Last week I shared a little of myself and was indescribably uplifter, blessed, and HAPPY to have such an outpouring from so many of you. I am an "older" woman who has never been married and has no children. So often, I have substituted eating for pleasures I thought I was missing. Every day now, often through motivation from many of Graham's poems and podcasts, I am finding other ways to feel "satisfied." My Christian faith is also growing. I am trying to be honest with myself and others. There is love around me. I am reaching for it. It feels so good knowing there are so many of you who wish me well!
Patty, I am right there with you on each and everything you just said. I takes loving yourself, Trust in God, and to stay motivated to stay on course. Like you, my Christian faith has grown so much after getting out my comfort zone. It's amazing how God blesses us each and every time that happens. Have a wonderful week!
Thank you, Anne. You are an encouraging friend to so many of us.
Patty this community I can’t say enough about it. Graham is such a loving person. We as you know care greatly for each person. I’m very humble and proud to have learned not only from Graham and others like Anne,Carol, Irene, jeff and so many others. I really feel I’ve gained not lost. So Patty any time you need a lift we will always be there for you no matter what.
That was lovely Shari. There are not enough words to use to describe the enduring gift given to anyone who desires to be a part of this community. Graham has many times said that he could not ever have envisioned what would come of his own new journey. And here we are a group of individuals from
many walks of life and different age ranges, in many countries, talking and sharing Graham's journey and he ours.
We hold space for each other and support each other. Blessed! 🙏🏻💜
It’s all true. I still struggle more times than I admit. Though I do have to give credit to Graham and everyone else that I’m starting to come out of my shell a little more each day. I’m like a turtle slowly getting there.
Good for you for cracking your shell. Maybe you can picture yourself like the beautiful baby chick or a lovely butterfly. Turtles stick their necks out to see the world. I hope you see us holding you up and CHEERING: GO, SHARI!
Thank you Patty. I will think of my self like a butterfly or a baby chick that way I can tie a little each day.
Hi Shari. I love.your comment...its Me! Last week I.opened up about my life and received prayers and aupport which I truly needed. I'm a.slow.turtle too.🙏
Feel the same way Shari, I’m slowly sharing feelings that have been hiding from others and from myself. Graham’s work has helped me open my heart and mind, as result am taking a new path.
Yes we are lucky and blessed to be a part of Graham’s platform thank you Graham. You look so tired please take care of yourself and give time for yourself.
thanks so much for the kind words it means alot ... may God bless all of you ..
Totally agree with you Shari. Blessings to all. 🙌🙏💞
It's so inspiring, Patty, to hear your story. In the four months (!) since I joined, I have experienced many of the positives you are describing. This is a most unusual podcast community, and I am grateful to Graham for starting it and maintaining it. I am also grateful to each and every one of you who share right from the heart on a consistent basis. The help I receive is incredible! God love and bless each of you.
At the first of the pandemic, I binge watched Heartland. The overall quality of the acting impressed me. Having some theater experience myself, I was touched by Graham's portrayal of Ty. I kept thinking no director could give detailed enough directions for the nuances that revealed such a depth of kindness, gentleness, and strength. It was a no brainer that I would watch (most) of his podcasts; however, these Tuesday poems and discussions have surpassed any expectations. It took me until last week to join this community of sharers. I'm so glad I did. Blessings to you, Phillip.
I have no theater experience, but I have thought from the first time I watched Heartland that it would be impossible for a director to include all of those little nuances. The more I have learned about Graham I realize those are him portraying love, kindness, strength. And it is coming from his heart not some script.
Well Patty I discovered Heartland way back when, it was being shown on one of our channels( I’m in the UK) and from the very first time I watched it Graham playing Ty impacted on me, he is an actor yes ,playing a part yes, but the depth that he bought to Tys character came from a place within him that I had never seen in any other actor. And then what did they do……they stopped showing the series in this country, I was devastated but I never forgot about Ty/Graham because of the impact he’d had on me. So back in 2020 when I discovered it on NetFlix I was over the moon. Returning to the programme was like becoming reacquainted with an old friend and seeing Graham on the screen playing the part of Ty again was even better than I remembered. He was still bringing everything to the part from that place within him so it was no surprise when I started listening to his podcasts to hear all that warmth and love emanating through his voice . I always felt that there was more to this man I have not been let down, infact everything he does just gets better and better. He is a very special human being and I am very grateful to him for bringing us all together so we can all be as one, one huge family.
I compleatly agree Patty AND Lynn same feeling has happened to so many people... I have watched alot of ACTORS and no one has matched up to Graham... he has to be special for so many people to say the same things about him .. yes he feels like a real family member... I KNOW HE FEELS ALL OUR LOVE.... I started following his life and I never want to lose touch... i a[ways wanted to see him and Amber together but it was not to be but they are real close friends... he said if he could he would be in another movie with her ... I am so looking forward to seeing them act together again..
thanks Philip.. this is so true for so many of us .. it sure made us all appreciate Graham so much more than we were thinking .. I was alone alot because of the times we were forces to live in .. so I watched alot of TV..like so many people turned to .. yes this is also my story why we are here with this community .. I LOVE IT ... THEY say everything is for a reason. we can all be thankful .. I THINK ITS MADE OUR LIFE BETTER... THANKS TO GRAHAM .. I AM STILL BY MY SELF BUT ITS DIFFERENT I FEEL SO MUCH LOVE FROM ALL THIS COMMUNITY... from Michigan
It’s an accepting group of people who have also lived through many challenges and give from their hearts whatever support is needed. A warm blanket and a cup of cocoa in front of a fire. That’s how I look at it and the gratitude I have is overflowing. I’m so glad you feel similarly Phillip! 🙏🏻💜
Nicely put, Sherry. The stories are so touching. And can we ever use the support in these times! We are surely blessed.
Agree Philip. Graham and this community are amazing. 🙏💖🙌
This little community that Graham created is a great place to get lifted up and encouraged. I do wish you well in your journey, Patty!
I deleted my last comment when I saw my spelling mistakes!
I also struggle with using food as a substitute for love ❤ also to deaden emotional pain. I am learning to trust God and to find all my satisfaction in Him. I want to honour God with my whole being.
Body, soul and spirit.
Carole you are right .Don’t use food as a substitute for love instead pray until something happens (push)that’s the way it is.breathe Amen
Dear Carole, If the new channel means we can talk to each other like a social media, would you consider honoring me by being my "buddy" as I struggle with abusing food? (when we transfer to the new channel) Sincerely, Patty Driskill
Of course it would be my pleasure, Patty. X
THANKS! I'm computer challenged. I just hope I can make the switch when the time comes!
I used to use food and then I ballooned to over 300 lbs, went through a gastric bypass and now live with the consequences of that behavior, but I have learned to love myself with all my past.
Food has been the least and the ladt of my addictions - it has also been the hardest to kick! I mean we actually have to eat to live so it's hard to control. Alcohol, relationships etc can be stopped altogether- but not food. Well done for loving yourself free. I'm working on it.
It took amazing courage to go through that health procedure. My cousin did it several years ago and is like a new person. Thank God for that!
I had my procedure done in the early 90's, it took months to finally decide. Being able to play with my kids won over fear. Back then they only did a full bypass and counseling before, during & after was mandatory. Having your whole digestive system changed was huge.
Owning your past is a good thing. Laying it to rest is a great thing. We're with you, Bev!
Patty I agree this is a wonderful little community , I'm also sending you a virtual hug !
Patty your story is my story. No marriage, no children, struggle with weight all my life. Finding Graham and his great community has been amazing.
AMEN!
You and I are finding real love right here. We're in this journey TOGETHER. Sending you Grace and strength, Donna.
I understand and agree with your comments Patty. I’ve travelled and negotiated this journey and not with ease. We each have our own stories to tell but one thing I do know now without doubt is that learning who you are and loving yourself is the key to it all. Each day reveals a fresh realization and the air is delicious to breath when you are peaceful within yourself. Loved what you wrote. We are blessed indeed 🙏🏻💜
Thank you, Sherry. What a loving confirmation. Continued blessings to you.
Patty, I’m so glad you decided to reach out and share a part of your life with us. This is an amazing group, very loving, encouraging and supportive. I don’t always post much due to a very busy schedule but I enjoy reading and supporting everyone else’s journeys. When I have shared some of my life I always feel loved and encouraged. Prayers for continued success. ❤️❤️
So happy for you Patty. Keep that positive thinking going. 🙏💖
Patty you are so right that there is love all around.. I have been lifted and supported as well in this community. Im so glad you have had the chance as well. Please always feel you can reach out to us for support or encouragement..
Thank you, Bonnie. I don't know if you are old enough to remember the song from Urban Coyboy, "Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places". I've done that a lot. One good thing about the pandemic is when I do go out, I take the sunniest, cleanest love attitude within me. I have had many happy returns.
I am old enough to remember this song. I am fortunate to have been a long relationship over 38 years together, that being said we have a daughter who after many years of "wrong loves" has finally found a true friend /love in her new guy. She finally stopped looking in all the wrong [laces and open herself up to being her best self and she was so surprised when an off chance meeting happened. I am thrilled for her and thrilled for you that you can walk out with your head held high filled with lovely attitude. You deserve all the blessing that may come your way. Remember to love yourself first it radiate off of you
Wow Graham that was another awesome poem this week . This is so true you have to love yourself before loving anyone else. I’m guilty of having the habit of always running around,taking care of others and neglecting myself. I will take your challenge this week and take more care of myself. I will do more of the things I enjoy. Go for a walk, eat and cook my healthy meals ,go out in the nature,read a book, I will meditate more . You have to take more care of yourself, because at the end of the day you're all you've got. Please you also have to try and rest more as you do look very tired and maybe a little thin. Wishing you all the best!! Cheers!🙏💖
Agreed Irene❤️. Graham, please make sure your cup is full and be determined to be loyal to yourself before you are loyal to all of us! Much love!
Amen to that, Aimee. Been thinking along those lines all day. Graham is carrying a burden and we need to lift him up, so God, hear our prayers for Graham.
Agreed
I always pray for Graham,Donny Mac and Kerry James .They are in my prayer list.
That's so beautiful. They are great guys.
Agreed
I'm hoping this community you founded and you nourish helps your cup darn near overflow!
Amen to that! God is good and Graham will be richly rewarded.
I hope so too!
Irene…yes I agree. I’ll say more later but yes Graham Irene is right…I feel your tiredness…I hear it in you voice. Right now you first. ❤️🙏
Danny I feel like Graham is blessed to have so many honoury mums,dads, sisters,nannies etc..from around the world looking out for him . I hope he can feel the positive vibes we are all sending!🙏❤️
Absolutely Irene…agree. I look at him as my honorary son…I think he can feel our love for him.❤️🙏
Great way to put it, Danny! ❤️🙏
Thank you for including sisters Irene. He can be my honorary little brother 🙃I think he can feel all the G love rolling out of up in here Lol
OK then, he can be my honorary nephew. 🙃
I would never forget you lol
And I could never forget you Mum❤️
I agree Graham is blessed to have us in this community.Bravo Graham you are doing great job.I am proud of you.
I think we are all blessed to have this big honorary family! ❤️💚
I agree Irene, Graham looks tired and like he’s lost weight. I pray he takes some time for himself to rest and rejuvenate.
Graham, you are such a blessing to us and do so much for us. Please take care of yourself.
Yes Leigh I agree. Graham needs to take some time for himself. I to pray for him as well. He does so much for the people in this community we are so lucky to have him in our lives.
Irene, I am right there with you. Not enough hours in the day to take care of me. I plan on taking the time to do things I enjoy. Thanks Irene.
You’re most welcome Deborah , have a good weekend doing the things you enjoy 💖
I agree Irene. Graham, take time for yourself too! You are a blessing to each and every one of us, so make sure to have a little "YOU TIME". Blessings and Cheers!
So true Irene. I am also guilty of running around and taking care of others and neglecting myself. My family and friends keep telling me to look after myself, but what can you do when it's your family, especially your parents.
I think it's about time I think of myself. Now that the weather is better, go for more walks, eat healthier, sit and relax, maybe read a book or two and reach out and ask for help with Mom and Dad.
Graham, take care if yourself and get plenty of rest .💞
Anna you and I have to do this challenge together :)
Challenge accepted Irene. 🤣🤣🤣
Hi Irene you noticed that to that he looks tired. Your right he needs to take care of his self just like he tells us. Graham you always make sure to help us in our daily lives. Please remember to take care of yourself. Get plenty of rest and stay healthy for you not us.
I think my comment has created a love chain ❤️I’m glad that I’m not the only one who noticed this Shari !
So true....you never know what you've started. :)
I think so to Irene.
Yes I agree Graham looks tired. He has lots on his plate. He forgets to take care of himself or give more time for himself. He neglects to take care of his beard and hair. I always pray for you Graham.
I always pray for him too. I think he rocks the scruffy look though! His beard looks brushed and he just got a hair cut 🤷
I'm not quite comfortable with us going into making comments or assumptions about Graham's looks. We accept him as a helpful guide through this life and appreciate that guidance. That's it. All of us look different from time to time. I join you in adding him to my prayers of gratitude and most sincere wishes for his happiness and well being as I do for all of you!
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I like his look he’s what you call in style😊
I thought the same, Irene. I hope that Graham takes care of himself. He seems to be doing a lot, especially with the move, which can be extremely stressful.
You're an amazing person Irene. You do give of yourself a lot, which is why I believe is why you chose the profession you're in. Whilst this makes you the beautiful & kind heartened person you are, you also need to look after you. 🙏🙌💞
Thanks Christine but you know it's a bit hard to do this at the moment ,maybe one day :)
Yes Irene. It’s ok to first meet your needs in life. That’s important so that you can give others your love. I really liked this poem. Graham captured the meaning of “loyal love” so eloquently and diplomatically. What a gift he shares. The very best to you.🙏❤️
I agree Jody :)
Graham, this is beautiful and so true. This verse was revealed to me as I read and listened to your video. Proverbs 19:8 NLT "To acquire wisdom is to love yourself; people who cherish understanding will prosper."
I've learned the hard way, but oh, I'm so glad I'm currently living it. Believe me, it is never too late! I had to learn and truly believe that I am worthy and love myself before I could even start to come out of my comfort zone and explore the possibilities that lie ahead. From that love comes FAITH in trusting God/or that higher Power to guide you along the way.
Graham, thank you for the simple reminder and inspiration that for me, I am worthy and I love who I currently am because that is what is helping me to consistently stay on this current journey I'm on. So far the journey has been successful even when the rough patches appear. I love myself enough to stay the course when that occurs.
What a wonderful way to start the day! God bless you Graham and everyone in this wonderful community!
Anne, your journey is an inspiration to me and others. Thank you for continuing to share with us. It sounds like you are in a good place and I am so happy for you. You are worthy and never forget that. God loves you and so do we. Prayers for continued growth in your faith and success on your journey.
Thank you Leigh! Sharing the journey is important to me as it definitely holds me accountable. God guided me here, and I'm eternally grateful that I listened and opened myself up. I am so humbled and blessed by all the inspiration and encouragement received from Graham and this entire community. Blessings to you and your family!
Anne…continue your journey and I’m sure you will reap the many benefits that God has to offer you. 🙏
Danny Payne I agree with you one hundred percent
Thanks Danny. One day at a time. So far so good. Blessings to you! 🙏
Anne, you are a fantastic person. ! 😍
Thank you Elizabeth! Truly humbled, grateful, and blessed! 🙏❤️✝️
I hope to someday be as successful as you, Anne. I need to trust myself & believe in myself more, but know my limitations as well. 🙏💖
Ann, that is an incredible Bible verse! Now I am inspired to crack open the Good Book more often.
Thank you. I thought it was so appropriate for this week's poem. God does tell us to love ourselves as well as others because we are all his children. I have that quiet time as I call it each morning because if I don't my day will go off the rails so to speak. God's word leads the way for me and inspiration through Graham and others like yourself in this amazing community. Have a blessed day and weekend my friend! All the best to you! Cheers!
Anne have you ever heard of the book '' MIRCLE morning '' ... by HAL ELROY Graham told us about it a few years ago you would love it . Ithink it sure helped me a lot .. have a blessed day ..
I haven't Patty, but thanks for sharing. I will definitely make a note of it and look it up. I appreciate it. Hope you have a great weekend!
Very eloquent Anne & so true.
Thank you Juliann! 🙏❤️
You too Anne Wooten may the good Lord be with you in every step of your way. Amen.
Thank you Elisa! So far God has been there every step of the way even on a few of the tougher days. I am very grateful and blessed by the journey thus far. May God Bless you and your family!
God is good all the time Anne I am so blessed.
Beautiful Anne. There are struggles along the way. I too have experienced that but I like you stay the course and the wild ride is so wonderful as it opens our hearts. 🙏🏻💜
Thanks Sherry! There are definitely a few hiccups but those make us stronger! I'm staying the course. It's hard work, but anything in life that's worth it, hard work is required. Blessings my friend!
I feel so honored to call you my friend. I’ve never met you but it doesn’t matter. The sharing and knowing that there is even one person who truly cares is so important We are not islands. We act in the greater good. Thank you Anne 🙏🏻💜
Jody, thank you for those kind words. I felt I needed the approval of others and when that failed, then I resorted to not taking care of myself, etc. Over the years, it built up but I truly believe God led me on the long journey to discover Heartland, then Graham and this wonderful community. Ever since the DonnyMac podcast, everything changed for me as I gradually came out of my comfort zone and decided I need to start taking care and loving myself while also remaining true to myself and FAITH. There have been a few hiccups along the way, but I'm determined to fight those because in the end, they make you stronger. It's not easy, but anything worth loving whether it's yourself, spouse, family, or a friend is definitely worth it. We're all a work in progress including myself, but right now I'm taking it one day at a time while envisioning the future but not concentrating on that. It takes work, but it's definitely worth it. Jody, if you ever feel like emailing or talking, let me know. I'm a good listener, and I just want to be there to encourage or just be there for others as that is what I believe I'm here to do. Praying for you and wishing you all the blessings!
Thanks Jody. Your heartfelt comment brought joyful tears to me, and I am so humbled. This is how it all works being here and encouraging one another along life's journey whatever and wherever that takes us. Prayers and blessings extended to you! Cheers!
I want you to know that I lost weight when I started aqua yoga.I also go to the hot pool 3 times a week. It helps me a lot.I also met many friends in the pool.I don’t swim but I walk in the water I feel so good after my water exercise.cheers !
That's great Elisa. I love the water. With working full time even remotely, walking is the best for me. Right now it's working, and I feel good too after I get that exercise. We'll keep this up together. Cheers to you!
This is me always felt I to have to take care of others. I have to make sure I put my self first. It will be hard but with support I can do this.
Graham we all must start in a quiet place of thought. To be gentle and kind to ourselves. To divorce ourselves from the noise, the negativity the entropy. Peace with ourselves is obtained with self acceptance. We are who we are! We can change ourselves from within. No one else can do this. This is truly loyal love when it permeates throughout ourself. We can hope, we can wish we can long for others we love to feel the same toward us as we would want them to but they have their own lives and issues to deal with for themselves. Too often we feel the ones we love don’t give us enough in return. It’s hard to accept this. It’s hard in times of crisis when those you thought would be there are not. And yet, there are those that mysteriously appear and make you feel whole again. Don’t take disappointment as a slight or a lack of love. Once we have the capacity to accept and feel we alone are enough then we can fulfill the longing of love for ourselves. Once that is done and that cup is full we can then pass our love externally. Others you feel should love you more do not have their cups full. Once yours overflows you can help fill their cups and maybe, just maybe your cup will be refilled with their love as well! Love Graham Tuesdays now get some rest and give a little love and peace for yourself! We will be ok for a week loving ourselves!
There is so much truth in what you write. For me, however, it remains very difficult to come close to myself and to be satisfied with myself. I come from a large family and have always had the feeling of being part of a greater picture. Alone I feel incomplete. The more effort I make to find and love myself, the more I discover that there is a void in myself that can only be filled by others... Not easy to follow Graham's learning track. But interesting!
Bie loving yourself is not an act of selfishness. It is making yourself complete, in having the confidence that you are enough. You have to improve, correct shortcomings, be introspective and that is often hard. Just find a quiet place, what are your greatest attributes? Shortcomings? What can you do to make a better version of yourself?? No one will ever reach perfection but we can strive for satisfaction!
I feel the same way Bie! My Dad's family is HUGE. My Mom's not nearly as big. I took that all for granted growing up!
needed others to help you fill up is not a bad thing. finding the right people is the hard part. We all need others in our lives, it is true you must find ways to love/like yourself sometimes we need help. I hope you find support with in this group. We can do hard things if it is for the betterment of ourselves and those around us. Please feel free to share here wit us.
My friend… YES. Well stated Jeffry. We each have our own perspective as we negotiate the pebbles and then the rocks. Life often throws curve balls and we are at plate to do the very best we can for the greater good. First on the menu has to be caring care of and loving yourself which gives you the ability to love others. 🙏🏻💜
We must fill our own cups first before they can run and fill others. Whether you refilled by the ones you seek should not be deterrent if you do not get it back in return
What an amazing comment. So much that is so true.
well put ..you have a great way with words. I am working on making my words work differently
As Graham says, write in a quiet place where you can connect with your heart. The brain comes along for the ride and don’t hold back. Substack is beautiful to write on its nonjudgmental it’s Bonnie’s thoughts. We can absorb them, relate to them , comment about them or go on to the next post. Literary freedom!
I should begin to journal...
Great start- you learn to collect your thoughts then learn how to express them. If and when you are able to share then you’re ready
Graham, I so agree you can't give what you don't have. It took me a lot of years to realize that loving myself opened up being able to love others more and to give more. Even scripture tells us to love yourself, but we often listen to our critical voice instead of our loving voice. It takes lots of practice to being able to shut off the negative voice and hear the quiet voice saying your good, but it can be done. Stand in the mirror and learn to love what you see.
I agree Bev, it is hard to shut down that internal voice that tells us we 'should' be doing all sorts of things. I am learning that I need to listen to my own inner wisdom and follow that without feeling guilty or pressured by the needs of others.
You right Carol I have to remember that. Like I said in my post I’m trying and its hard. I’m going to try to listen to my inner wisdom voice. The trick is in remembering that because of being so busy.
Shari no matter how busy we must find time for ourselves. It took me awhile as I was always busy helping others until my therapist talk to me that I need time to myself.
I hated mirrors not just for looks but for perception of what I saw... I have recently been looking in mirrors not from a vanity place but from of place of accepting of who I am ---it is where I do some of my self talk .
I still struggle with mirrors, photos and videos. I am working on loving myself just as I am - and not as I wish to be. Its hard when you're a natural perfectionist. I see all my flaws magnified. Yet I don't even notice the flaws in others. It is difficult to follow my creative path with this blockage. I need some self talk too.
Way to go!
Human love is always imperfect. It often comes with expectations and judgments and is influenced by history and experiences. To love ourselves completely, we have to be able to see ourselves as God sees us. We have to allow ourselves to be who we are with all of our flaws and accept where we are right here and right now just as God does. For me, loving myself involves surrendering to God’s vision of me, which is always much better than how I see myself. And just like my own imperfect love, others love us imperfectly, too. Only God can fill the gaps and love us completely in perfect balance, with a love that always only wants the best for us even if it means lessons that are difficult to learn. Nothing about love is simple or easy or formulaic, but until we allow God to teach us how to love ourselves, we will struggle to love others and be loved by them within our human boundaries. There’s a lot in this poem, Graham. I feel I’m only scratching the surface at the moment – more contemplation to come. Hope you find rest and peace this week!
Cathey -- I don't know if you saw my post, but I wanted to let you know I started a blog called "That's Good To Know" on Substack. Thanks for planting the seed!!! I'm not so good at poetry so it's more narration, but I think it will be fun writing somewhat humorous anecdotes about aging. I hope you & others from our group join me on the blog sharing their funny "aging" experiences. Thanks again!
Jan I saw your blog.I like your idea because it helps me with my aging.I just turned 79 last month and now I am experiencing senior moments.I started to write on my journal now. Thanks Jan.
Yay!!! I'm so excited that you're giving it a go. I can't wait to check it out.
I to am thinking about doing a blog never have I done one before. I’m just thinking about what to call my blog. I have a couple of names. Soul searching, Where the journey begins, I’m still trying to figure out everything. If anyone as any ideas please by all means let me know. I’m up for a new challenge.
Shari -- there are a lot of websites that give you advice on writing a blog. Mainly, you need to have a basic audience in mind -- kind of a theme to your blog. I studied a lot of the ones written by people on here -- especially Cathey's. You can click on their Substack pages -- you'll see them right beside people's names on here. It helps! Good Luck!
I agree, Jan. Having an idea of a theme or a direction helps and figuring out who your audience is are two great places to start. And also checking out what others are doing also inspires. I read more than I actually write most of the time. But bottom line - you just have to start. Putting the first one out there is a bit intimidating, but you'll find your direction. This group is super supportive!
How exciting! I'm sure the perfect name will come to you and I look forward to whatever you will be sharing!
You express yourself so well Cathey, and there is so much to gain from your comment. I wish I could put this more into practice. But, taking it one day at a time, to get to that place of self love. Not easy to do. Thank you for continuing to inspiring me to believe in myself more. I need to trust in myself and the decisions I make. I need to take time & not rush into things. I need to know that I am a good person & that I don't have to prove myself to others or try to be someone I'm not. I don't have to impress others to like me by doing things that are beyond me. We all have limits and I need to accept that, that's ok. That just because I can't do something, it doesn't make me weak or pathetic. We can't do everything. Everyone has their limits. I just found out the hard way. I have learnt a big lesson and know now that I should have trusted my gut, my instincts.
You encourage me so much and I need to be me, not what I think I should be. 💖🙏
Christine, I just now saw this comment that I somehow missed in the original posting. You are absolutely right about loving yourself just as you are and finding the beauty within yourself that others already see. ❤
Oh Carol I should of read this before replying. You are so spot on with what you said. You have to see how God sees us and draw from that. Let God lead us to how we should not only love ourselves but others as well. Thank you for reminding me to view myself as God sees me not how I see myself. Thank you for sharing I just love how you put those words to use.
Cathy... I have just had a second to read through a few of the comments. As I was sitting outside eating a quick lunch yesterday. I had only read the poem and not listened to Graham's narrative yet. You just described my thoughts. Oh how thankful I am for God's perfect love! Blessings!
Hi Wendy - I am so thankful too, knowing that though I always have things to work on, God loves me right where I'm at and that gives me the confidence to love myself. Sounds like you feel the same. Thanks for sharing!
Yes, I have plenty to work on as well. But I truly believe that without the love of our Lord we truly cannot love ourselves or others as we are called to. Surface love is easy but deep authentic love is another. "We love because he first love us." 1 John 19
Wise words so beautifully expressed. Thank you, Cathey.
Thank you Graham and happy Tuesday. This is beautifully written, you express yourself so well to connect with us this community you built that I am so grateful to be a part of.I am in a working progress to develop confidence, to improve loving myself as there’s only me to treat myself right. After my fast experience this last 7 years of my beautification journey I learn to appreciate my own company, by taking time to do things that feels good to make me happy and love myself so I can love others. The weather is getting nicer and warmer I love outdoors,I can ride my motorcycle and this last weekend was amazing I went hiking with my little people “2 grandchildren “. Helping others is a good thing also can become overwhelming, I don’t feel guilty anymore. I practice saying no , so I can avoid putting myself under too much pressure. I simply repeat self-love mantra such as “I am enough “. I love and respect myself. Loving myself is a commitment, time and effort. It is important not to neglect my relationship with myself. Nurturing ourselves does not come naturally, I practice daily self- care and loving my self. I can do all this through him who gives me strength. Get some good rest Graham .Cheers.🙏❤️
Lucy…you so inspire me…have faith. Loving yourself is a positive thing which will provide you more strength to reach your dreams and to extend your love to others. Blessings to you.🙏
Thank you I appreciate you , I am struggling Danny as my surgery was put on hold I had my last surgery 2/19/2020 it supposed to have 6 weeks apart then March I was sent home due to pandemic and my chances to rest and heal. After they were slowly taking patients June 2020 I took my chances of asking all 6 panels of surgeons if the transposed veins questionable I might wait until end of year 2020? We all agreed and next meeting January 2021 roadblock so we wait. I just wanted this to be over and I fully accepted that it will never be the same but I am still they same human being it’s all superficial. I missed my family also my medical missions trip . It’s all in Gods plan and yes sometimes I need to be reminded so thank you. ❤️🙏
Lucy…my prayers are with you…it’s amazing how Graham is working in mysterious ways to connect us and support one another.🙏💕
Yes I am so grateful I joined back up on social media as I disconnected myself early 2016 except my husband have to keep FB to communicate my families my health updates. I am so grateful meeting so many amazing humans thru Graham community.❤️🙏
Lucy, you have blessed and encouraged me so much by your Instagram and Twitter posts. You are very special!
Thank you Anne I am humbled and appreciate you 🙏❤️
Lucy you are more than enough ! I keep telling you this ,,you just have to believe it :)
I appreciate you so much and thank you 🙏❤️
I'm so happy for you Lucy. You are reaping the rewards of your self discovery. 🙏💖
Thank you 🙏❤️
Lucy everything you said I should be doing. I to have to love myself. Actually I need to start practicing it might just do me good. Thank you for sharing. You truly are a special person. Take care.
Thank you Shari I am slowly moving forward , before I had cancer I love myself and love life then my darkest moments hit rock bottom. I am slowly healing and truthfully I am so grateful that I join back up on social media last year , I left all social media 2016 and turn off everything and my husband keep FB so he can communicate with our families on my health issues.
Lucy I am praying for you.You are in my prayer list.The Lord God Almighty will touch your body with His healing hand.Amen
Thank you Elisa I appreciate you 🙏❤️
You are a very special person Lucy- believe that. You are “enough”. More than! You care for others and make their lives a little happier and the resin you can do that is because you have so much love to give to others. You are loved and respected. 🙏🏻💜
Thank you Ms.Sherry 🙏❤️
Graham, that was awesome, I so agree with your words you have to love yourself first. My Grandson struggled for years wanting his Mom or as he now refers to her my birth mom to love him(she never bonded with him, one of the reasons I raised him). He was in counseling for many years as he took his disappointment out on himself an the other around him that did love him. He has come full circle, finally something clicked and he started to realize she will not change and he cannot go through life not loving himself. I had my doubt that he would finish HS on time, but Jan 2021 something clicked and he basically finished 4 years of HS in about 2 years. He finished early last October, and will be walking with his class Friday night. He is talking about going on to design school. He is so happy now and knows who loves him and who he wants to be around these day. I do miss him terribly as he move from New Mexico to Missouri to be with his Dad right before he turned 16 but it was the best thing for him getting away from his Mom's side of the Family (I am his Dads mother). I am so very grateful that I am able to be here to watch him walk after all the struggles he has gone through.
Cynthia, I shared last week about my grandson. I've raised him since birth. Same story his Mom abandoned us. Bless you.for hanging in there for him and you gave me hope he will have a good life. Any holiday especially his birthday is very difficult for him... His anger at the world gets so intense for I have a bruised mouth that I'm nursing from his anger. So happy for your grandson and for you to see his growth. Take care and like Graham says to love yourself.
Goosebumps Cynthia. This story and the success of your grandson is so exciting. I wish you and him well. 🙏🏻💜
you should be a very proud grandma...I know the feeling. My daughter struggles with mental health and has a 12 year old ---the light of my life==she works very hard to be healthier for herself and her daughter. i hold a lot hope
Bonnie have faith ,hope and trust in the Lord. Amen
Cynthia, I'm so happy for your grandson. I'm sure you played a huge part in his coming full circle and the influence you have had on him. God bless you.
Wonderful Cynthia! So happy for your Grandson and you! God bless!
Congrats to your grandson and his accomplishment. It’s wonderful how he persevered in all the struggles he had with growing up. He is hope for those Velho are going thru the same thing.
Cynthia, such a beautiful story. What a glorious occasion that your grandson graduates this Friday. Thank you for giving him all that love and stability. May the love from above fill you to overflowing. You are beautiful.
This came to me at exactly the right time. I have been struggling with some of my close relationships for a while now in regards to what do I truly mean to them, and is it what I need or want that relationship to be. Something is missing, inside me, with them, and I am a work in progress trying to figure that out. I've put others' needs before my own for so long I almost feel guilty putting some of mine first now. So I've been learning to respect and love myself more and be more vocal about what I need, and why. I hope this doesn't sound selfish, but sometimes we just go along in life just accepting things the way they are or frankly, being too lazy or afraid to make changes. Like you often say, you have to put yourself out there, give it a try, take the chance, have faith.
I did that when I joined this community and it has really helped having this place to call my own and I am grateful. Everyone is so supportive.
BTW, you don't look tired. but I hope you get the rest you need and have a happy week. It's beautiful here today and I am going to enjoy the sunshine and nice breeze . I hope you get to do the same. Bless You.
Cindy
Cindy, it also started for me when I joined Substack. Amen to everything you just stated. You have to truly love yourself, and have the FAITH and trust that you will be led where you are truly supposed to go or to be. Have a blessed week!
Hi I too am a care taker of others. I have had to teach myself to put up boundaries ( there has been push back but I am being strong) some weight has been lifted from me and i was afraid that people would stop being my friend ---that hasnt happened we just redefined the roles in the relationships and I am mush happier... Best to you
I agree, Cindy. If he experienced three big happenings in two days, he probably needs quite a bit of reflection and peace. He'll do it. No doubt about that. Glancing down at Deloris' comment: boundaries are so important. I'm sure Graham knows a lot about boundaries. For several years, I led a discussion group in a women's prison based on a boundaries book. It helped me; I hope it helped them.
Cynthia, I've had a similar journey. I needed outside help to develop healthy boundaries and then ability to live with/ in those boundaries for my own health - actually, for others health as well. As long as I was stepping in to " help" or to "fix", others weren't developing their own skills. For a while, I felt guilty and thought of myself as being lazy - not stepping in to help. But, that was just the Old number trying to run me again. Those feelings went away in time. I felt I had more energy. Not so drained all the time. Keep on going.
I think joining this community has been one of the best decisions I’ve made. I’m glad you made it too. Priceless! 🙏🏻💜
Cynthia we are some what a like. It’s hard to put yourself first when it’s you helping someone else. I fall into that trap all the time. I’m not very self loving never have been. I know my family loves me my husband my children. But it’s hard to love yourself. I’m glad your doing self love we all need to do that. Take care God bless.
Graham…I loved this poem. It was perfectly written…so well stated…it was to me a building of thoughts of love throughout life to a final conclusion…how I wished one would have loved me in my lifetime…how I would want to be cherished…and concluding…loyal love…be it for yourself…then for them.
Yes for me I have often thought during my life how much I wanted to be loved…to be cherished. But now at this late stage of my life and looking back, I received so much love … unconditional love … from my parents. I don’t believe I appreciated it as much then as I do now. And I sure wish I had expressed my thanks to them for their love more often. And today I feel loved by my family…wife…sons…grand kids…a blessed feeling that I am thankful for.
As far as me loyally loving myself first I have never been good at it throughout my life. I would always have a guilty feeling when putting myself first before others. I can’t turn back the time. But I can say to this community … practice hard what Graham has written. Don’t put it off. I would have given anything if I had seen a poem such as this in my earlier life. I think it would have afforded me more opportunities to have a better balance between internal love … loyally love for me … and external love … love for others.
Fast forward to today, at 75 I frankly get more pleasure out of giving my love to my family than receiving their love. That’s just me … that’s just who I am. But I do make time for myself…do the things that I want to do. As an example my loyalty to myself is spending about three hours each morning at the gym…this is how I start my day…and everyone knows this is MY sacred time. Enough about me. (Graham…are you scheduling gym time…I’ve heard you say that you do.)
Turning to you Graham. I don’t know if you saw my message to you in Telegram on May 9 responding to that cute video of the kids pouring flour in plates on their heads. My message at that time was that I was concerned that I had not seen any postings / communications from you in a while. For some reason, over the past few weeks I have thought about you each day and was wondering how you were doing. What I was feeling was a sincere concern for your well being…I guess like a fatherly concern for a son. But that is what you have done to me and this community. You have inspired all of us to have concern for others and to love. And when I read this poem and listened to your message, I felt a validation of my concern. I feel as though in the short time that I have have known you that you have been so intense since the beginning of Heartland to now that you may not have taken the quality time that you need for yourself. Maybe now is a good time to retool your business plan to lessen the stress on you personally … I may be overreacting but this is what I feel. I certainly would not make these comments if I didn’t feel that you would receive them in the way I intend them. I certainly have so much love and admiration for you and your work and I know this community has the same feeling as well. And I want you … we all want you … to be successful on your newly sought out journey in life. We need you for sure. So I hope … we hope … that you do what you said at the end…take some time for yourself…loyally love for yourself first…then to others.
Graham, you have to feel the love for you and the support for you from this community by reading these comments. You are such a gift to us and an inspiration. I personally have never seen anyone in my life time who could write like you in a way that is simple but the words have such heavily impactful meaning on life…on my life personally. So be proud of yourself…be proud of your gifted talent…and know that everyone can feel that your work is from deep within your heart…from your heart to our heart. Bless you Graham and remember loyally love for yourself first this week…then to others.🙏
Danny I also share some of your concern for Graham. For a couple if weeks there has been a certain feeling I'm getting that he has been a little disconnected. Can't really put my finger on it but I started noticing it when he got back home from the road trip. Maybe a plate that's too overloaded or decisions and conflicts that need to be resolved. All we can do is pray that he gets the guidance he needs to do what's best for him. Many blessings to you Danny. Thank you for sharing.🙏❤
Yes Barbara I agree with your comment. I have faith that Graham will be fine. He sure has the love and support from this community…and I know that he feels it and appreciates it.🙏💕
Danny this is so well said... I pray Graham feels how much this community loves and respect him... IN all my life I have never known anyone that does so much for everyone as Graham does ... If thats not LOVE then I dont know what is ...GRAHAM is love... PATTY HAMILTON
Thanks Patty. I believe Graham will be fine. He knows that this community loves and appreciates him and his work…🙏💕
I truly hope that Graham knows how much he has done for all of us. I know we appreciate his work and the time he takes to share with us. I too hope that he takes time out to look after himself. Starting, establishing & refining a business isn't easy. There is so much work involved as we have seen through Graham's clips etc. Now with the stress of moving, I'm glad that he decided to not do the cameos as that is at least one thing to lessen the load. I wish Graham all the very best & hope that things will slow down for him soon. Like you stated, Danny, we care about Graham & want the best for him. 💖🙏🤗
Yes Christine he’s a remarkable young man and so special and loved.🙏
Wow Danny! You can write too. Very well said. You put into words what I feel about Graham from time to time also. I'm glad you put this into words on the page
Danny I totally agree with you 100 ..percent.. Graham is a very gifted person .. and I thank God he is sharing it with us so freely.. He is young and has alot to give.. So into showing Love and kindness to all humans...its from deep in his heart.. YES I told him awhile back I Knew his parents were proud of him .. He said yes they are.. Graham you have more people loving you than you can ever know but if its not the one you want to love you then you still have that empty feeling .. but God will help you with a filling love that will fill your cup over flowing...we all love and respect you .. we all are praying for your happieness.....
I agree Patty, God can do that for us! One condition, we need to be willing to let him. If a person is not ready for God to help them, He is not going to force it.
Thanks Patty…yes everyone in this community is praying for Graham’s happiness and praying for each other as well. 🙏
Well said and thank you for sharing. Great points!
Thanks Joan
Thanks Anne🙏
Danny I love reading your comment every time ,you have such a gift in writing and you always put your heart and soul , sending you my love and blessings from the land down under !! P.S. ..3 hours at the gym ???? How do you do that ?? I struggle to do about 1 ,1/2 hours before work ,I usually go at 4:30 am as lately its the only time I have free, but 3 hours sounds like a lot to me ,I don't think I'm fit enough now lol ....
Thanks so much Irene…I appreciate it. You know Graham has a way of encouraging us to say what we feel. This particular poem was a special one. It’s taken me a while to achieve a 3 hour workout. Keep in mind that I’m retired and so I have no reason to quickly finish it. Keep at it and you will get there…blessings to you.🙏
Thanks Valerie🙏
Thanks Lisa🙏
Thanks Kathleen 🙏
Thanks Graham🙏
Thanks Marsha🙏
Graham, thanks for another inspiring poem. Am going to follow your suggestion of checking back during the week to share thoughts/progress.
Quote from Little Book of Love Letters to World
“Love yourself when you’re tired.
Love yourself when you’re weak.
Love yourself when you’re confused.
Love yourself when you’re broken.
Love yourself until you’re restored.”
May you be blessed with time this week to refill your cup!
We will have to love ourselves until we're restored, Linda. Step by step. You're putting in the time and work! Cheers my friend!
Agree, think we are doing a good job of working on that together. Bless you my friend!
Linda…I love your quotes…so inspiring.🙏
The Little Book of Love Letters to the World has so many little inspiring messages, I flip through it everyday….glad you enjoy them.
Thank you for these beautiful words🙏💕
Beautiful quote ! Thanks Linda.
Love the quote, Linda!
This was really good! I recall when I became a mom, I was a teenager and my daughter was unplanned. I was certainly not at all ready to be a mother and I was truly concerned because I did not have a loving upbringing. My upbringing was quite abusive. This abuse led me to be a very self hating, OCD and very legalistic individual, as well as a perfectionist. I grew up in Appalachian KY and that is very poor. So I had my baby and decided I was not going to be a statistic and I graduated high school. I immediately moved from my poor county to Louisville KY and entered into U0fL on federal grants and plunged myself into everything my family wasn't. However I had not dealt with the pain, the abuse and the anguish. I worked FT and went to school FT while daycare was raising my baby. I did get that degree and I was successful but I was still that OCD perfectionist that was all about rules and that was how I "loved". Then I found Jesus and he broke me. I recall how many times my little girl would "help" me do a chore around our little apartment and I would just ridicule her for how wrong it was done breaking her little spirit instead of letting her know how thankful I was for her. No I didn't yell at her, beat her or sexually abuse her; I successfully broke that cycle of abuse like I promised myself but my way of loving was cold. Because I didn't know how to love myself. I am thankful for some really great ladies I met within the church when my daughter was still impressionable that was able to help me and mold me. I am thankful they spoke truth to me in love and taught me it isn't selfish to love myself first. See I thought that was taboo. To me love was working hard to be sure she never went without like I did, never felt scared like I did and was never hurt like I was. I missed out on so much by working so hard. Yep I have that Accounting degree I worked so hard for but I missed her first steps, her first words and I didn't even potty train her....babysitters did all of that. She also taught me love because she loved me unconditionally. It was just her and I for much of her growing up because I didn't trust anyone. I finally met my husband when she was 14 and she finally had a daddy. I think the timing was perfect because I had finally figured out how to love myself so I could actually love him too. I moved away from Kentucky completely when she was 8 years old for a position in Virginia and I never looked back. My husband I met 6 years later was stationed in VA in the military so we have now lived all over....funny thing is he is actually from Kentucky himself. We are currently making plans on settling back in KY because his parents are getting older and need help, they are in Western KY, I was from Eastern KY. I still to this day all these years later do not know how to feel about being in my "home" state. I have been to visit my parents over the years and I still feel unloved by them. The world in the mountains of Eastern KY is like another country, people are stuck in their ways. Abuse is rampant and no one tells. Children are to be seen but not heard. Religion is cult like and used as an abuse of power not for love. There is a reason why on airplanes they tell you to put your oxygen mask on yourself before you help someone else...you are no good to others if you are dead inside. Wow, sorry I know this was way long but learning to love oneself is a journey for sure.
Lynette -- I learned a great trick from a counselor once. Keep a picture of yourself as a little kid in your billfold. Pull it out when you are in doubt or feel unloved. Talk to her in a loving way. Give yourself the self-love you need. Who can resist a little kid?! Congratulations! You are a Survivor!!!
Wow! That is really good. This whole poem was perfect timing. My dad called me right after I wrote this post to let me know we are having a family reunion in September. Side note: my dad was never abusive physically, emotionally distant, he did the best he could. My mom and her family were abusive. My mom protected my abusers. My dad removed me from her when I was 15 but goodness he had no clue how to care for a teenage girl with so many issues. Since I was so sexually abused he was afraid to hug me. He still awkwardly hugs me. He tries, he really does. I love my dad, I tolerate my mom.
Lynette. You are so strong. Your willingness to love your dad to the best of your ability is something that is so hard to do. With what you went thru as a child is something only you can understand. I believe God will help you thru this. I to hope you go to your family reunion just enjoy yourself and have a wonderful time.
Lynette ~ God is at work. I hope you get to go to the family reunion with your dad.
What a good idea! I think I will try that for awhile to remember that I would love that child & want her to feel love & confidence.
Teresa -- it works! We would never say the negative things we say to ourselves in our heads to that little girl. Good Luck!
Oh Jan thank you for sharing this. Such good advice.
You must be so proud of yourself, because what you’ve accomplished took courage and determination. Your little girl is lucky to have you as a mom.
I hope and pray she feels the same way. I definitely created a strong daughter. She went to college as well, first to Baptist Bible College to be a special needs teacher (after raising her in a stressful accounting environment she definitely steered clear of that) but she realized quickly she didn't like dealing with parents in the educational system. She is currently back in college pursuing a career in animal medicine. She too is a perfectionist and very OCD; I blame myself for that. I have learned a lot from loving her though because she is the type of person that will stop to help anyone, much to my constant fear. I cannot take all the credit for how she has turned out: our church and my wonderful husband that loved her as his own were both very important in her life.
What a courageous person you are to have realized what you did not want for yourself or your child and moved beyond your circumstances. God bless you.
Lynette, you are beautiful. You are uniquely you 💗
May love fill you to overflowing
Great story! Bless you and thank you for sharing. You are amazing.
Lynette. Wow. Such awareness and strength of character and at such a young age to take action and break deep, unhealthy cycles. I have learned from your story of determination and perseverance. Most powerfully that you've achieved ability to feel and give love. TY
If we are incapable of loving ourselves we don’t have anything left to love others. Well said Lynette. 🙏🏻💜
Five or six times already today I have come over to this screen and have attempted to write about this topic. Love myself the way I wish others had??? It stops me in my tracks.
I have been loved. My Dad loved me. He was a loving man and I really can't imagine him not loving anyone, although I'm guessing there may have been some he didn't love as much.
My children love me, my grandchildren, my brother, my sister., some friends. I have been loved in my life.
Why isn't that enough then? Why couldn't I have been better at whatever it was I could be better at so that my Mom had loved me. Or what about my husband? Why wasn't being loved by other people enough to override the lack of love from two very critical people in my life?
I'm certain my Mom loved me when I was born and young. But she chose alcohol over me and alcohol won that contest.
My husband...not as certain. His childhood was unusual. Not much affection or displays of love. He then wasn't equipped to show that either or as he said...I don't know how love feels. All I know is how I felt. It didn't feel like love.
So Graham, you ask what did I learn? I learned the difference between someone loving me and not loving me and how that feels. I stopped beating myself up from the questions that always loomed...like...how could I have been better to get them to love me. What should I do to make someone love me who doesn't. I've finally let that go. It took a REALLY long time. And much of it has come very recently. From being in this community that Graham has brought together. Brought together because of love. We are all ok here. Accepted in all our messiness. We are encouraged to love ourselves the way we dreamed of being loved. And that is Graham's doing. Because he accepts and loves every flawed one of us. Now that is what I've learned...I've learned loyal love.
Barbara ... I’m crying as I write this. In my comment I alluded to that lack of “husband” love. That’s where I was last year- with everything I am and have to give why would a husband violate his vows. Why. - now I know that what matters is loving myself and I realize that I cannot be responsible for the acts of anyone else. I too let it go but I remember that the scars are there they just do not control me anymore. Thank you for your share. 🙏🏻💜
Sherry, you are definitely not responsible for any one's acts. Nothing can be changed by looking back to that time. I know...believe me I know...it's painful to be betrayed. But I'm through that and here today as you are. The breaths we take are here and now and there isn't any reason to revisit the painful time again. Be gentle and kind to yourself Sherry.
Thank you for those words Barbara. 🙏🏻💜
Sherry just remember that God loves you.Look up to Him and blessings will come down to you!
🙏🏻💜🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 Thank you ! Love this community and can it say that enough!
What a story Barbara sorry that you grew up in that environment. But you rose above all of that and made a better life for yourself. You have a beautiful live !!!
Barbara you waited until just the right moment to write! Your story and the rest of your response to this Loyal Love poem has amazed me. I'm sorry about your Mom. I'm sure you know now that Alcoholism is a disease and your Mom was sick.
You write so well and your interpretation explains this poem to me.
So thank you!
I read the poem and I had no clue how to interpret it or respond. I felt like my bbrain was numb. I still feel no personal response except I believe I have always been loved. Just differently or more or less depending on who the other person was. Some people care for us as much as they are able. I'm sorry your problem person was your Mom. I think that would have really messed me up.
Wow I felt this. Like really felt this. They say the lack of a fathers love is critical. As a female I really needed my mom. My mom never loved me. I was always in her way and she left me with family members that brutalized me. When I told a teacher, she turned on me. Then when I got pregnant with my daughter she told me "I knew you would get knocked up you should just get an abortion"....that little girl I was carrying was the only hope of love I had. God knows I had no clue how to be a mom but you can be sure I was not going to be the mom I had. My daughter has never had to question my love for her. She calls me probably 4 times a week for advice (shes 25 now), just to talk and tells me every time "I love you mommy". She knows I will go to the end of the world for her. I dated some while she was growing up but I always chose her over anyone. I wouldn't take the chance on a man doing to her what I went through. We had this favorite show when she was growing up "Gilmore Girls"....I always called her my "Rory". I love what you said about being okay in our messiness because life is messy.
Oh dear Lynette, your childhood story is tragic. I read your post here too and was simply in awe of what you went through and your determination for a better life for you and your daughter and how you accomplished that. I know you have regrets and look back on how you would have done things differently but the fact of the matter is you have the NOW. How you got here was sheer determination and grit. May God Bless you. And the past...it's best left in the dust where it belongs.
I totally sympathize with what you're saying, Barbara. I have the same experiences with my mother and another person in my life whose love I crave. It is still working every day on letting go and accepting. Thank you for your story🙏💕
Yes we need to let it go Bie. But we never have to accept it. I always thought that because my Mom was an alcoholic she wasn't able to love me. She was sick. I no longer believe that. She made choices and chose not to get help. I urged her but she continued on her path. I'm happier letting her go. She has been gone for 37 years and I fret about it entirely too long.
My mother is now 87 and in need of assistance. I'm trying to give her now the love she couldn't give...💕
Very cathartic. I helped w my mother through Alzheimers. Strangely, gave me healing opportunity and came to peace w our fitful relationship.
Bie God will also be there for you when you will reach the same age as your mother. He will send someone too to care for you.Amen.
I likt to believe that! Thank you🙏💕
If my mother was still here I would be doing the same. I pray for you Bie and understand how painful this must be for you. Look at the person you are! You are a loving person and that is something you can be proud of. You caring for your mom is a call from God. Nothing but good can come of it.
Barbara - I can relate to what you shared. Up until about 2 1/2 years ago, I did not care about myself very much. Most of this was self inflicted by me because I always thought I had to give and give to feel the appreciation from others. Well how long does that last? It's temporary. Like you, I finally had to take a hard look at myself and ask God's forgiveness for what I put myself through but also I had to forgive myself. It was not easy, but when it happened, it was a huge weight off my shoulders. After that, I was led to Heartland, Graham's writings & podcasts, and now this wonderful community. Grateful doesn't begin to express how I feel, but I'm eternally grateful for God leading me on this journey to find Graham and this wonderful and amazing community. Thank you for sharing and may God bless you and your family.
It seems like we had similar paths to finding ourselves here. I mean we all watch tv, but Heartland gave many of us a comforting feeling while we hunkered down in our homes only to discover the young man who somehow spoke to us. I've never followed a tv personality in my life. This is where we are now and really it's been quite amazing. So many of us on a path to heal and thrive. Thank you Graham and to those who are here supporting you and each other. 🙏❤
Barbara, This is beautiful! You are very loved.
Thanks Graham for this beautiful and timely poem ❤ I had a powerful realisation this past few days - I have been sabotaging myself for so long, I made a firm decision to stop doing it - and it has caused me some distress as it means I am putting myself first for a change and others don't like it! I have hesitated to complete some creative ventures and to share my authentic self. So next week I am having a 3 day silent retreat - to go within and find clarity about my life, and where I need to make changes. The following week I have booked to go away with two friends to a spiritual retreat centre in Wales. I am already taking your advice.
Many blessings to you 🙏 ✨ you do look tired, but peaceful. My prayers go out to you and your family.
Enjoy the retreat and you own as well. I find that silence really helps in the thinking process. You must be so proud of yourself taking these steps in self-care. 🙏🏻💜
I'm only sad I didn't do it sooner. Thank you Sherry for your kind words.
I will be praying for you Carole!!! God bless you!!!🙏❤😇
Thank you Carolyn. Much love ❤ to you.
I will be praying for you Carole!
Thank you Anne. 😊 I am excited and terrified all at once!
I truly believe it will be revealed and happen for you. It's not easy and I still struggle myself, but until I dealt with it, I would not be where I am now. I'm just truly humbled and grateful. Blessings to you!
Blessings to you. Interesting retreats.
Graham, this is beautiful & so true, you have to love yourself before loving anyone else. Please get some rest Much love stay safe. ❤️
I am reminded of a line in an old Whitney Houston song, “Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all.” That line made me uncomfortable. It sounded selfish, egotistical, and just plain wrong. My mom explained it to me and it kind of made sense. She said that love of God must come first, and because He loves me, I must love myself. Then and only then am I capable of loving others. I’ll be honest, I wasn’t fully convinced, but I bought it. Only after many decades on this Earth is it starting to make sense to me. Recent events in my life have caused me to lose this healthy “self love.” I’m working on getting it back and find that it is getting a bit easier to open my heart to others. Let the healing begin and the love come out. To quote another great artist, Lenny Kravitz, “Let love rule.”
Philip, I'm glad you feel like you can share and be open in this space. A wise person in my life once suggested making a "Love List" to yourself of the qualities and characteristics you appreciate in yourself, and then also a list of how God sees you. I haven't done that for a long time but might give it a go this week.
That is such a great idea, Cathey. It goes against my nature, but that is probably a good thing. It might also help me in the confidence department as I interview for jobs.
Good luck with the job hunt!
Just got a great job offer...I kid you not.
Congratulations Philip I hope you will like your new job
Elisa, that is so kind of you. I am getting new job jitters, but have to be brave to get back out there after a year of early retirement. God is in control!
That's awesome !! Congratulations Phillip !!
Seriously?? That's amazing timing. Are you excited about the offer?
The timing is SO meaningful to me! Yes, I am thrilled. God is good.
Philip, I remember both of those songs. When I read your comments, I can feel the healing has begun. I’m still a work in progress because there have been some days where I’ve struggled, but I keep pressing forward. Not always easy, but the blessings outweigh the struggles. Blessings to you!
I remember those songs. You are loved and a blessing to this gorup.
Thanks so much, Laura! Have a great day.