Thanks Graham for another thought provoking poem. Great question , how do I council myself through a storm ? Iām going through a challenging time at the moment and it is only natural that it makes me feel overwhelmed at times. What works for me is that when the going gets tough is to acknowledge the emotional experience and allow myself to feel. Holding feelings in may make the situation more difficult in the long run. It is good to let yourself feel and express all the emotions, sadness,frustration as for me it is an essential part of healing. I try to remain positive. What helps me a lot is meditating,praying, journaling daily. Lately I have also been committing to daily morning workouts before work and getting sunlight and fresh air, a walk at the beach, watching the sunset,. Every little thing you can do for yourself helps!ššāØ
Irene, well done you have to take care of yourself before you can look after others. This is when you need the me (you) time. I know things are hard but you are stronger than you think. šš¦šŗš
I love your response, Irene. Itās good to share the mountains and the valleys. We learn from others and how to share our hearts with others. I do know your struggle and have had similar ones. In Godās hands tears are gold to be used on the pavement in Godās house.
Irene, know that I am here for you as you have been for me. You care so much for others & I'm glad that you are taking time out to look after yourself. I love your sunset photos. Going for walks on the beach can really be cathartic. All the best my friend. šš
Amen Irene! I'm about to go out and soak up some sun. I've had COVID. Now these horrible right leg cramps. I need the heat of the sun for some healing.
Good luck to you! Hope you are having a good day so far!!! š šššš
I love your answer Irene! You are doing exactly the right thing, and your beautiful sunsets are a very important morale booster. I wish you courage and hope that this difficult period for you will soon come to an end because nothing lasts forever, better days will come soon, I'm sure
Walking thru your emotions help. I now have found doing that being by self to kind of walk thru them helps. It breaks things down so you can adjust accordingly. Iām happy Irene that your able to find comfort in the walks on the beach and watching the sunsets those are so relaxing. I wish the best for you my friend take care.
Walks can really set your mind free to open up in so many ways! I love walking in the woods and enjoy nature or walking on the beach. Itās so cleansing to our souls.
Itās pretty hot here as well Danny all year long. I usually go for a walk very early in the morning at sunrise or late at sunset , otherwise I will die from the heat lol
Finally realizing āme timeā is not only time to glow, it allows us time to expand our horizons! Thank you for reminding us to be patient and learn from every experience ā£ļøš
Beautiful poem Graham. God is my council through any storm or plainly every day. He is my rock and my fortress. Without God, I would not be here right now. This poem reminds me of Psalm 23. This entire chapter in the Book of Psalm is entirely what your poem is reflecting on. Verse 3 and 4 really speak to me: 3) He renews my strength. He guides me along right paths, bringing honor to his name. 4) Even when I walk through the darkest valley, I will not be afraid, for you are close beside me. Your rod and your staff protect and comfort me. This is from the New Living Translation of the Bible.
Many years ago when I was caregiving for my mother in the last 31/2 to 4 years of her life was probably the hardest thing I've ever been through. The sacrifices I had to make of not being able to travel with friends or just do the things I wanted to, I didn't like but were necessary. I needed to be on call almost 24/7 in case she needed me. Like you said, while going through the trial, I couldn't see the light at the end of the tunnel because it was dark during it. I screamed and cried out to my friends due to the pressure this had on my life at the time. I began to reflect on the sacrifices that she made for me over an entire lifetime. When I thought about that, everything began to change. After she passed away, and I had time to reflect back on those years, I realized this experience made me stronger. The blessing was that my mother and I grew closer during this time. All my life, I had two prayers. I wanted to hear my mother tell me she loved me, and I wanted to know that she had asked Jesus into her heart. It's not that she didn't love me, but it was just the way she was raised. It was something you just knew. The blessing from this is one month before she died, God answered both of those prayers. That is a praise, and I will never forget. This experience made my faith stronger in God.
The take away from this is yes, we will all face storms in life because frankly that is just the way it is. For me, it is who we go to for council. Another verse comes to mind - I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength. Praise God that I know that.
If you're going through a storm right now, please know that you can always reach out to God if that is for you, or reach out to a friend who can pray for you. You are not alone. We are here for one another in this community to encourage and lift one another up.
Graham, prayers for you to have safe travels. Take Care and God bless you and this entire community! Cheers!
I can so relate to your situation with your mother, Anne. I was caregiver to my mom in her last year as she battled cancer. She had been so independent up until that point and it was hard for both of us when I had to step in. I was helping her one day with her personal care and I said out loud (not meaning to) "This is so exhausting!" and she said, "How do you think I feel?". This made me realize that this situation was difficult for everyoneI else - not just me. My husband's mother was also sick at this time (they died a day apart) and lived 5 hours away so it was difficult for us to be there for each other during this time. I had to rely on God and His strength and know that He always walks with us in the middle of the storm. Thanks for sharing your story.
Wow! This is a time you know those footprints in the sand are Christ. We can not endure that kind of pain with our own strength !šš»šš»šš»
Jody, not an easy situation for you. You were certainly tested. I'm sorry you had to go through such a difficult time, but you should be proud of yourself. You are strong & got through it. Bless you. š
Jody, thank you for sharing yours. God is always there even when we don't let ourselves acknowledge HIM during the storms of life. Wow, dying one day a part would have been difficult, but in the end we learn from these experiences in order to encourage someone else. Blessings my friend!
I also relate to your situation with your mother, Anne. I was caregiver for my dad in the latter months of his life, and whilst it was a difficult and exhausting time, I did have the opportunity to resolve some issues with him. I recognised too that he was unable to give me the kind of supportive love that I needed growing up, and that it was because he himself was so damaged. After he died I found his diary and he talked of how much he loved me as was proud of me. He had never told me that while he was alive so it gave me some comfort. God bless you Anne on journey. You have come so far. Well done on losing all that weight. I think I remember you mentioning it on Graham's live chat.
End of life care for a parent! Nobody ever warned me about this. Now 8 months out, I'm still healing from the multi-year ordeal. Only God's grace has gotten me through it and I hope and pray it will sustain me as I try to get on with my life.
Thank you Carole! I appreciate you sharing about your father. This story is what started it all for me, and the most amazing thing God revealed and said to share and write about this journey. Iām definitely out of my comfort zone, but when you feel God calling you to do this, he will provide everything you need when itās needed. Iām truly humbled by everyoneās encouragement here, but thatās what weāre about here to lift one another up. So far, the weight is coming off and I continue to walk. Take care and God bless! šš»ā¤ļø
Thanks Deborah! It was hard, but with every trial, there is a blessing and we usually grow stronger. Hearing her say I love you was one thing, but more important was knowing she had accepted Jesus, I will never forget that moment because above all else, that was the most important. Not having children myself helped me to appreciate the sacrifices she made for my brother and I all our life. Blessings to you Deborah! God is good all the time, and all the time, God is good. Amen!
Anne we both had that charge and gift in being the care givers for our mothers in their last years and then days. I write more several months ago about the trauma of that for me and you are now talking about that same time in your life. The need to say goodbye for now in such a final way is made even more difficult by the memories, the misgivings, the wishes for yourself and your parent, the things left unsaid,.just so much. I am so happy for you that your faith helps you in all ways. š¤š
Sherry, my mother was a private person and very independent. Most of the issues were self-manipulated which is what I wrote about last week over in my blog. I think God used that time for our relationship to grow. Thatās the blessing in it for me. God will answer prayer but he does it in his time. Iām so glad those two prayers were answered before she passed. My faith sustains me through it all. Before I moved forward I had to let go and forgive myself and asked God also. Blessings to you and take care! šš»ā¤ļø
I relate to what you went through. I have been caring for my parents for the past year after my mom suffered a stroke and she was my dads carer. I love my parents, but somtimes on those darkest days I think is this what my life is now. I will not travel anywhere too far, just in case and have also stopped doing the things I enjoy most.
To top things off, I am also going through my own health issues at the moment.
I am definitely going through that feeling, can't see the light at the end of tunnel.
Anna, so sorry youāre going through this. I couldnāt go anywhere or felt like I shouldnāt. Please remember to always take care of yourself which I didnāt do a very good job of. Iāve learned not to do that any more. Luckily. I donāt have health issues at the moment, but thatās why Iāve started the blog/newsletter to share the journey and hold myself accountable at the same time. Wish you God speed and blessings! šš»ā¤ļø
Well said Anne I love the Psalm verse you are so right God does renew are strength heās with us where ever we go. Heās Rod and staff will comfort us. We all go thru our storms though with God we are not alone. Take care my dear friend Iām glad you and your mom made peace before she left this world.
Thanks Susan! I appreciate it. Let me tell you, Iām not really a writer, but anything that is published is from the heart and I let God take the wheel. Itās just another thing that is definitely out of my comfort zone, but Iām trying to follow Godās will by being vulnerable and totally surrendering to Godās will. I havenāt watched TV in awhile. But if I do, I definitely gravitate to Heartland. The entire story line of the show is awesome. Take care and God bless!
I have to laugh out loud, Susan. Last night I was on the phone with my sister and suddenly realized it was 8:00 pm and time for another episode of Season 15. I said gotta go and that was that. Dropped everything. Kind of pathetic but funny! Great cattle drive! Of course Lou had to be a drama queen. lol
I think you and I and a lot of folks are "addicted" to Heartland. The Prince season was great! I just watched the scene where Ty punched out Chase and Mrs. Bell cheered him on. I loved her character. The show is truly a "guilty pleasure." I had never heard of Heartland until this past January when I dumped cable and got on a family friendly streaming service. Then I binge-watched every season for a month. It got me through a very bad time after I lost my dad. That's how I found this group!
That is great to hear! Both the TV show and Graham's podcasts have helped me tremendously. Plus, there is such encouragement from the members of the group. The timing was good for both of us!
Thank you Jody! During that time we were both blessed. There were some rough patches, but I think we all go through that. You never know how long it takes for God to answer your prayers, but he does in his own timing. I don't have any regrets or resentments any longer, just appreciation for the sacrifices she and my father made to raise my brother and I. I'm smiling now just remembering those days. It's truly a blessing, but you don't always see that going through the storm. Take care my friend! God bless!
Inevitably in this life storms or trials come and go. The book of James talks about what storms do for us. They test our faith and if we let them, produce perseverance in us. I believe thereās always something to be learned in a storm that allows us to help others as they experience trials, too. To me your poem describes the process of embracing the bad weather, but to keep moving forward knowing the light will return and the beauty after the storm will be the reward for persevering. Each storm teaches us to weather the next one with more faith and endurance, knowing they eventually pass. Thereās also value in letting others support us and walk through the storms with us. We are a collective of humanity that God brought together to love and support each other. Eyes up, prayers up, and keep moving toward the light at the end of the tunnel! Thanks, Graham ā hope the storms are keeping their distance for you currently. May your adventure be full of joy and light!
Love this Cathey! It is so true. The storms of life develop our character and strengthen us for the future. In every storm there is a lesson and also a silver lining if we look carefully for it. As I look back over my life I see God's wisdom in allowing the storms of my life to shape me into the person I am today. I know He is always with us as we travel through storms and will never allow us to be tested beyond what we can bear. Much love šCarole
I agree, Carole. Often we can later see the purpose for the storm. But sometimes we may never know why we went through them. But each one teaches us something if we take the time to let them.
You're right Cathey, each storm we have to go through teachs something to us. My question always is What I have to learn from this? And I try to work with it.
Thamks God we have others to support and join us in our path.
Graham, this is a universal dilemma we all face. We live in darkness and then there is light. When we least expect it , there is darkness again and unexpectedly we come back into the light. Itās lifeās rollercoaster. As you said however, how deep are those valleys and how high are those mountains? Itās easier to fall down than to climb up! That is the challenge!!! To keep the journey downward to shallow and to rise up for longer and longer times is really how we overcome our darkness. Faith, strength, beliefs, perseverance, confidence, love all allow us to climb those mountains. They are also the same to prevent us from sliding deep into the darkness. Not quitting and never thinking I canāt and never giving up in the face of the nearly impossible has kept me in the light most of my life. Itās a habit and fulfilling attitude that prevents the downward spiral! Keep your chin up, hold your head high and have faith and love in your heart and you will feel light and warmth the remainder of your life!!!
What a beautiful response Jeffry. You are speak eloquently. I've missed hearing your wisdom. As I'm not often involved in the telegram chat now. Many blessings to you - and much love šCarole
Last month was particularly hard for me, but with the support from others, I have been able to get through to see my way forward.
Talking & sharing how I feel helps me a lot. I used to always keep everything inside until it broke me down.
It took me a long time to find a way to see through the darkness & lift the cloud that fogged my mind. Doing things that I loved set me free. Going for my drives, walks in nature & taking photos gave me a sense of freedom. Of being able to release myself from the burdens of my mind. Looking through the photos reminds me of those times & the feelings associated with them.
I am starting to go out once more & this has been a huge step to my road to healing.
This week, Graham's poem really hit home & reminded me that I can move forward. That I have done this before & will again. šš
I understand completely I held certain things in as well. In some cases I still do. Though like you the people in this community have helped me a great deal. I have to give most Credit to Graham for starting this substack community. He as given so much of his time and energy and his love. He has made all of better. I keep praying for you Christine that all goes as planned for you. Hoping one day we can all meet and get to know each other.
So happy that you have found a way forward with supportive friends, Christine. Take one step at a time and be kind to yourself. You have come a long way. Many blessings š to you on your journey. Much love šCarole
Graham-Thank you for using the challenges you have gone through to make your purpose and passion to serve and support others on their journeyšš»
This poem has really challenged me in various layers. This kept me up most of the night tossing and turning, reflecting and re-confronting some stuff that came up for me. I feel this piece of writing deeply integrated into my entire being.
Iāve face alot of challenges and darkness that took almost my entire adult life thus far to confront and to overcome. Trying to bury the pain and pretend things didnāt happen does not help, it just makes the darkness even all more consuming.
The best advice Iāve gotten is to be the captain of your own ship because no one is coming to save you. I had to dig deep, confront all my demons, accept them, own them and then work on them all on my own. Many times because traumas can have so many layers you have to dig into repeatedly. The work is hard and a lot of times painful, but so rewarding when you free yourself of the chains that have bound you for so long.
Iām not perfect, I still falter and stumble, but when I have those storms I look inside for the answers and look up because even on the darkest of nights there is stars that light the sky. There is light, love and hope always ahead and always inside. So for anyone struggling, go internally and look up and ahead-there is so much beauty and goodness awaiting us all! We just have to keep moving forward and stay present and grateful.
Laurie you have so much strength inside you. Sharing your story gives others hope for what lies ahead for other and what their storm is. Keep looking towards the ski because those stars will get brighter and brighter just like you.
Laurie you should be so proud of how you have been able to overcome the storms in your life. You have a great outlook which will help you when a storm can start to form. It takes a lot of courage to open yourself up & confront the battles of the past. As you stated, it only harms you more of you keep it all inside. A dam, ready to burst.
You are an amazing person, taking on new challenges & moving forward. šš
Laurie good for you, the journey you have traveled you certainly have come a long way., struggling and overcoming a lot of obstacles. Well done, you are definitely the captain of your own ship. šŖš»šš¦šŗš
Laurie I like your idea looking up because God is looking down at you who gives you hope and will lift you up from your storm.Just continue to look up and acknowledge God always pray.
Thanks Laurie! One day at a time. Definitely stepping out of my comfort zone in a lot of areas right now, but Iām humbled and blessed how itās all progressing. Never thought I would be writing about it, but when I feel led, I have to have the faith and keep pressing on and do it. Take care and God bless! šš»šš»
WOW! I get this. I am there. I instantly understood the meaning of this poem to my life. Recently I have come to realize it is important for me to walk with myself on a journey to understand more fully who I am & what I want for me for the time I have left. I know God is with me on this quest. People like you Graham are providing guidance & support. Thank you.
I started writing to you and it disappeared. So I want toasļæ¼ say how delighted I am to read your comment Juliann. It fills me with such happiness that you are open and on this path. This community is the best place to find love and support. Here for you! šš»š
Hi Graham, thank you for giving us another great poem. I read your poem and listen to you recite your poem and then explain it several times. Iām sitting here in my husbands office because itās quiet and I can think a little better. Iāve been pondering over this poem all day. I even did my journal and wrote everything down.
My storm is me, itās been inside me for a very long time. I donāt like my inner voice because it can change my mind and play with my heart. My inner voice likes to tell both of them some pretty untrue things. Itās been that way for a while . That is the valley of my storm the dark place. Though here is my ļæ¼ļæ¼ mountain, God is my mountain without him I am nothing.
Iām starting to do daily devotion and reading my Bible in the morning before work. Looking to him to calm me when my storm gets rocky. I know he never gives me anything I canāt handle, he just telling me to look toward him and he will take care of it.
Iām finding my place and keeping an eye on each step I take. I know at times the things he does doesnāt make sense and why I have to wait to notice what he does.ļæ¼ļæ¼ļæ¼ļæ¼ļæ¼ļæ¼ Thatās what is so amazing about God he decides when the time is right for you to see the light because if you donāt go to such depths how will you get to see the light he has waiting for you. My soul is strong it always has been, I just forgot that. I appreciate more and more whatās God has given me, I just have strayed away from him for a whileļæ¼.
Even though God has never been very far from me, I know he is always with me no matter what. God has also given me a very special gift my loving husband Dan two beautiful healthy children Ashley and Michael a granddaughter named Juniper who brings me joy every time I see her smile.
I now have a new friends through this wonderful community. God has supplied me with such a wonderful life how can I not embrace what he has done for me.ļæ¼
When I go to bed my prayers are thank you God for another day with air in my lungs and to get up each day to do my best. I am not perfect I do not pretend to be. I pray for my family both near and far. And for each one of you. Graham I pray for you tonight that you stay safe in your travels and that God Guides you to grow and to learn so much thru him. Thank you again for being truly amazing. ļæ¼
Hi Shari, glad that you were able to find your way thru God. Each day that we wake up we thank God for giving us that one more day. None of us are promised tomorrow so each new day is a gift from God. So many new friends in this great community that Graham has created. I am so pleased and appreciative to be a part of it. Sounds like you have a great family hold them close to you heart and enjoy every minute.
Thank you Kathleen. I do have a wonderful family and now I have two. I consider all of you and Graham as family. God is the reason we all met and Iām thankful for that take God Bless and Cheers as well.
Shari. Iām so happy for you, and Iām so glad we got to connect a few weeks ago. You have a sweet spirit! Reach out any time when you need to. Weāre here to support and encourage one another! God bless!šš»ā¤ļø
Thank you Anne and for your listening ear. It helped me a great deal. Iām so happy I joined this wonderful community Iāve formed some real nice friendships. I truly hope one day we will all get together and meet.
Two weeks ago I made the trip back to North Carolina, where I spent 30 years of my life, to visit my daughter and her family. I drove my "Bessie" as I call my lovable "klunker" of a car much to the worry of my kids. "But Mom that car is old and you don't have AC and it's a 12 hour drive." Yes, they worry. And I'm sorry about that but I need my independence and Bessie is my "partner in crime."
I don't consider myself "old" but realistically I am, or at least close. There have been many storms in my life...what is life without them? And maybe for so many of those storms, I never really stopped to appreciate the light that came afterward. I never stopped long enough to embrace the beauty of getting through the storm. I was so frantic keeping up with life that I rarely stopped to smell those roses when they were right in front of my nose.
So here I am and it's time to clean out that storage shed. Both figuratively and in reality. This shed in NC holds the contents of my former home. Now when I visit NC, I "visit" the shed and basically say hello to all of it, touch the boxes lovingly and peer into a few...just for old time's sake. Those contents represent that younger me...frantic each day to get things done, take care of the family and go, go, go! Now the "time has come," to say goodbye to it...well most of it. :)
I take my steps a bit slower these days. But as I take them I look around and see what's around me. I smell the fragrance, slow down more and take time to appreciate nature and the people in my life. Now I can let go of those past material things, worries and storms and embrace the "moments" I used to rush by. It's indeed brighter now. I can see things I ignored or didn't take the time to notice before. It took getting "old" for me to get to this place. I learned a lot along the way and worked through those storms. With a little luck, when the storms come again, and they will, I know on the other side there will be even more to embrace and appreciate.
Barbara you have beautifully explained exactly how I feel as well. I couldnāt of said it any better! We definitely do see life differently as we get older and slow down. How we walk through our storms changes as we grow older and wiser.
First of all, thank you Graham, this is what I am going through with my son, he had a stroke in December, this is my storm Iām going through.
I seem to look forward to his recovery, i could not comprehend the difficulty of the recovery. This is an on going struggle everyday, but one day it will be good, I know God has a purpose for this and will come out of the storm. Please continue prayers, he has really come a long way, but with his attitude and Godās hand on him heāll be fine.
Rebecca - great attitude. Storms of life are always challenging, and I love your attitude. God always provides even when can't feel or see it. God bless!
God works in such mysterious ways. He goes at his pace no one elseās which can be frustrating. Iām glad you have God as a companion. Each day is a blessing for you and your son Rebecca. Iām so thrilled he is progressing each day. Prayers he continues to improve. God bless both of you.ļæ¼
Thank you Graham. I feel like Iām living in a Kaleidoscopeļæ¼ where Iām having to learn some new things and trusting God for the new steps. Iām use to having the instructor being over my shoulder. Well you and a few others are helping but overall I have to do a lot of technical things on my own. When I get confused I have to step back and rest my mind and when Iām feeling confident I pick up my pencil and move forward. There are so many complicated tasks and some things just run together. These are my changes from what was to what becomes new. I am confident that what Iām doing I will accomplish more than I expect. Along the way I have to acknowledge what God is doing in my life that He wants to use to help others. Look what Iāve accomplished, my paintings, posting them here, learning about Bitcoin and how to store it and finding great people to talk to and learn from. It is a bit scary but I donāt run from challenges. I donāt remember dreams much but I smile when I watch my dog dream. He wags his tail, thumping his tail while sound asleep. Maybe all my new learning is me thumping my tail.
Oh my gosh this is exactly whatās happening in my life right now. The storm Iām going through started 3 weeks ago when I strained my back and pinched nerves in both my back and leg. The combination of these injuries made made moving especially walking very painful. For 2 weeks I was in constant pain, even sleep was difficult. Every day I have been praying for some relief, slowly my body is healing as I literally have to keep my eye on every step. Due to my health issues the family trip I had planned had to be changed to next year, which was a hard for me but in my heart I knew thatās what had to be done.
During this time like other āstormsā in my life my faith reminds me that ā this too shall passā, I need to be patient and trust. With the help of my family especially my daughter who spent several nights helping me work through the pain and friends, I am weathering this storm. When this storm is finally over, I know there will be blessings to come.
Iām also thankful for the support of prayers and words of encouragement from the group of wonderful ladies that I have come to know through this Substack page. They have been another blessing in my life. Thanks Graham for your work that has brought us together.
Linda, I pray for you each day and will always feel a special attachment to you and our special group of caring friends who were initially formed right here on Graham's substack.
Linda itās nice to meet you. Prayers for a speedy recovering. I know back pain itās not fun. Hoping that you can rest a little bit and donāt overdo work yourself. May God heal you from inside out. God bless and take care.
Thanks, Christine for your kind words. The past few weeks have been a struggle for me both physically and emotionally, the support from others has helped me work through this trial.
Happy Tuesday Graham, to break through a storm first is to breath then I pour a renewal of my faith. A life of thankfulness of gratitude in your breath can carry you through lifeās storms no matter what the test. When I feel a little empty and tired and God says hang on child I got you. It doesnāt matter how big of storm I have to face because with our father in heaven we will never have to face it alone. He is the God of all things big and small and loves you the same yesterday today and tomorrow.I donāt allow the storm to form a catalyst over look for the good piercing light the one that mends you that makes you whole.Embrace today as new day and adventures awaits.
If I could counsel someone who was going through dark times, I would tell them to surround themselves with friends & other good people like those in this community -- not to battle alone. And, I would encourage them to listen to the 1945 showtune "You'll Never Walk Alone" over & over & over -- until the light returned. The song, itself, can raise anyone's spirit, bringing solace & determination. Even European football clubs like Liverpool use it as their anthems. Blessings & comfort to all! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nhTxMV2olP4
Yes the words of that song says it all, when you walk through a storm hold your head up high and donāt be afraid of the dark, walk on ,walk on with hope in your heart and youāll never walk alone. I can only imagine that the person that wrote this song was going through a storm, and decided to write those powerful words that were being felt into a song. Great song .
Hi, Mary Jean ~ As a child, I used to stand by the piano & sing "You'll Never Walk Alone" with my mom. Great memories! I've always used it for encouragement. I'm thrilled you love the song too.
I remember when I was in high school I sang in the glee club. We sang this song at one of our concerts and we all got chills and we cried when we were done. Great memories.
Glad you like it. So many versions of it on YouTube. -- even Andrea Bocelli. Here's Josh Groban's version, one of my favorites. Have a great day, Bonnie! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JEHNdffNgA0
This is literally the first opportunity I have had this day to fully devote to reading and re-reading this weekās truly masterful piece of poetry. This poem challenges the reader. I found there to be so many varying levels of relating to these words you crafted Graham.
It is understatement to simply say we all have hurdles to overcome in our lives. Of course that is a fact. It is also true that there is no scale of equality as to how those challenges are apportioned. Each of us is unique as to how we react, what contingencies there are and what the result may be.
Three days ago, was I celebrated the arrival date of baby goats Penelope and Roo. That is fact. That is joy. That is my dream coming to fruition. Only days earlier baby chicks arrived
Iāve been on cloud nine. I am so blessed. One truth must be stated. The dream has been in my heart but ignored for years.
Today I spent the entire day outside with these precious animals. I have bonded with them, laughed at their minute by minute antics and watched their little selves grab every second of fun.
I have had an interesting and successful life in so many ways up until now. I have had difficult days as well as some really horrible gut wrenching experiences the worst of which I held in to for far too long. In those years I allowed myself to be overwhelmed with sadness despite all I had to be appreciative of. I learned that just because I had much to be grateful for did not mean that it balanced my dark places into non-existence.
Quite the opposite in fact.
As the day drew to a close today, I was so mindful of the fact that it was only in letting go of the dark times, the misgivings, the sadness that I found the magic of what I had always wanted and where I feel the most fulfilled. Giving over to these little spirits I have a responsibility for, is akin to acceptance, a transformation of the dark for the light.
I feel a strong desire and fulfilling warmth in mentoring others. There is nothing more rewarding then hearing someone tell you that they resonated with what was said to them. This is a priceless gift to both.
Early in sessions under Lynetteās guidance I recall she said, about finding the ārightā person, that that could only happen to a fully developed and balanced person. I did not comprehend the depth and scope of what she was saying at the time. But I now live those ideas.- itās not solely about looking for a partner, though that would be lovely, itās about finding yourself and learning how and what we are which puts us in the place to experience what happens next.
In the poem you wrote Graham I wondered why God was underlined. I clicked to see and was diverted to UTube, definition of word God. Joseph Campbell says ~ paraphrasing ~ those who think they know, do not know: those who believe.they do not know, do know.
Profound ! And also that we as humans are as the transcendent. Lynette tells us we are all the Divine. We are one. Full circle I have learned so much: I am so grateful for that clear vision now and the ability to act upon the wishes in my heart and dreams.
my advice during a storm is to breathe, stay calm so you can think properly and make the right decisions, or at least make them in the best possible way. I tell myself that there is a solution to everything and that we will get out of it
Thanks Graham for another thought provoking poem. Great question , how do I council myself through a storm ? Iām going through a challenging time at the moment and it is only natural that it makes me feel overwhelmed at times. What works for me is that when the going gets tough is to acknowledge the emotional experience and allow myself to feel. Holding feelings in may make the situation more difficult in the long run. It is good to let yourself feel and express all the emotions, sadness,frustration as for me it is an essential part of healing. I try to remain positive. What helps me a lot is meditating,praying, journaling daily. Lately I have also been committing to daily morning workouts before work and getting sunlight and fresh air, a walk at the beach, watching the sunset,. Every little thing you can do for yourself helps!ššāØ
Those sunsets are so uplifting, aren't they? Beauty at the end of the day to get through the night till the sunrise.
They sure are uplifting Cathey šš
Irene, well done you have to take care of yourself before you can look after others. This is when you need the me (you) time. I know things are hard but you are stronger than you think. šš¦šŗš
I agree Bev.
Thanks Bev for always been there for me šš
Always Irene, always ššš¦šŗ
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Self care is one answer and each of us does that in different ways which work for that person. šš»š
That's true Sherry :)
I love your response, Irene. Itās good to share the mountains and the valleys. We learn from others and how to share our hearts with others. I do know your struggle and have had similar ones. In Godās hands tears are gold to be used on the pavement in Godās house.
Thank you Lucinda šš
Irene, know that I am here for you as you have been for me. You care so much for others & I'm glad that you are taking time out to look after yourself. I love your sunset photos. Going for walks on the beach can really be cathartic. All the best my friend. šš
Amen Irene! I'm about to go out and soak up some sun. I've had COVID. Now these horrible right leg cramps. I need the heat of the sun for some healing.
Good luck to you! Hope you are having a good day so far!!! š šššš
Iām so sorry to hear that you have been unwell Marsha. I hope you feel better soon!šš
Love beach walks and seeing the beauty around me!!!
I love your answer Irene! You are doing exactly the right thing, and your beautiful sunsets are a very important morale booster. I wish you courage and hope that this difficult period for you will soon come to an end because nothing lasts forever, better days will come soon, I'm sure
Thinking of you Irene and sending positive thoughts your way during this challenging time.
Walking thru your emotions help. I now have found doing that being by self to kind of walk thru them helps. It breaks things down so you can adjust accordingly. Iām happy Irene that your able to find comfort in the walks on the beach and watching the sunsets those are so relaxing. I wish the best for you my friend take care.
Walks can really set your mind free to open up in so many ways! I love walking in the woods and enjoy nature or walking on the beach. Itās so cleansing to our souls.
Walks are on my bucket list. Waiting for the heat wave to pass.
Same here! No walking around here when itās 102 even in the shade! š„µ
Itās pretty hot here as well Danny all year long. I usually go for a walk very early in the morning at sunrise or late at sunset , otherwise I will die from the heat lol
Irene I hope your storms will pass quickly. š
Prayers for strength to help you through this challenging time.
Thank you always to Graham first for wonderful soul searching poems.
Irene, I read your comment a few times. I weeped, prayed and now I am ready to go outside.
Irene, I hope you can pass the storm soon. Walking outside and refresh the mind is very helpful.
I'm here if you think that I can help you someway.ā¤
Finally realizing āme timeā is not only time to glow, it allows us time to expand our horizons! Thank you for reminding us to be patient and learn from every experience ā£ļøš
Beautiful poem Graham. God is my council through any storm or plainly every day. He is my rock and my fortress. Without God, I would not be here right now. This poem reminds me of Psalm 23. This entire chapter in the Book of Psalm is entirely what your poem is reflecting on. Verse 3 and 4 really speak to me: 3) He renews my strength. He guides me along right paths, bringing honor to his name. 4) Even when I walk through the darkest valley, I will not be afraid, for you are close beside me. Your rod and your staff protect and comfort me. This is from the New Living Translation of the Bible.
Many years ago when I was caregiving for my mother in the last 31/2 to 4 years of her life was probably the hardest thing I've ever been through. The sacrifices I had to make of not being able to travel with friends or just do the things I wanted to, I didn't like but were necessary. I needed to be on call almost 24/7 in case she needed me. Like you said, while going through the trial, I couldn't see the light at the end of the tunnel because it was dark during it. I screamed and cried out to my friends due to the pressure this had on my life at the time. I began to reflect on the sacrifices that she made for me over an entire lifetime. When I thought about that, everything began to change. After she passed away, and I had time to reflect back on those years, I realized this experience made me stronger. The blessing was that my mother and I grew closer during this time. All my life, I had two prayers. I wanted to hear my mother tell me she loved me, and I wanted to know that she had asked Jesus into her heart. It's not that she didn't love me, but it was just the way she was raised. It was something you just knew. The blessing from this is one month before she died, God answered both of those prayers. That is a praise, and I will never forget. This experience made my faith stronger in God.
The take away from this is yes, we will all face storms in life because frankly that is just the way it is. For me, it is who we go to for council. Another verse comes to mind - I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength. Praise God that I know that.
If you're going through a storm right now, please know that you can always reach out to God if that is for you, or reach out to a friend who can pray for you. You are not alone. We are here for one another in this community to encourage and lift one another up.
Graham, prayers for you to have safe travels. Take Care and God bless you and this entire community! Cheers!
I can so relate to your situation with your mother, Anne. I was caregiver to my mom in her last year as she battled cancer. She had been so independent up until that point and it was hard for both of us when I had to step in. I was helping her one day with her personal care and I said out loud (not meaning to) "This is so exhausting!" and she said, "How do you think I feel?". This made me realize that this situation was difficult for everyoneI else - not just me. My husband's mother was also sick at this time (they died a day apart) and lived 5 hours away so it was difficult for us to be there for each other during this time. I had to rely on God and His strength and know that He always walks with us in the middle of the storm. Thanks for sharing your story.
Wow! This is a time you know those footprints in the sand are Christ. We can not endure that kind of pain with our own strength !šš»šš»šš»
Jody, not an easy situation for you. You were certainly tested. I'm sorry you had to go through such a difficult time, but you should be proud of yourself. You are strong & got through it. Bless you. š
Jody, thank you for sharing yours. God is always there even when we don't let ourselves acknowledge HIM during the storms of life. Wow, dying one day a part would have been difficult, but in the end we learn from these experiences in order to encourage someone else. Blessings my friend!
I memorized that verse Anne Philippians 4:13 my to go when I struggle with my battles š
Lucy ~ I wear a bracelet with that verse inscribed on it. It's a powerful reminder.
I have a bracelet too but I break out so I wear a magnet necklace and a bracelet.
Lucy - Most definitely that verse. That's another go to verse for me also. God will always give us the strength! Amen dear friend! Blessings to you!
I also relate to your situation with your mother, Anne. I was caregiver for my dad in the latter months of his life, and whilst it was a difficult and exhausting time, I did have the opportunity to resolve some issues with him. I recognised too that he was unable to give me the kind of supportive love that I needed growing up, and that it was because he himself was so damaged. After he died I found his diary and he talked of how much he loved me as was proud of me. He had never told me that while he was alive so it gave me some comfort. God bless you Anne on journey. You have come so far. Well done on losing all that weight. I think I remember you mentioning it on Graham's live chat.
You must be so proud of yourself.
Much love šCarole
End of life care for a parent! Nobody ever warned me about this. Now 8 months out, I'm still healing from the multi-year ordeal. Only God's grace has gotten me through it and I hope and pray it will sustain me as I try to get on with my life.
Thank you Carole! I appreciate you sharing about your father. This story is what started it all for me, and the most amazing thing God revealed and said to share and write about this journey. Iām definitely out of my comfort zone, but when you feel God calling you to do this, he will provide everything you need when itās needed. Iām truly humbled by everyoneās encouragement here, but thatās what weāre about here to lift one another up. So far, the weight is coming off and I continue to walk. Take care and God bless! šš»ā¤ļø
What a beautiful reply and story. Thank you for sharing! God gave you a beautiful gift to always cherish in the last days with your dear mom.
Thanks Tricia! God answers prayers in HIS time. Gif bless!
Anne, He is good. His mercies endure forever ā¤ļø
What an amazing treasure to have been, as Graham says, compressed and then expanded, through the trials and blessings in caring for your mom.
Grace and peace be upon you precious sister.
Thanks Deborah! It was hard, but with every trial, there is a blessing and we usually grow stronger. Hearing her say I love you was one thing, but more important was knowing she had accepted Jesus, I will never forget that moment because above all else, that was the most important. Not having children myself helped me to appreciate the sacrifices she made for my brother and I all our life. Blessings to you Deborah! God is good all the time, and all the time, God is good. Amen!
Anne we both had that charge and gift in being the care givers for our mothers in their last years and then days. I write more several months ago about the trauma of that for me and you are now talking about that same time in your life. The need to say goodbye for now in such a final way is made even more difficult by the memories, the misgivings, the wishes for yourself and your parent, the things left unsaid,.just so much. I am so happy for you that your faith helps you in all ways. š¤š
Sherry, my mother was a private person and very independent. Most of the issues were self-manipulated which is what I wrote about last week over in my blog. I think God used that time for our relationship to grow. Thatās the blessing in it for me. God will answer prayer but he does it in his time. Iām so glad those two prayers were answered before she passed. My faith sustains me through it all. Before I moved forward I had to let go and forgive myself and asked God also. Blessings to you and take care! šš»ā¤ļø
Thanks for sharing Anne.
I relate to what you went through. I have been caring for my parents for the past year after my mom suffered a stroke and she was my dads carer. I love my parents, but somtimes on those darkest days I think is this what my life is now. I will not travel anywhere too far, just in case and have also stopped doing the things I enjoy most.
To top things off, I am also going through my own health issues at the moment.
I am definitely going through that feeling, can't see the light at the end of tunnel.
Anna, so sorry youāre going through this. I couldnāt go anywhere or felt like I shouldnāt. Please remember to always take care of yourself which I didnāt do a very good job of. Iāve learned not to do that any more. Luckily. I donāt have health issues at the moment, but thatās why Iāve started the blog/newsletter to share the journey and hold myself accountable at the same time. Wish you God speed and blessings! šš»ā¤ļø
Thanks Anne. ā¤ļøš
Bingo! Could not have expressed it better. Thanks so much, Anne!
Youāre welcome! What God lays on my heart is what is shared but itās the truth! Take care and God bless!
Bless you Anne for taking care of your mum the way you did. We all need a support base & I feel so blessed that we have this community. šš
Well said Anne I love the Psalm verse you are so right God does renew are strength heās with us where ever we go. Heās Rod and staff will comfort us. We all go thru our storms though with God we are not alone. Take care my dear friend Iām glad you and your mom made peace before she left this world.
Thanks Shari! Playing catch up! Take care my friend and God bless!
ItĀ“s true, God always hears our prayers. š
Thanks Susan! I appreciate it. Let me tell you, Iām not really a writer, but anything that is published is from the heart and I let God take the wheel. Itās just another thing that is definitely out of my comfort zone, but Iām trying to follow Godās will by being vulnerable and totally surrendering to Godās will. I havenāt watched TV in awhile. But if I do, I definitely gravitate to Heartland. The entire story line of the show is awesome. Take care and God bless!
I have to laugh out loud, Susan. Last night I was on the phone with my sister and suddenly realized it was 8:00 pm and time for another episode of Season 15. I said gotta go and that was that. Dropped everything. Kind of pathetic but funny! Great cattle drive! Of course Lou had to be a drama queen. lol
I think you and I and a lot of folks are "addicted" to Heartland. The Prince season was great! I just watched the scene where Ty punched out Chase and Mrs. Bell cheered him on. I loved her character. The show is truly a "guilty pleasure." I had never heard of Heartland until this past January when I dumped cable and got on a family friendly streaming service. Then I binge-watched every season for a month. It got me through a very bad time after I lost my dad. That's how I found this group!
That is great to hear! Both the TV show and Graham's podcasts have helped me tremendously. Plus, there is such encouragement from the members of the group. The timing was good for both of us!
Amen Cathy!
Thank you Jody! During that time we were both blessed. There were some rough patches, but I think we all go through that. You never know how long it takes for God to answer your prayers, but he does in his own timing. I don't have any regrets or resentments any longer, just appreciation for the sacrifices she and my father made to raise my brother and I. I'm smiling now just remembering those days. It's truly a blessing, but you don't always see that going through the storm. Take care my friend! God bless!
Inevitably in this life storms or trials come and go. The book of James talks about what storms do for us. They test our faith and if we let them, produce perseverance in us. I believe thereās always something to be learned in a storm that allows us to help others as they experience trials, too. To me your poem describes the process of embracing the bad weather, but to keep moving forward knowing the light will return and the beauty after the storm will be the reward for persevering. Each storm teaches us to weather the next one with more faith and endurance, knowing they eventually pass. Thereās also value in letting others support us and walk through the storms with us. We are a collective of humanity that God brought together to love and support each other. Eyes up, prayers up, and keep moving toward the light at the end of the tunnel! Thanks, Graham ā hope the storms are keeping their distance for you currently. May your adventure be full of joy and light!
Love that idea - each strom gives us courage to face the next.
Love this Cathey! It is so true. The storms of life develop our character and strengthen us for the future. In every storm there is a lesson and also a silver lining if we look carefully for it. As I look back over my life I see God's wisdom in allowing the storms of my life to shape me into the person I am today. I know He is always with us as we travel through storms and will never allow us to be tested beyond what we can bear. Much love šCarole
I agree, Carole. Often we can later see the purpose for the storm. But sometimes we may never know why we went through them. But each one teaches us something if we take the time to let them.
You're right Cathey, each storm we have to go through teachs something to us. My question always is What I have to learn from this? And I try to work with it.
Thamks God we have others to support and join us in our path.
I so agree. A friend in the storm makes it seem a little easier.
Well said Cathey. We continue to learn & find ways to weather our own storms in life. šš
Each storm helps us to know how to navigate the next. But there's always more to learn, isn't there?
Graham, this is a universal dilemma we all face. We live in darkness and then there is light. When we least expect it , there is darkness again and unexpectedly we come back into the light. Itās lifeās rollercoaster. As you said however, how deep are those valleys and how high are those mountains? Itās easier to fall down than to climb up! That is the challenge!!! To keep the journey downward to shallow and to rise up for longer and longer times is really how we overcome our darkness. Faith, strength, beliefs, perseverance, confidence, love all allow us to climb those mountains. They are also the same to prevent us from sliding deep into the darkness. Not quitting and never thinking I canāt and never giving up in the face of the nearly impossible has kept me in the light most of my life. Itās a habit and fulfilling attitude that prevents the downward spiral! Keep your chin up, hold your head high and have faith and love in your heart and you will feel light and warmth the remainder of your life!!!
Great perspective and wisdom!
What a beautiful response Jeffry. You are speak eloquently. I've missed hearing your wisdom. As I'm not often involved in the telegram chat now. Many blessings to you - and much love šCarole
You have expressed this very well. Appreciate it!
An amazing attitude towards life. Thank you for sharing. šš
Jeffry, the last line is a great reminder of how to live life.
Surely itās a code to live by Vicky!
Thank you JL
Thank you for sharing your wisdom! I need it!
Last month was particularly hard for me, but with the support from others, I have been able to get through to see my way forward.
Talking & sharing how I feel helps me a lot. I used to always keep everything inside until it broke me down.
It took me a long time to find a way to see through the darkness & lift the cloud that fogged my mind. Doing things that I loved set me free. Going for my drives, walks in nature & taking photos gave me a sense of freedom. Of being able to release myself from the burdens of my mind. Looking through the photos reminds me of those times & the feelings associated with them.
I am starting to go out once more & this has been a huge step to my road to healing.
This week, Graham's poem really hit home & reminded me that I can move forward. That I have done this before & will again. šš
Christine you should be e so proud of yourself. I know I am . Baby steps Christine ššš¦šŗ
Thank you so much Bev. You've been a great support & I truly appreciate it. ššš¦šŗ
I understand completely I held certain things in as well. In some cases I still do. Though like you the people in this community have helped me a great deal. I have to give most Credit to Graham for starting this substack community. He as given so much of his time and energy and his love. He has made all of better. I keep praying for you Christine that all goes as planned for you. Hoping one day we can all meet and get to know each other.
Iām so proud of you , that you have started the steps to your road of healing. You can always count me my friend!šš
Thanks so much Irenešš
I will pray for you Christine.Do you have a specific prayer request ? I know God will heal you.
Donāt forget God to look up to Him and ask direction and guidance b4 you do anything b4 starting the day.I will pray for you.
So happy that you have found a way forward with supportive friends, Christine. Take one step at a time and be kind to yourself. You have come a long way. Many blessings š to you on your journey. Much love šCarole
Good for you Christine. You inspired me..
Christine, good for you. So glad for you. Take care and God bless! You have such a sweet spirit! šš»ā¤ļø
I'm really touched by your words, Anne. God bless youššš.
I'm so happy for you, Christine, that you are able to move forward and do things that make you happy!!!
Christine. It sounds like you and I have a similar story. Prayers for you my friend. š
Graham-Thank you for using the challenges you have gone through to make your purpose and passion to serve and support others on their journeyšš»
This poem has really challenged me in various layers. This kept me up most of the night tossing and turning, reflecting and re-confronting some stuff that came up for me. I feel this piece of writing deeply integrated into my entire being.
Iāve face alot of challenges and darkness that took almost my entire adult life thus far to confront and to overcome. Trying to bury the pain and pretend things didnāt happen does not help, it just makes the darkness even all more consuming.
The best advice Iāve gotten is to be the captain of your own ship because no one is coming to save you. I had to dig deep, confront all my demons, accept them, own them and then work on them all on my own. Many times because traumas can have so many layers you have to dig into repeatedly. The work is hard and a lot of times painful, but so rewarding when you free yourself of the chains that have bound you for so long.
Iām not perfect, I still falter and stumble, but when I have those storms I look inside for the answers and look up because even on the darkest of nights there is stars that light the sky. There is light, love and hope always ahead and always inside. So for anyone struggling, go internally and look up and ahead-there is so much beauty and goodness awaiting us all! We just have to keep moving forward and stay present and grateful.
Laurie you have so much strength inside you. Sharing your story gives others hope for what lies ahead for other and what their storm is. Keep looking towards the ski because those stars will get brighter and brighter just like you.
Thank you ā„ļøā„ļø
Your most welcome.
Way to go Laurie .Keep up the good work:)
Laurie you should be so proud of how you have been able to overcome the storms in your life. You have a great outlook which will help you when a storm can start to form. It takes a lot of courage to open yourself up & confront the battles of the past. As you stated, it only harms you more of you keep it all inside. A dam, ready to burst.
You are an amazing person, taking on new challenges & moving forward. šš
You are amazing too Christine and doing great!
Laurie good for you, the journey you have traveled you certainly have come a long way., struggling and overcoming a lot of obstacles. Well done, you are definitely the captain of your own ship. šŖš»šš¦šŗš
So proud of you ! Youāve come so far!! ā¤ļøš
You too Aimee! You are doing amazing and Iām so proud of you! ā„ļø
Thank you āŗļø
Laurie I like your idea looking up because God is looking down at you who gives you hope and will lift you up from your storm.Just continue to look up and acknowledge God always pray.
Way to go Lauri! You have an amazing story. You have overcome storms and now are helping others.
Well said Laurie! Iām happy for you. Keep pressing on. Trying to do the same. Take. Care! šš»šš»
You are doing amazing Anne and Iām rooting for you! šš»
Thanks Laurie! One day at a time. Definitely stepping out of my comfort zone in a lot of areas right now, but Iām humbled and blessed how itās all progressing. Never thought I would be writing about it, but when I feel led, I have to have the faith and keep pressing on and do it. Take care and God bless! šš»šš»
WOW! I get this. I am there. I instantly understood the meaning of this poem to my life. Recently I have come to realize it is important for me to walk with myself on a journey to understand more fully who I am & what I want for me for the time I have left. I know God is with me on this quest. People like you Graham are providing guidance & support. Thank you.
I started writing to you and it disappeared. So I want toasļæ¼ say how delighted I am to read your comment Juliann. It fills me with such happiness that you are open and on this path. This community is the best place to find love and support. Here for you! šš»š
Hi Graham, thank you for giving us another great poem. I read your poem and listen to you recite your poem and then explain it several times. Iām sitting here in my husbands office because itās quiet and I can think a little better. Iāve been pondering over this poem all day. I even did my journal and wrote everything down.
My storm is me, itās been inside me for a very long time. I donāt like my inner voice because it can change my mind and play with my heart. My inner voice likes to tell both of them some pretty untrue things. Itās been that way for a while . That is the valley of my storm the dark place. Though here is my ļæ¼ļæ¼ mountain, God is my mountain without him I am nothing.
Iām starting to do daily devotion and reading my Bible in the morning before work. Looking to him to calm me when my storm gets rocky. I know he never gives me anything I canāt handle, he just telling me to look toward him and he will take care of it.
Iām finding my place and keeping an eye on each step I take. I know at times the things he does doesnāt make sense and why I have to wait to notice what he does.ļæ¼ļæ¼ļæ¼ļæ¼ļæ¼ļæ¼ Thatās what is so amazing about God he decides when the time is right for you to see the light because if you donāt go to such depths how will you get to see the light he has waiting for you. My soul is strong it always has been, I just forgot that. I appreciate more and more whatās God has given me, I just have strayed away from him for a whileļæ¼.
Even though God has never been very far from me, I know he is always with me no matter what. God has also given me a very special gift my loving husband Dan two beautiful healthy children Ashley and Michael a granddaughter named Juniper who brings me joy every time I see her smile.
I now have a new friends through this wonderful community. God has supplied me with such a wonderful life how can I not embrace what he has done for me.ļæ¼
When I go to bed my prayers are thank you God for another day with air in my lungs and to get up each day to do my best. I am not perfect I do not pretend to be. I pray for my family both near and far. And for each one of you. Graham I pray for you tonight that you stay safe in your travels and that God Guides you to grow and to learn so much thru him. Thank you again for being truly amazing. ļæ¼
Hi Shari, glad that you were able to find your way thru God. Each day that we wake up we thank God for giving us that one more day. None of us are promised tomorrow so each new day is a gift from God. So many new friends in this great community that Graham has created. I am so pleased and appreciative to be a part of it. Sounds like you have a great family hold them close to you heart and enjoy every minute.
Thank you Kathleen. I do have a wonderful family and now I have two. I consider all of you and Graham as family. God is the reason we all met and Iām thankful for that take God Bless and Cheers as well.
Shari ,I'm so happy for you that you found the strength to get past those voices . God bless you !
Shari. Iām so happy for you, and Iām so glad we got to connect a few weeks ago. You have a sweet spirit! Reach out any time when you need to. Weāre here to support and encourage one another! God bless!šš»ā¤ļø
Thank you Anne and for your listening ear. It helped me a great deal. Iām so happy I joined this wonderful community Iāve formed some real nice friendships. I truly hope one day we will all get together and meet.
Our inner voices can be challenging.. I'm glad you have found ways to get past what those voices tell you. š
Thank you Christine. Itās not easy by any means. Though if I stay strong and ignore that inner Voice and stay true to God Iāll be just fine.
Two weeks ago I made the trip back to North Carolina, where I spent 30 years of my life, to visit my daughter and her family. I drove my "Bessie" as I call my lovable "klunker" of a car much to the worry of my kids. "But Mom that car is old and you don't have AC and it's a 12 hour drive." Yes, they worry. And I'm sorry about that but I need my independence and Bessie is my "partner in crime."
I don't consider myself "old" but realistically I am, or at least close. There have been many storms in my life...what is life without them? And maybe for so many of those storms, I never really stopped to appreciate the light that came afterward. I never stopped long enough to embrace the beauty of getting through the storm. I was so frantic keeping up with life that I rarely stopped to smell those roses when they were right in front of my nose.
So here I am and it's time to clean out that storage shed. Both figuratively and in reality. This shed in NC holds the contents of my former home. Now when I visit NC, I "visit" the shed and basically say hello to all of it, touch the boxes lovingly and peer into a few...just for old time's sake. Those contents represent that younger me...frantic each day to get things done, take care of the family and go, go, go! Now the "time has come," to say goodbye to it...well most of it. :)
I take my steps a bit slower these days. But as I take them I look around and see what's around me. I smell the fragrance, slow down more and take time to appreciate nature and the people in my life. Now I can let go of those past material things, worries and storms and embrace the "moments" I used to rush by. It's indeed brighter now. I can see things I ignored or didn't take the time to notice before. It took getting "old" for me to get to this place. I learned a lot along the way and worked through those storms. With a little luck, when the storms come again, and they will, I know on the other side there will be even more to embrace and appreciate.
Barbara you have beautifully explained exactly how I feel as well. I couldnāt of said it any better! We definitely do see life differently as we get older and slow down. How we walk through our storms changes as we grow older and wiser.
Beautifully said, Barbara. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
First of all, thank you Graham, this is what I am going through with my son, he had a stroke in December, this is my storm Iām going through.
I seem to look forward to his recovery, i could not comprehend the difficulty of the recovery. This is an on going struggle everyday, but one day it will be good, I know God has a purpose for this and will come out of the storm. Please continue prayers, he has really come a long way, but with his attitude and Godās hand on him heāll be fine.
Rebecca - great attitude. Storms of life are always challenging, and I love your attitude. God always provides even when can't feel or see it. God bless!
God works in such mysterious ways. He goes at his pace no one elseās which can be frustrating. Iām glad you have God as a companion. Each day is a blessing for you and your son Rebecca. Iām so thrilled he is progressing each day. Prayers he continues to improve. God bless both of you.ļæ¼
Rebecca God will see you and your son thru this, attitudes will go a long way on this difficult journey. Prayers there's nothing more powerful
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Praying for you and your son, Rebecca. šā¤
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Prayers for your sonās healing and for strength for you as you help him through it.
Prayers for you and your family Rebecca. šā¤
Rebecca, we are praying with you but when you go to sleep Jesus is with your son 24/7. Please grab His peace that goes beyond all understanding. š
My thoughts & prayers go out to you & your son. All the best to you bothšš
My prayers are with you and your son Rebecca šš»
So glad to hear your son is continuing to heal and progress! Prayers continue!
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Thank you Graham. I feel like Iām living in a Kaleidoscopeļæ¼ where Iām having to learn some new things and trusting God for the new steps. Iām use to having the instructor being over my shoulder. Well you and a few others are helping but overall I have to do a lot of technical things on my own. When I get confused I have to step back and rest my mind and when Iām feeling confident I pick up my pencil and move forward. There are so many complicated tasks and some things just run together. These are my changes from what was to what becomes new. I am confident that what Iām doing I will accomplish more than I expect. Along the way I have to acknowledge what God is doing in my life that He wants to use to help others. Look what Iāve accomplished, my paintings, posting them here, learning about Bitcoin and how to store it and finding great people to talk to and learn from. It is a bit scary but I donāt run from challenges. I donāt remember dreams much but I smile when I watch my dog dream. He wags his tail, thumping his tail while sound asleep. Maybe all my new learning is me thumping my tail.
You are doing amazing!! Iām so excited about your upcoming newsletter, Looking forward to reading it !!šš
Lucinda, I am so happy that you have found a path that has helped you.
Like you, finding great people to talk to has helped. Remember we are always here for you. šš
We all need to ask for help sometimes. I'm proud of you that you continue to take up challenges and work at them till you figure things out. š
I donāt know what I would have done without your help. Thank you.
What a joy to see our pets dream - they are so in the moment! Love it!
Oh my gosh this is exactly whatās happening in my life right now. The storm Iām going through started 3 weeks ago when I strained my back and pinched nerves in both my back and leg. The combination of these injuries made made moving especially walking very painful. For 2 weeks I was in constant pain, even sleep was difficult. Every day I have been praying for some relief, slowly my body is healing as I literally have to keep my eye on every step. Due to my health issues the family trip I had planned had to be changed to next year, which was a hard for me but in my heart I knew thatās what had to be done.
During this time like other āstormsā in my life my faith reminds me that ā this too shall passā, I need to be patient and trust. With the help of my family especially my daughter who spent several nights helping me work through the pain and friends, I am weathering this storm. When this storm is finally over, I know there will be blessings to come.
Iām also thankful for the support of prayers and words of encouragement from the group of wonderful ladies that I have come to know through this Substack page. They have been another blessing in my life. Thanks Graham for your work that has brought us together.
Linda, I pray for you each day and will always feel a special attachment to you and our special group of caring friends who were initially formed right here on Graham's substack.
Linda itās nice to meet you. Prayers for a speedy recovering. I know back pain itās not fun. Hoping that you can rest a little bit and donāt overdo work yourself. May God heal you from inside out. God bless and take care.
Linda, I understand how health issues can be so frustrating & how disappointed you feel when your trip had was cancelled & postponed.
I'm sorry that you've had to go through this, but glad that you've had an amazing support group.
I pray that you get better soon, & that you can look forward to your trip next year. šš
Thanks, Christine for your kind words. The past few weeks have been a struggle for me both physically and emotionally, the support from others has helped me work through this trial.
I also pray for you each night LInda. Your right, we have formed such a special group. It has done wonders for me as well.
Linda, I continue to pray for your complete recovery. I am so glad you are doing better. šš
Linda - prayers for your healing. Love your attitude! Blessings to you and your family! Hope you get better soon!
Linda you are in my prayers for your back to heal šš»
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Continuing to pray for healing and relief!
Thank you Cathey, appreciate the prayers. My faith along with prayers by friends I know I will get through this trial.
Happy Tuesday Graham, to break through a storm first is to breath then I pour a renewal of my faith. A life of thankfulness of gratitude in your breath can carry you through lifeās storms no matter what the test. When I feel a little empty and tired and God says hang on child I got you. It doesnāt matter how big of storm I have to face because with our father in heaven we will never have to face it alone. He is the God of all things big and small and loves you the same yesterday today and tomorrow.I donāt allow the storm to form a catalyst over look for the good piercing light the one that mends you that makes you whole.Embrace today as new day and adventures awaits.
If I could counsel someone who was going through dark times, I would tell them to surround themselves with friends & other good people like those in this community -- not to battle alone. And, I would encourage them to listen to the 1945 showtune "You'll Never Walk Alone" over & over & over -- until the light returned. The song, itself, can raise anyone's spirit, bringing solace & determination. Even European football clubs like Liverpool use it as their anthems. Blessings & comfort to all! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nhTxMV2olP4
Yes the words of that song says it all, when you walk through a storm hold your head up high and donāt be afraid of the dark, walk on ,walk on with hope in your heart and youāll never walk alone. I can only imagine that the person that wrote this song was going through a storm, and decided to write those powerful words that were being felt into a song. Great song .
It was written by Rogers & Hammerstein for their musical Carousel. That was a real tearjerker.
I have always loved that song, Janā¤ļø
Hi, Mary Jean ~ As a child, I used to stand by the piano & sing "You'll Never Walk Alone" with my mom. Great memories! I've always used it for encouragement. I'm thrilled you love the song too.
I remember when I was in high school I sang in the glee club. We sang this song at one of our concerts and we all got chills and we cried when we were done. Great memories.
I always getting pretty emotional listening to it too.
I love that song! It helped me through storms when I was growing up. I had kind of forgotten about it. Thank you for the reminder.
thank you for a new song choice for me and the others.
Glad you like it. So many versions of it on YouTube. -- even Andrea Bocelli. Here's Josh Groban's version, one of my favorites. Have a great day, Bonnie! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JEHNdffNgA0
Beautiful song. Thank you Jan.! š¼
This is literally the first opportunity I have had this day to fully devote to reading and re-reading this weekās truly masterful piece of poetry. This poem challenges the reader. I found there to be so many varying levels of relating to these words you crafted Graham.
It is understatement to simply say we all have hurdles to overcome in our lives. Of course that is a fact. It is also true that there is no scale of equality as to how those challenges are apportioned. Each of us is unique as to how we react, what contingencies there are and what the result may be.
Three days ago, was I celebrated the arrival date of baby goats Penelope and Roo. That is fact. That is joy. That is my dream coming to fruition. Only days earlier baby chicks arrived
Iāve been on cloud nine. I am so blessed. One truth must be stated. The dream has been in my heart but ignored for years.
Today I spent the entire day outside with these precious animals. I have bonded with them, laughed at their minute by minute antics and watched their little selves grab every second of fun.
I have had an interesting and successful life in so many ways up until now. I have had difficult days as well as some really horrible gut wrenching experiences the worst of which I held in to for far too long. In those years I allowed myself to be overwhelmed with sadness despite all I had to be appreciative of. I learned that just because I had much to be grateful for did not mean that it balanced my dark places into non-existence.
Quite the opposite in fact.
As the day drew to a close today, I was so mindful of the fact that it was only in letting go of the dark times, the misgivings, the sadness that I found the magic of what I had always wanted and where I feel the most fulfilled. Giving over to these little spirits I have a responsibility for, is akin to acceptance, a transformation of the dark for the light.
I feel a strong desire and fulfilling warmth in mentoring others. There is nothing more rewarding then hearing someone tell you that they resonated with what was said to them. This is a priceless gift to both.
Early in sessions under Lynetteās guidance I recall she said, about finding the ārightā person, that that could only happen to a fully developed and balanced person. I did not comprehend the depth and scope of what she was saying at the time. But I now live those ideas.- itās not solely about looking for a partner, though that would be lovely, itās about finding yourself and learning how and what we are which puts us in the place to experience what happens next.
In the poem you wrote Graham I wondered why God was underlined. I clicked to see and was diverted to UTube, definition of word God. Joseph Campbell says ~ paraphrasing ~ those who think they know, do not know: those who believe.they do not know, do know.
Profound ! And also that we as humans are as the transcendent. Lynette tells us we are all the Divine. We are one. Full circle I have learned so much: I am so grateful for that clear vision now and the ability to act upon the wishes in my heart and dreams.
my advice during a storm is to breathe, stay calm so you can think properly and make the right decisions, or at least make them in the best possible way. I tell myself that there is a solution to everything and that we will get out of it