Shortly after my father died and my husband of 20 years and I parted, I decided to take a short getaway down to the beach. I had nothing in mind except to relax by the ocean, take in the
sea air, read a good book...you know...just get away from the noise and re-set.
The first night after a lovely day I had dinner at the cozy bar on the beach. The hotel was full with a convention going on...many languages were swirling around and I was curious. I asked the bartender and he said there was a sport convention convening there right before the Olympics and many nations had sent representatives there. Oh wow! How fun!
I gathered up my book that I still had with me and decided to call it a night. The drive was 5 hours long that day and I was ready for bed. Right as I turned around to leave a man came up to me and asked if he could buy me a drink. The words no thank you were about to come out but I looked up into his eyes and I thought I just might fall. I felt like all the blood drained out of my body but managed to squeak out .... sure that sounds great!
Let's just say at that moment I knew something extraordinary was happening here. And surely it did in the days that followed. After trying unsuccessfully to guess where his accent was from I was informed it was Icelandic and low and behold back in 1996 I really had no knowledge of anything Iceland except that it floated up there by itself in the North Atlantic. Today of course, it is the "in" place to go...but not then.
In the days that followed I thought...I'm just going to have fun. I have no illusions that this newly born relationship will advance any further than four days in lovely Hilton Head, SC. For the first time in my life I allowed myself not to think of the future and what could become of this. No sense in that so I let myself just be me. And he really, really liked that. I didn't plan ahead interesting things to say or clothes to wear or sites to visit. It was simply just me. Best four days of my life!
26 years later we are still in love. We've called, skyped, and visited many times...in Iceland, England and here. Our "in the moment" relationship continues. And in between he is in Iceland and I'm here. Love doesn't look the same for everyone. Ours certainly is quite different from most. It was love at first sight and without any expectations then or now it remains love each day.
What a beautiful story, Barbara, and a perfect example of what Graham is talking about. I can learn from you both. My usual behavior is to plan, analyze and re analyze a situation. There's alot to gain from spontaneity and a spirit of adventure & fun. I think I need to be more open to that in my life. Thanks, Graham, for the poem & video, and thank you, Barbara, for sharing your story.
Mary, I have loved ones who are very much planners as you are and I admire them in many ways. I'm not willy nilly but I was never hesitant to go on vacation by myself or start talking to total strangers. I visited a lady who lived in Denmark after having spent the day on a bus to Key West with her. She then visited me in NC. My friend who was with me just laughed! Now that I'm older I'm a tad bit more cautious but that is probably mostly due to physical limitations. I will tell you though Mary, the most special moments of my life were totally unplanned. God knows our sweet spot and if we open our hearts up he will let it happen! Many blessings to you Mary and thanks for your kind words.
I loved your story Barbara. Like I’ve heard many times, never say never. You just have to let what will happen do so while fully loving yourself. Btw I was in Iceland 3 years again and just fell in love with the country. Unfortunately I did not meet my love at first sight but in every other possible way it was a thoroughly wonderful experience.
Sherry you are so right. Never say never - when you least expect it your life can take a turn...good or bad. But if we let ourselves be open to love it will find it's way in.
Great to hear about your trip to Iceland!! So much to see that seems otherworldly and the people are amazing. I became close friends with several Icelanders on my visits over the years. I appreciate their respect for the environment. their zest for life and general work hard, play hard outlook. Were you able to see the northern lights?
Unfortunately I did not see the Northern Lights. I had been in Alaska also trying to see them at Denali but again they did not comply with the energy I put out into the universe! Perhaps I will see them one day. I have definitely seen many photos taken by friends who saw them but the personal experience has alluded me thus far.
In my written comment about this week’s poem I talked about just what we are touching on here. The openness I have experienced has not been about meeting that special person (though that would be a dream come true) but rather about being open to seeing the magic of my own truth in gratitude and love. This journey has filled me with such joy and encouraged me to look inward in ways I’ve never dreamed existed. Along the way it’s been disruptive discarding the old “monkey brain” paths and seeing the path forward. Some sort of wonderful !
Opening up and being vulnerable will invite people into our lives. When we're positive and open our hearts we're giving folks a safe place to do the same. I wish you much love and blessings on your path Sherry. Looks like you've done the work needed to live your best life. So great!!❤🙏
I am definitely on the journey. I feel blessed. It was the plan. Too many “coincidences” which I do not believe in. Thank you Barbara and the very same prayer to you!🙏🏻💜
Barb that is a terrific story! We were actually in HH summer of 1996 we owned a house in Palmetto Dunes on the ocean. What a lovely story!! Thx for sharing!
I was there in mid July of '96. At the Westin. There was a team handball international meeting there at the time right before Atlanta Olympics. I met so many people from many countries and even ended up at their banquet! I love HH. And of course the Westin holds a place in my heart. Maybe you saw me floating on air around the Island!
Thanks Teresa, so true. And I had a "traditional" relationship prior with marriage, children, house, etc...and when that failed to fulfill us we ended it. Believe me though, my family and friends would love for my current relationship to be more traditional. But through the years they stopped asking when will you move to Iceland or him to the states. We both have families and friends in our own homeland and love our lives as is.
Barbara, you have an incredible and beautiful story….you have designed your own happiness and fun that works for you both…at the end of the day that is all that matters. How very special….
I love this poem. It brought tears for me. My father knew he was dying and some of his last words to me where “I am sorry you couldn’t have children, but I want you and Gary to take your inheritance and have fun the rest of your life.” My husband and I laugh and do something fun every day. We take care of my mother-in law who has Alzheimer’s. She is 86 and lives alone in her house next to ours. She is a lot of fun and makes us laugh. We harvest crops together, work in our garden, walk at least 3 miles a day, go fishing in Alaska, walk dogs, my husband must play golf every week, I take horseback riding lessons, yoga, meditation, and we love to travel in our camper. I am retiring in a few weeks, and we plan to take fun to the next level! I am somewhat of a dare devil and will try almost anything that interest me at least once. For you Graham, I hope you find true love, fun and happiness. You are very deserving.
Good on you Laura. I am so sorry about your dad. I can relate. My dad passed in 2019 & he too wanted me to use the money he left me to enjoy my life. I am on my own & have planned several trips to get out & enjoy life & do things that make me happy & bring me joy. Some are a challenge, but I am gaining the courage to take them on.
Fun for me are the simple things in life, like spending my time with my husband going for a walk together at the beach which is our happy place.
Nothing better than looking at a sunset .
Graham I’m so happy you are finding the fun in life .Also I would like to add that I thoroughly enjoy reading your poetry and listening to the explanation , I find the poems very inspiring and look forward to them every week! 🙏❤️😉
You are such a lovely person Irene. I'm so happy you have a husband you can enjoy your life with. I totally agree about the poem & the poetry. I am also glad Graham is finding the fun in life.
I thought my life was fun. I loved my husband and we seemed to enjoy doing a lot of the same things. I loved spending time with my children. I (mostly) enjoyed my work. Then, two years ago my husband died. After the initial grieving period and making sure my kids were ok, I sort of closed myself off from the rest of my family and my friends. It was easier to just be miserable and feel sorry for myself. Last year I realized it was time to move forward. But how? I needed to figure out what I really enjoyed doing versus just following along. So, as you said Graham, I decided to surrender and have fun.
I always wanted to play the piano so I started taking lessons. I started practicing yoga and breathwork. And even with all the covid restrictions, I’ve traveled alone quite a bit the last two years. I spent a month on Cape Cod, a month on Vancouver Island and I just returned from a horseback riding trip to Scottsdale, among others. I thoroughly enjoyed myself and hopefully I can find someone to share time with. But I now know that whatever my future brings, it will be spent outdoors and even if alone, I’ll be ok.
Sorry for your loss Carol. Good on you for picking yourself up & enjoying life. It sounds like you're having a wonderful time. I hope a new love comes your way. ❤️
So happy for you that you're finding fun in your life these days. You deserve it. I, personally, am working on letting go of my pattern of planning everything and wanting to see what's coming next - more spontaneity and embracing the fun as it comes. I want to jump on opportunities to be more adventurous, try new things, go new places and not miss out on fun when it shows up. All the best to you, Graham - may the fun continue!
You seem to be taking up the challenges that come your way, Cathey. You are doing a great job with your blog & enjoying time with family & friends. You took a big step & are succeeding. 💖
I don't know about all that. I finally just realized there was more from life that I wanted to be a part of and that it wasn't too late to make changes. Now my life is definitely a lot more fun! Thanks always for all your encouragement, Christine! 💕
Graham there is a time and place for everything… until you are unshackled from your past you are doomed to repeat it! Once you have freed yourself of those mental and physical burdens and are now true and honest with yourself…you are able to open your heart and let the light shine in. You have had great mentors, great inspirations and things in your past that have allowed you to move forward and learn from those experiences… good and bad. I do not know anyone more in tune with their truths, their shortcomings, their insecurities and their heart and soul and this will continue to provide happiness and control of your destiny and will allow you not to allow anyone to control any aspect of your life ever again! We are all proud of your accomplishments!
I’m so happy for you graham you can see and hear the exicitment in your voice and your smile lights up. You have such an open heart 💓 this was a special moment and poem thank you for sharing your personnel side with all of us. I hope your butterflies keep fluttering 🦋. Your new found fun has just begun 👏💞
My husband and I have joined a FIT class. The women that helps us really works us out. It funny because I really didn’t think I would enjoy myself. I knew I needed to get into shape. I’m not one to workout with any one because I’m not thin and not real heavy. I remember like the third time we worked out my husband and I could not walk for three days. We were so sore. We kept asking each other how we felt each day. I would be at work and couldn’t even walk up or downstairs. I couldn’t help but laugh at myself. I was enjoying the fun my husband and I were having. The best part about it is we are starting to connect and that hasn’t happened in a long time. Thank you Graham for the poem. I want to say congratulations and I hope you and that special someone works out all the best to you both😊
Thanks Christine I enjoy working out special when you have a tough day at work. We also make fun of each other if one Slacks off. Which is usually me LOL😂
I love what your coach said FUN equals fully utilizing the now! It is so important especially in this world for us to be trying to stay present. I have discovered little ways of having fun for example driving home from work and blasting some country music and singing it at the top of my lungs. Thank goodness no one else can hear me! Walking my dog at a park and just watching her little backside swish back-and-forth just makes me giggle, looking up at the clouds and picking out different formations. Those are all ways that I’ve discovered recently just to embrace the present. Relationships can be very tough. Through a lot of pain in the last couple of years in particular for me, I have had to lean on the simplest things in life to be fun! I’ve realized that some of the most fun can be when we embrace ourselves and love ourselves! Then we can embrace the idea of connecting with others and having fun! Blessings!! 🤗😊
Graham, For me, I am getting so many prompts about finding fun. The universe certainly is repeatedly asking me that. It is easy to focus on my needs and get pulled down, there is that “stuck” again. Finding laughter again, light heartedness, positivity, kindness feels so good. Like a newborn learning to giggle, startled and wondering what that burst of energy is??? Learning to laugh again, letting go, gifting myself joy. I feel joy and excitement in your words, another gentle message that it is okay to seek, it’s okay to have FUN. I’m learning how to balance my intuition and empathy and finding the balance so that it does not at times suck the energy out of me. There is a young soul/spirit in this aging body. When, I wonder, did I think there was a age limit on fun and joy? Love you dear one, for speaking into me! I got it! Cheers!
Graham so glad you are finding THE FUN in life...We all need to remember to play every once in a while, as everyday life can be very trying......I think I am going to start a FUN LIST in my gratitude journal .......ALWAYS REMEMBER LAUGHTER IS THE BEST MEDICINE .......still working on that riddle!!!!!
I love my Time Has Come Journals. I have 3. One for prayers and gratitude, one for positive thoughts and one for my horseback riding classes. I love writing in them and even decorate the pages. Journaling has really helped me. A Fun List is a great idea. I have Graham to thank for my Journaling.
Graham is very inspiring. I love his poems though it takes me a few times in reading them. I never read poetry before till Graham started his Time has come. It takes me awhile to understand what he is saying. I believe I will do the journal’s maybe it will help me with somethings I’m dealing with. Thank you and to Graham for giving me your idea.
I love that you have a gratitude journal. That’s a great idea I think I just might do the same. I to am still working on that riddle. I’ve read it like 5to 6 times and still can’t figure the darn thing out. Oh well hopefully Graham can help😊
Firstly, Graham, I hope that all goes well with your potential relationship.
Secondly, after a recent car accident (where I flipped my car), I have been having a few issues about letting go. With plans to drive to meet my friends (tomorrow) about an hour away, I was struggling with whether to go or not. One of my friends offered to drive, but my anxiety of not having control reared it's head. What if I needed to leave early? What if I wanted to go home? What if? What if? But, I've thought about it for several days & decided that I have to do this. I need to have some fun. I need to heal. I can't let fear control me & miss out on celebrating my friend's & my own birthday with my mates. It's a battle for sure, but one I have to conquer.
Graham finding fun for myself is just like you said being present in the moment listening to people being present to your surroundings and who ever your with finding the humor in life I’m a very social person so being with someone that doesn’t take life so seriously and laughing and talking and just being present with that person letting go of trying to solve the worlds problems and being so serious .. a light and positive spirit enjoying the beauty in what life has to offer you for me (fun) is finding the beauty in a simple walk or my favorite walking alone in a art museum or art fair walking thru a secret garden or sitting silently in a beautiful church and listening to beautiful music… fun to me is listening to my innocent grandchildren talking or playing there innocence and joy they truly do live in the moment .. I’ve learned to find fun and enjoyment on my own I don’t think you can always depend on others to give it to you .. your realty is what you make it so to speak … and Graham I’m so happy for you with your new relationship remember make sure to make each other laugh and not take things so seriously and be kind to each other love and blessings ❤️🙏
Graham - Finding Fun is letting go and surrendering to the moment(s) that are given to each of us in our lives. For me, that is the spiritual gifts of giving, loving, and offering mercy/encouragement to others. That's what brings me such happiness. Just letting a person that you care, they're loved, and appreciated, brings so much joy to me. And to see the smile that lights up on their face is so wonderful and humbling. I am truly blessed. It takes total surrender through faith, trust, letting go, and saying yes so we don't miss the opportunities we are granted. Be in the moment! Don't dwell on the past, let it go, have faith, surrender, and trust so we can make this world a much better place. Also, I find the fun of being with my friends. We always seem to laugh and have so much fun. The small moments in life are simply wonderful and amazing. Again, thank you for this beautiful poem and all that you give to others to brighten our days! Love seeing you so happy in the video. That smile made by day! Blessings to all!
This morning I received word that my Aunt passed away. She was like a mother to me. I'm smiling right now remembering all the times visiting with her and my cousins playing games, swimming in the creek, etc. Those were Fun Times. Our families were very close. Surrendering is recognizing the moment when one needs to be uplifted and be there to just listen and tell that person you love them, care about them, praying for them, etc. That moment for me was a few minutes ago when I felt that warm tug on my heart and called my cousin. Even though it is a sad time, it was also a blessing to me to listen to that inner voice and just reach out to my cousin. When we get our eyes off of ourselves and totally surrender through Faith, amazing things happen. Even though I'm a little sad right now, I'm also smiling as I right this as I'm humbled and blessed at the way God works. Thanks for letting me share this.
God is my refuge and Jesus is my Lord and Savior! That is what gets me through this and life is what we choose to make it. I've learned it the hard way, but you know, I just surrender to my faith, let go, and let God lead the way. I try to have fun while doing it. I act like a kid most of the time, just laughing and having fun with my friends. Take care Christine!
I look forward on Tuesday , I find joy reading your poem each week and it bring out the best in me. I am so happy knowing that you have found someone. It brings me joy that now you have someone to spend time with and have fun. You deserve to be happy.
Finding my fun began at my age of 8 years old year 1968. A have a childhood pen pal that lives half around the world and in 1977 we finally meet in person.He ask my dad permission to marry me and was shock of what my dads answer. My dad told him if I given you permission to marry my daughter you have to know she is not returnable ? I want you to think this through if she’s the right person you want to spent the rest of your life with. A few days past and he said to my dad his ready for a commitment he said to my dad I promised to take care of her til death do us part. Here we are we will be married 43 years this coming October. He is been my rock this past 7 years as my care taker also takes all of my frustrations. Life is what you make it … It’s a very long story to write I maybe write it one day. Cheers!
What a wonderful story Lucy. I can so relate with your story as I also have been in love with my husband since the age of 13 years old. Maybe one day I will share it with everyone,but I’m not a writer like everyone else here . I’m not very good at expressing my feelings and writing them down like everyone. I feel that this has become the corner for all the talented writers. I always look forward every week not only to read Grahams poem but to also read all the inspiring stories that everyone has ! 🙏💜
Lucy and Irene: these stories both highlight what Graham is saying in this poem! Serendipity comes in many forms and feelings but if we don’t recognize it, act on it we deny ourselves the opportunity to seek fun, to get the most out of life. As the saying goes “ it isn’t an I’ll wind that does blow some good”. Reach out seize the experience and then absorb what comes your way. You can always change course, switch gears or just lay back close your eyes and enjoy!!
Shortly after my father died and my husband of 20 years and I parted, I decided to take a short getaway down to the beach. I had nothing in mind except to relax by the ocean, take in the
sea air, read a good book...you know...just get away from the noise and re-set.
The first night after a lovely day I had dinner at the cozy bar on the beach. The hotel was full with a convention going on...many languages were swirling around and I was curious. I asked the bartender and he said there was a sport convention convening there right before the Olympics and many nations had sent representatives there. Oh wow! How fun!
I gathered up my book that I still had with me and decided to call it a night. The drive was 5 hours long that day and I was ready for bed. Right as I turned around to leave a man came up to me and asked if he could buy me a drink. The words no thank you were about to come out but I looked up into his eyes and I thought I just might fall. I felt like all the blood drained out of my body but managed to squeak out .... sure that sounds great!
Let's just say at that moment I knew something extraordinary was happening here. And surely it did in the days that followed. After trying unsuccessfully to guess where his accent was from I was informed it was Icelandic and low and behold back in 1996 I really had no knowledge of anything Iceland except that it floated up there by itself in the North Atlantic. Today of course, it is the "in" place to go...but not then.
In the days that followed I thought...I'm just going to have fun. I have no illusions that this newly born relationship will advance any further than four days in lovely Hilton Head, SC. For the first time in my life I allowed myself not to think of the future and what could become of this. No sense in that so I let myself just be me. And he really, really liked that. I didn't plan ahead interesting things to say or clothes to wear or sites to visit. It was simply just me. Best four days of my life!
26 years later we are still in love. We've called, skyped, and visited many times...in Iceland, England and here. Our "in the moment" relationship continues. And in between he is in Iceland and I'm here. Love doesn't look the same for everyone. Ours certainly is quite different from most. It was love at first sight and without any expectations then or now it remains love each day.
What a beautiful story, Barbara, and a perfect example of what Graham is talking about. I can learn from you both. My usual behavior is to plan, analyze and re analyze a situation. There's alot to gain from spontaneity and a spirit of adventure & fun. I think I need to be more open to that in my life. Thanks, Graham, for the poem & video, and thank you, Barbara, for sharing your story.
Mary, I have loved ones who are very much planners as you are and I admire them in many ways. I'm not willy nilly but I was never hesitant to go on vacation by myself or start talking to total strangers. I visited a lady who lived in Denmark after having spent the day on a bus to Key West with her. She then visited me in NC. My friend who was with me just laughed! Now that I'm older I'm a tad bit more cautious but that is probably mostly due to physical limitations. I will tell you though Mary, the most special moments of my life were totally unplanned. God knows our sweet spot and if we open our hearts up he will let it happen! Many blessings to you Mary and thanks for your kind words.
I loved your story Barbara. Like I’ve heard many times, never say never. You just have to let what will happen do so while fully loving yourself. Btw I was in Iceland 3 years again and just fell in love with the country. Unfortunately I did not meet my love at first sight but in every other possible way it was a thoroughly wonderful experience.
Sherry you are so right. Never say never - when you least expect it your life can take a turn...good or bad. But if we let ourselves be open to love it will find it's way in.
Great to hear about your trip to Iceland!! So much to see that seems otherworldly and the people are amazing. I became close friends with several Icelanders on my visits over the years. I appreciate their respect for the environment. their zest for life and general work hard, play hard outlook. Were you able to see the northern lights?
Unfortunately I did not see the Northern Lights. I had been in Alaska also trying to see them at Denali but again they did not comply with the energy I put out into the universe! Perhaps I will see them one day. I have definitely seen many photos taken by friends who saw them but the personal experience has alluded me thus far.
In my written comment about this week’s poem I talked about just what we are touching on here. The openness I have experienced has not been about meeting that special person (though that would be a dream come true) but rather about being open to seeing the magic of my own truth in gratitude and love. This journey has filled me with such joy and encouraged me to look inward in ways I’ve never dreamed existed. Along the way it’s been disruptive discarding the old “monkey brain” paths and seeing the path forward. Some sort of wonderful !
Opening up and being vulnerable will invite people into our lives. When we're positive and open our hearts we're giving folks a safe place to do the same. I wish you much love and blessings on your path Sherry. Looks like you've done the work needed to live your best life. So great!!❤🙏
I am definitely on the journey. I feel blessed. It was the plan. Too many “coincidences” which I do not believe in. Thank you Barbara and the very same prayer to you!🙏🏻💜
What a beautiful love story. ❤️ You are so blessed and you are correct, love doesn’t look the same for everyone. Thanks for sharing.
Thanks Leigh.
What an amazing story. I'm so happy for you. 💖
Thanks Christine!
Barb that is a terrific story! We were actually in HH summer of 1996 we owned a house in Palmetto Dunes on the ocean. What a lovely story!! Thx for sharing!
I was there in mid July of '96. At the Westin. There was a team handball international meeting there at the time right before Atlanta Olympics. I met so many people from many countries and even ended up at their banquet! I love HH. And of course the Westin holds a place in my heart. Maybe you saw me floating on air around the Island!
Barb maybe we had breakfast at the next table! I was with two very active boys 7 and 12 and I trust they would have left a long lasting impression!
What a beautiful story ❤️
Thank you Irene.
That is a beautiful story and Hilton Head Island........
Yes Laura, the romantic Hilton Head Island certainly played a beautiful part!
We love to take our camper to Hilton Head. Are you from there?
Coast of the Carolina's is beautiful. Peaceful
It really is!
No. I lived for 30 years in NC. Went there occasionally for little getaways. How about you?
I live in North Carolina just outside of Charlotte.
Wow, Laura - I also live outside of Charlotte. Nice to know that! Hilton Head, SC is beautiful also. The Outerbanks of NC are nice!
Great story Barbara!!!!!
Thank you Kathleen. So also is yours my friend!
Love your story Barbara, amazing ❤
Thank you Dawn❤
That is so beautiful. I absolutely loved it.
You're very kind Donna. Thanks.
What a great story. Love it!
Thank you Wendy!
Such a great story, everyone has different relationships and this works for you💓
Thanks Teresa, so true. And I had a "traditional" relationship prior with marriage, children, house, etc...and when that failed to fulfill us we ended it. Believe me though, my family and friends would love for my current relationship to be more traditional. But through the years they stopped asking when will you move to Iceland or him to the states. We both have families and friends in our own homeland and love our lives as is.
Love, love, love your story!!
Thanks Jody!
Wonderful story!
Thank you Anne.
Barbara, you have an incredible and beautiful story….you have designed your own happiness and fun that works for you both…at the end of the day that is all that matters. How very special….
Awww Cindy. That's so kind of you to say. I appreciate it.
Wonderful story Barbara!
Thanks Marsha!
I love this poem. It brought tears for me. My father knew he was dying and some of his last words to me where “I am sorry you couldn’t have children, but I want you and Gary to take your inheritance and have fun the rest of your life.” My husband and I laugh and do something fun every day. We take care of my mother-in law who has Alzheimer’s. She is 86 and lives alone in her house next to ours. She is a lot of fun and makes us laugh. We harvest crops together, work in our garden, walk at least 3 miles a day, go fishing in Alaska, walk dogs, my husband must play golf every week, I take horseback riding lessons, yoga, meditation, and we love to travel in our camper. I am retiring in a few weeks, and we plan to take fun to the next level! I am somewhat of a dare devil and will try almost anything that interest me at least once. For you Graham, I hope you find true love, fun and happiness. You are very deserving.
Good on you Laura. I am so sorry about your dad. I can relate. My dad passed in 2019 & he too wanted me to use the money he left me to enjoy my life. I am on my own & have planned several trips to get out & enjoy life & do things that make me happy & bring me joy. Some are a challenge, but I am gaining the courage to take them on.
This is a great story and so touching. Thanks for sharing!
Fun for me are the simple things in life, like spending my time with my husband going for a walk together at the beach which is our happy place.
Nothing better than looking at a sunset .
Graham I’m so happy you are finding the fun in life .Also I would like to add that I thoroughly enjoy reading your poetry and listening to the explanation , I find the poems very inspiring and look forward to them every week! 🙏❤️😉
You are such a lovely person Irene. I'm so happy you have a husband you can enjoy your life with. I totally agree about the poem & the poetry. I am also glad Graham is finding the fun in life.
I thought my life was fun. I loved my husband and we seemed to enjoy doing a lot of the same things. I loved spending time with my children. I (mostly) enjoyed my work. Then, two years ago my husband died. After the initial grieving period and making sure my kids were ok, I sort of closed myself off from the rest of my family and my friends. It was easier to just be miserable and feel sorry for myself. Last year I realized it was time to move forward. But how? I needed to figure out what I really enjoyed doing versus just following along. So, as you said Graham, I decided to surrender and have fun.
I always wanted to play the piano so I started taking lessons. I started practicing yoga and breathwork. And even with all the covid restrictions, I’ve traveled alone quite a bit the last two years. I spent a month on Cape Cod, a month on Vancouver Island and I just returned from a horseback riding trip to Scottsdale, among others. I thoroughly enjoyed myself and hopefully I can find someone to share time with. But I now know that whatever my future brings, it will be spent outdoors and even if alone, I’ll be ok.
Sorry for your loss. Glad you are moving forward and hope you find love again.
Sorry for your loss Carol. Good on you for picking yourself up & enjoying life. It sounds like you're having a wonderful time. I hope a new love comes your way. ❤️
Wonderful to take up a new interest! 🎹
So happy for you that you're finding fun in your life these days. You deserve it. I, personally, am working on letting go of my pattern of planning everything and wanting to see what's coming next - more spontaneity and embracing the fun as it comes. I want to jump on opportunities to be more adventurous, try new things, go new places and not miss out on fun when it shows up. All the best to you, Graham - may the fun continue!
You seem to be taking up the challenges that come your way, Cathey. You are doing a great job with your blog & enjoying time with family & friends. You took a big step & are succeeding. 💖
I don't know about all that. I finally just realized there was more from life that I wanted to be a part of and that it wasn't too late to make changes. Now my life is definitely a lot more fun! Thanks always for all your encouragement, Christine! 💕
You're welcome ❤️
It's true. We have to enjoy life.
Graham there is a time and place for everything… until you are unshackled from your past you are doomed to repeat it! Once you have freed yourself of those mental and physical burdens and are now true and honest with yourself…you are able to open your heart and let the light shine in. You have had great mentors, great inspirations and things in your past that have allowed you to move forward and learn from those experiences… good and bad. I do not know anyone more in tune with their truths, their shortcomings, their insecurities and their heart and soul and this will continue to provide happiness and control of your destiny and will allow you not to allow anyone to control any aspect of your life ever again! We are all proud of your accomplishments!
I’m so happy for you graham you can see and hear the exicitment in your voice and your smile lights up. You have such an open heart 💓 this was a special moment and poem thank you for sharing your personnel side with all of us. I hope your butterflies keep fluttering 🦋. Your new found fun has just begun 👏💞
Well said👍
My husband and I have joined a FIT class. The women that helps us really works us out. It funny because I really didn’t think I would enjoy myself. I knew I needed to get into shape. I’m not one to workout with any one because I’m not thin and not real heavy. I remember like the third time we worked out my husband and I could not walk for three days. We were so sore. We kept asking each other how we felt each day. I would be at work and couldn’t even walk up or downstairs. I couldn’t help but laugh at myself. I was enjoying the fun my husband and I were having. The best part about it is we are starting to connect and that hasn’t happened in a long time. Thank you Graham for the poem. I want to say congratulations and I hope you and that special someone works out all the best to you both😊
Good on you Shari. Glad you can have some fun & joke about it. So happy for you. 😊
Thanks Christine I enjoy working out special when you have a tough day at work. We also make fun of each other if one Slacks off. Which is usually me LOL😂
On another Journey to find the Pot of Gold
This time Graham Wardle – the Driver
Went through Heartland
Stopped by Mathamagical and Time Has Come
Met Amber Marshall, Lynette Elinda, Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor
Listened to Donny Mac
Meditated with Dr. Joe Dispenza
Getting closer to just
Finding the Fun again
I love what your coach said FUN equals fully utilizing the now! It is so important especially in this world for us to be trying to stay present. I have discovered little ways of having fun for example driving home from work and blasting some country music and singing it at the top of my lungs. Thank goodness no one else can hear me! Walking my dog at a park and just watching her little backside swish back-and-forth just makes me giggle, looking up at the clouds and picking out different formations. Those are all ways that I’ve discovered recently just to embrace the present. Relationships can be very tough. Through a lot of pain in the last couple of years in particular for me, I have had to lean on the simplest things in life to be fun! I’ve realized that some of the most fun can be when we embrace ourselves and love ourselves! Then we can embrace the idea of connecting with others and having fun! Blessings!! 🤗😊
Good on you Tricia. We all need to find fun in the simple things in life.
Graham, For me, I am getting so many prompts about finding fun. The universe certainly is repeatedly asking me that. It is easy to focus on my needs and get pulled down, there is that “stuck” again. Finding laughter again, light heartedness, positivity, kindness feels so good. Like a newborn learning to giggle, startled and wondering what that burst of energy is??? Learning to laugh again, letting go, gifting myself joy. I feel joy and excitement in your words, another gentle message that it is okay to seek, it’s okay to have FUN. I’m learning how to balance my intuition and empathy and finding the balance so that it does not at times suck the energy out of me. There is a young soul/spirit in this aging body. When, I wonder, did I think there was a age limit on fun and joy? Love you dear one, for speaking into me! I got it! Cheers!
Love your comment. I am trying to be more open & let the fun in.
Graham so glad you are finding THE FUN in life...We all need to remember to play every once in a while, as everyday life can be very trying......I think I am going to start a FUN LIST in my gratitude journal .......ALWAYS REMEMBER LAUGHTER IS THE BEST MEDICINE .......still working on that riddle!!!!!
I love my Time Has Come Journals. I have 3. One for prayers and gratitude, one for positive thoughts and one for my horseback riding classes. I love writing in them and even decorate the pages. Journaling has really helped me. A Fun List is a great idea. I have Graham to thank for my Journaling.
Graham is very inspiring. I love his poems though it takes me a few times in reading them. I never read poetry before till Graham started his Time has come. It takes me awhile to understand what he is saying. I believe I will do the journal’s maybe it will help me with somethings I’m dealing with. Thank you and to Graham for giving me your idea.
Writing in a Journal has really helped me. I do it almost every day.
I love that you have a gratitude journal. That’s a great idea I think I just might do the same. I to am still working on that riddle. I’ve read it like 5to 6 times and still can’t figure the darn thing out. Oh well hopefully Graham can help😊
Firstly, Graham, I hope that all goes well with your potential relationship.
Secondly, after a recent car accident (where I flipped my car), I have been having a few issues about letting go. With plans to drive to meet my friends (tomorrow) about an hour away, I was struggling with whether to go or not. One of my friends offered to drive, but my anxiety of not having control reared it's head. What if I needed to leave early? What if I wanted to go home? What if? What if? But, I've thought about it for several days & decided that I have to do this. I need to have some fun. I need to heal. I can't let fear control me & miss out on celebrating my friend's & my own birthday with my mates. It's a battle for sure, but one I have to conquer.
Christine you have to let go of fear. Go out and have Fun don’t think of anything. Enjoy your life!! 😘
I'm trying Irene. I know I need to let go of the past, let go of the fear. 🙏🙏💖💖
Have fun and enjoy your birthday! You deserve it! Have a safe and wonderful trip!
Thank you so much Anne. I really appreciate it. 🙏💖
So sorry to hear about your car accident. Wishing you peace with your decision Christine. Take care and yes! Have fun.
Thanks Barbara💖. Getting there.
Graham finding fun for myself is just like you said being present in the moment listening to people being present to your surroundings and who ever your with finding the humor in life I’m a very social person so being with someone that doesn’t take life so seriously and laughing and talking and just being present with that person letting go of trying to solve the worlds problems and being so serious .. a light and positive spirit enjoying the beauty in what life has to offer you for me (fun) is finding the beauty in a simple walk or my favorite walking alone in a art museum or art fair walking thru a secret garden or sitting silently in a beautiful church and listening to beautiful music… fun to me is listening to my innocent grandchildren talking or playing there innocence and joy they truly do live in the moment .. I’ve learned to find fun and enjoyment on my own I don’t think you can always depend on others to give it to you .. your realty is what you make it so to speak … and Graham I’m so happy for you with your new relationship remember make sure to make each other laugh and not take things so seriously and be kind to each other love and blessings ❤️🙏
Graham - Finding Fun is letting go and surrendering to the moment(s) that are given to each of us in our lives. For me, that is the spiritual gifts of giving, loving, and offering mercy/encouragement to others. That's what brings me such happiness. Just letting a person that you care, they're loved, and appreciated, brings so much joy to me. And to see the smile that lights up on their face is so wonderful and humbling. I am truly blessed. It takes total surrender through faith, trust, letting go, and saying yes so we don't miss the opportunities we are granted. Be in the moment! Don't dwell on the past, let it go, have faith, surrender, and trust so we can make this world a much better place. Also, I find the fun of being with my friends. We always seem to laugh and have so much fun. The small moments in life are simply wonderful and amazing. Again, thank you for this beautiful poem and all that you give to others to brighten our days! Love seeing you so happy in the video. That smile made by day! Blessings to all!
This morning I received word that my Aunt passed away. She was like a mother to me. I'm smiling right now remembering all the times visiting with her and my cousins playing games, swimming in the creek, etc. Those were Fun Times. Our families were very close. Surrendering is recognizing the moment when one needs to be uplifted and be there to just listen and tell that person you love them, care about them, praying for them, etc. That moment for me was a few minutes ago when I felt that warm tug on my heart and called my cousin. Even though it is a sad time, it was also a blessing to me to listen to that inner voice and just reach out to my cousin. When we get our eyes off of ourselves and totally surrender through Faith, amazing things happen. Even though I'm a little sad right now, I'm also smiling as I right this as I'm humbled and blessed at the way God works. Thanks for letting me share this.
I am so sorry Anne. Sending you prayers. ♥
Thank you!
I am sorry for your loss. Prayers.
Thank you for the kind words.
I am so sorry for your loss!!! My prayers are with you and your family!!!🙏🙏
Thank you. I appreciate the prayers. We're all doing well!
I'm so sorry for you loss🙏. You have a great attitude that will help you through this time in your life. Take care. 🙏💖
God is my refuge and Jesus is my Lord and Savior! That is what gets me through this and life is what we choose to make it. I've learned it the hard way, but you know, I just surrender to my faith, let go, and let God lead the way. I try to have fun while doing it. I act like a kid most of the time, just laughing and having fun with my friends. Take care Christine!
Great advice Anne. Love your comment 💖
Thanks Christine!
I look forward on Tuesday , I find joy reading your poem each week and it bring out the best in me. I am so happy knowing that you have found someone. It brings me joy that now you have someone to spend time with and have fun. You deserve to be happy.
Finding my fun began at my age of 8 years old year 1968. A have a childhood pen pal that lives half around the world and in 1977 we finally meet in person.He ask my dad permission to marry me and was shock of what my dads answer. My dad told him if I given you permission to marry my daughter you have to know she is not returnable ? I want you to think this through if she’s the right person you want to spent the rest of your life with. A few days past and he said to my dad his ready for a commitment he said to my dad I promised to take care of her til death do us part. Here we are we will be married 43 years this coming October. He is been my rock this past 7 years as my care taker also takes all of my frustrations. Life is what you make it … It’s a very long story to write I maybe write it one day. Cheers!
What a wonderful story Lucy. I can so relate with your story as I also have been in love with my husband since the age of 13 years old. Maybe one day I will share it with everyone,but I’m not a writer like everyone else here . I’m not very good at expressing my feelings and writing them down like everyone. I feel that this has become the corner for all the talented writers. I always look forward every week not only to read Grahams poem but to also read all the inspiring stories that everyone has ! 🙏💜
I know and I am still hesitant to share but I am making it with pride lol
Lucy and Irene: these stories both highlight what Graham is saying in this poem! Serendipity comes in many forms and feelings but if we don’t recognize it, act on it we deny ourselves the opportunity to seek fun, to get the most out of life. As the saying goes “ it isn’t an I’ll wind that does blow some good”. Reach out seize the experience and then absorb what comes your way. You can always change course, switch gears or just lay back close your eyes and enjoy!!